I know that the entire queer community is not on the same page on the issue of marriage, and I don't think we need to be, but I want to say why I haven't been jumping on the marriage bandwagon, and I want to really give context to my hesitation.

Much like the sit-ins that took place merely an hour away in the little big town of Greensboro, the queer community finds itself having a historic moment -- and we are very aware of this. The democrats are walking the proverbial plank.

America is changing because the world is changing. Keeping gays and lesbians from getting married won't stop that, but believing it will is the bill of goods the majority have been sold.

We can support our friends who want to get married while realizing that marriage doesn't speak to all of our experiences, reflecting on those whose systemic issues that marriage can't fix. What about the queer and trans youth whose problems a ring can't fix? We need to put a roof on it.