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Stop Saying, 'You're So Smart!' 3 Better Ways to Praise Kids

Renee Jain | Posted 07.06.2014 | Parents
Renee Jain

Here's the thing: Kids develop immunity to praise. They require higher and higher doses of it to be satiated. And as soon as parents and teachers remove the dangling carrot, children can lose interest in their activity.

Appreciation: One Small Action with a Big Effect

Birute Regine | Posted 05.04.2014 | Business
Birute Regine

Expressing appreciation is one small change that each one of us can make. One small change that can make a big difference in the workplace.

Hate Receiving Compliments? You Might Have low Self-Esteem

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 04.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

I consider low self-esteem to represent a form of psychological injury, one that impacts us "systemically" and operates in a variety of contexts.

Good-Mouthing

Bruce Weinstein | Posted 03.11.2014 | Business
Bruce Weinstein

Bad-mouthing -- who needs it? It's rude at best and unethical at worst. There is a concept that gets much less attention, but is sorely needed today: good-mouthing. I didn't invent the term, but I'd like to popularize it, so I can think of no better place to start than right here. With you.

Are We Parenting for the Short Term?

Mickey Goodman | Posted 02.08.2014 | Education
Mickey Goodman

Instead of rushing to their rescue, laugh together as you share stories of your fumbles in life. Teach your kids that failure is a chance to try again.

Don't Tell Your Children They're Competent

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 02.01.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

When parents try to convince their children of how competent they are, they often have the exact opposite effect. There is this little thing called reality that children have to confront on a daily basis; life has a way of sending messages about competence that can be in sharp contrast to the outsized messages of competence that parents send their children.

When Praise Hurts: The Psychology of Gushing

Wray Herbert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

We all want kids to feel good about themselves, and far too many kids get no praise at all from adults. But are the superlatives necessary? More to the point, does lavish praise really boost kids' self-esteem and help them do well in school -- and in life?

How to Feel Real

Denise Cummins, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Denise Cummins, Ph.D.

Accept that everyone everywhere -- no matter how successful -- experiences the self-doubt that underlies imposter syndrome. It is part and parcel of becoming accomplished and successful. There is nothing unusual or wrong about feeling these things.

The Dangers Of Over-Celebrating Our Children

Kyle Redford | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Kyle Redford

Children need to slow down, struggle and problem-solve in order to learn all the elements that go into worthy efforts. They also need to appreciate where their efforts begin and end so that they can take appropriate responsibility when their efforts succeed or fail.

Are Our Children Overpraised?

Kenneth Barish, Ph.D. | Posted 08.24.2013 | Parents
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.

Children need praise. We all do. From early in life, children look to us for praise and approval, and to share moments of pride.

What if Frank Bruni Has a Point?

Stacey Gill | Posted 06.09.2013 | Parents
Stacey Gill

All parents, understandably, love and hope to be loved by their children. But that shouldn't be the goal to the exclusion of all others. And Bruni isn't far from the mark when he claims parents often half-expect children to be able to raise themselves without any set rules or boundaries.

The One Thing You Can Do To Make Your Adult Kids Happy

Donne Davis | Posted 06.06.2013 | Fifty
Donne Davis

We would all do well to remember Mother Teresa's wise words: "There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread."

In Defense of Parents: A Child Therapist's Dissent

Kenneth Barish, Ph.D. | Posted 05.20.2013 | Parents
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.

Here are the essential elements of a balanced, supportive approach to raising successful and caring children. It is not either/or. We can encourage our children's self-expression and also teach them self-restraint.

How to Praise Your Kids and Teens

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 05.14.2013 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Kids should be praised primarily for their efforts, rather than for their personal characteristics, because if they are praised for effort, then a poor performance is more likely to be seen as a glitch, rather than a valid reflection of who they are as individuals.

We Validate Our Parking, Why Not Each Other?

Ilana Ross | Posted 05.01.2013 | College
Ilana Ross

Like my haircuts, my birthdays never turn out just the way I want. Somebody important forgets to call and then I realize this is just a day like any other day in history. The next thing I know I'm two skim lattes into a blog post about my irrelevance in the world.

Negative Feedback: Confidence Crusher Or Motivating?

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. | Posted 04.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.

According to recent studies, you shouldn't worry so much when it comes to pointing out mistakes to someone who is experienced. Negative feedback won't crush their confidence, but it just might give them the information they need to take their performance to the next level.

On Praise and 'Bribes': What the New York Times Got Right (and What It Didn't)

Emma Jenner | Posted 03.30.2013 | Parents
Emma Jenner

Children need challenges and increased expectations as they age, but change can be scary, and offering rewards -- coupled with choice and a sense of autonomy -- helps make their introduction smoother.

Our Favorite Spiritual Songs - What Is Yours?

Posted 12.06.2012 | Religion

Music has been called the language of the soul and the sacred can be heard in songs across religious traditions. Every person has a favorite spiritual...

What's the Difference Between Praise and Blame?

Doug Binzak | Posted 02.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

Situations of being blamed or hearing negative things about oneself are obviously challenging to the ego. And in waking up that beast, they present more subtle challenges to the development of our ultimate human potential.

Sparkplug Scutaro: The Velcro Effect of Insults and Praise

Kare Anderson | Posted 12.25.2012 | Business
Kare Anderson

Praise individuals for praising others. This is a vivid, credible and becoming approach to bringing out the best in all of us. Heck, even waiters who compliment customers get three percent bigger tips, on average.

Two Secrets to Being Perceived As Helpful Rather Than Critical

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 11.11.2012 | Small Business
Lisa Earle McLeod

When you offer suggestions in the wrong way, people won't perceive you as helpful. They'll just perceive you as critical.

Salute a Teenager

Maureen Anderson | Posted 10.22.2012 | Parents
Maureen Anderson

Some people can't wait to pass along the latest bad news. I feel guilty if I hear -- or notice -- good news and don't pass that along.

Acknowledge the People in Your Life... and Watch Relationships Transform

Karen Kimsey-House | Posted 10.08.2012 | Fifty
Karen Kimsey-House

There's an epidemic lurking throughout society that's debilitating many people and I'm not talking about Vitamin D deficiency: We've forgotten to let others know when we really get them

7 Tips For Giving Praise

Gretchen Rubin | Posted 07.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Gretchen Rubin

Oh, I'm a gold star junkie. I always want to see those gold stars stuck to the top of my homework. I crave praise, appreciation, recognition. But it's not always easy to dole out those gold stars in an effective way. Here are seven tips.

Beauty and Luck

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar | Posted 04.14.2012 | Healthy Living
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

When you rejoice in beauty, the entire creation rejoices with you. The very purpose of such variety in this creation is to bring you back to your Self, to come to know that you are beautiful. And in that bliss, all that you need, all that you would want will simply keep happening.