It turns out my mom likes my girlfriend and my kids are fine and the neighbors don't care what I do as long as I trim my forsythia and shovel the snow. And it's great to be given a platform to bust some of these harmful myths about polyamory and show off the good thing I have going.
"There was a time when clubs were so central to my life and I cherish the camaraderie that I found there, even if I always knew that it was escapist at best. Sometimes you get caught in that place, though, even if you know better: What are the options, really?"
In debating what justice and equality for LGBTQ communities looks like, how historic this moment is, and what other historic accomplishments are yet to be had, it's important for us to consciously support all types of relationships (married or not) and all forms of justice.
For some, the threat of violence is too real, and the simple act of holding hands or kissing on a street corner would be unwise and unsafe. But for the rest of us, we have the capability to shift the tides by making ourselves visible.
There is much to be gained by sharing loss, and much that is lost by shielding ourselves with gains. When our losses are recognized we can face our own wounds in the looking glass, and become empowered to move through to the other side.
I am angry at the people who use the abusers to blame and scapegoat queer people. I am angry at all of the people who think that queer people are sexual deviants, sinners, or predators. I am angry that as a queer priest I will always been seen as a double threat.
The proposition of "gender and sexual diversities" is an important opening into the conversation of expanding how we linguistically understand our movement, our experiences and ourselves. However, I think we need to move beyond narrow signifiers, particularly acronyms like "LGBT."
Lower Polk Neighbors (LPN) is a central San Francisco neighborhood association. For years the organization has been openly trying to erase the history of Polk Street as a sanctuary for lower-income gay and transgender people.
What words bubbled to the surface of our consciousness or exploded out of nowhere? Which lexemes took on special significance as they became associated with a meaningful moment or a surprising announcement? Here's my month-by-month list of LGBTQ words of 2012.
It used to be that we, as a public, could hold networks accountable and responsible for the ways in which they represent minority characters. But can we still do that? Are writers of our current television fare no longer held accountable for the characters they create?
One of the worst words used against gays used to be "queer." Its not-hidden message ranged from contempt to rejection. Sometimes it announced "enemy." So I find it refreshing to discover that it's now being used in an accepting, even healing way.