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10 Signs He's Cheating

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 04.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Past behavior is often an indicator of current or future behavior, even in relationships. If he's done it before it only makes it easier to do it again.

Missing in Action: Mental Health Community Fails Fraud Victims

Bradley Foster | Posted 04.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Bradley Foster

Major fraud cases grab the headlines for a few days or weeks, then forgotten until the next one comes along. We never have to wait long. Media typical...

No Longer Selling My Soul for Love

Edie Weinstein | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Edie Weinstein

I believed that unless I had an open-door policy, eventually no one would come knocking and I would be rendered lonely and isolated. I can laugh at that now, but back then, my "savior behavior" that had me believing that I needed to be spontaneously available to provide whatever was asked of me, as an insurance policy against abandonment.

6 Ways to Defeat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 04.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

As with other mood disorders surrounding yourself with understanding, supportive, and encouraging people can help lift your spirits. Find people whom you trust and lean on them for support and plan such activities as movies and dinners.

All Alone? Fearlessly Conquer Valentine's Day Blues

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 04.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

"I feel so sad being alone on Valentine's Day." "Will I be alone forever?" "I hate being single." I hear this so very often leading up to Valentine...

Demystifying Therapy: How to Get the Most Out of Your First Therapy Session

Daniela Tempesta, LCSW | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Daniela Tempesta, LCSW

Preparing for your first session with a new therapist can be a bit nerve wracking. Sharing your pain and vulnerabilities with a perfect stranger can feel foreign and even daunting. If you notice yourself feeling nervous, don't worry, it is totally normal.

GAY BOOK REVIEW: Bad Therapist by Will Meyerhofer

Christopher Murray | Posted 03.31.2014 | Gay Voices
Christopher Murray

The sincere, comedic and provocative new novel, Bad Therapist utilizes a Swiftian science fiction conceit as a pretext for a thoughtful meditation on love, shifting cultural mores concerning gender and sexuality and psychotherapy itself.

'Help! He's More Into Sports Than He's Into Me'

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 03.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Differences in hobbies/interests can wreak havoc on a relationship. In fact, it is one of the top 10 reasons couples see me for counseling. So often I hear complaints such as: "He's more into his sports than he's into me" or "I'm tired of competing with his sports watching." The good news: it's fixable.

Bedtime Wind-Down: 10 Tips for Better Zzzs

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 03.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Rather than convincing yourself that you're a bad sleeper, take a look and implement some of these suggestions.

Raging About Road Rage?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 03.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Road rage continues to be a huge problem, as streets and highways are often where people's emotions, dramas, stress, and anxieties play out. I've tre...

5 Tips For Finding The Right Therapist For You

Daniela Tempesta, LCSW | Posted 03.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Daniela Tempesta, LCSW

After more than 15 years of seeing a variety of therapists myself, I've had my share of bad experiences. I've also had amazing, life-altering, not-sure-what-I-would've-done-without-'em therapists. So even if it sounds like you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your "theraprince," the result is definitely worth it.

Can Self-Loving End Your Love Life?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 02.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Believe it or not, I've been asked many times if self-loving is cheating and about its potential negative impact on relationships and each time I thin...

Dealing With the December Dilemma

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 02.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Christmas and Kwanzaa are just days away, Hanukkah has just ended, and as always, for many people the issue of interfaith relationships still poses a ...

7 Ways to Ruin Everyone's Thanksgiving -- Including Your Own

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

It's that time of the year again. The time when family dramas and conflicts that have been kept at bay will resurface and issues get stirred up. The time when we have to see people that we wouldn't choose to see the other 364 days of the year.

Found Your Soul Mate? 7 Reasons You Should Wait to Tie the Knot

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Weddings
Jonathan Alpert

As a couples' therapist, I've come to realize that people rush to marriage and sometimes get married for all the wrong reasons or they do it way too early. Couples sometimes feel they have to get married because it fits a paradigm of how they see their life.

Fearless Self Image: How You Dress Matters

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 12.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

So many of my clients are influenced by how they look and how they feel. If someone feels depressed and lacks confidence, this is reflected in what they wear, and conversely, if someone has a positive attitude and is confident, that will show in their attire.

How We Can Heal the World

Sandra Ingerman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Sandra Ingerman

All life is connected to what is called a web of life. In our modern day world, we have disconnected ourselves from nature, and this is causing illness on physical and emotional levels as well as impacting the health of the planet itself.

The Difference Between Good and Great: My Tips for Being Exceptional

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Defy the norm, be curious and don't accept the status quo. If you're striving for better than what exists, then think and dream big.

Are You Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 12.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Finding the courage to face the short-term stress of change removes you from having to endure the long-term misery of staying stuck. In other words: short-term stress is better than long-term misery.

Be Fearless: Conquer Your Fear of Flying

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

I recently had the opportunity to speak with Captain Tom Bunn, one of the world's foremost experts on fear of flying. What's unique about Captain Bunn is he isn't just an airline captain, but also a licensed psychotherapist and former Air Force jet fighter.

How Do You Know If Your Therapist Is Helping You?

Michael Bader, D.M.H. | Posted 11.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael Bader, D.M.H.

It's not always clear to patients what to ask a potential psychotherapist and how to know if he or she is any good. It's also hard to know if it's working. Most people find it easier to assess the skill of a medical practitioner.

What I Learned About Dating From Mom and Dad

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

People should forget the fact that their friends are either married or engaged. They aren't part of their relationship. Nor is there a life script that says you need to adhere to societal norms or rush to get married just because others have done so.

Kicking Sidewalk Rage to the Curb

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Fact is, the pedestrian pace in big cities is slow by virtue of the density of people, so unless there's a mass exodus or you're moving to farm country that won't change.

Stop Being a People Pleaser!

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

People pleasers are willing to do anything for the company, anything to make someone happy, and anything to help anyone in need. But people like this should not be exploited. And while kindness is a fine quality, it should not come at the expense of one's needs and personal happiness.

Be Fearless: Make the Impossible Possible

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 10.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Your beliefs are powerful. If you believe something is impossible, that belief will erode your confidence and turn that impossible belief into a self-fulfilling prophecy.