It took me years to realize how destructive the pursuit of perfection really is. Thinking you have to do things perfectly and/or be perfect is like carrying around a heavy weight on your back, and it absolutely crushes happiness.
Questions are important. Actually, that's not right Questions are VERY important When the great master Peter Drucker passed away, several gurus remembered their interactions and experiences with Drucker in various media outlets. I had an opportunity to read many of them.
A useful therapists' technique is "reframing." Just as you can change the look of a picture by changing the frame (Bigger? Smaller? Plainer? Move it over a bit?), you can change how you "see" a situation by framing it differently.
The latest addition to my bookshelves is an interesting one. Successful model, turned alcoholic, turned real estate superstar, turned women's life recovery and empowerment coach Mal Duane tells her story in Alpha Chick: Five Steps for Moving From Pain to Power.
The wording and tone of the question matters -- if you ask the wrong question you'll get the wrong solution, but so many of us spend a tiny fraction of our time framing the questions we're asking and even less time re-evaluating them over time.
Responsible citizens should not hesitate to approach this subject with ferocity. "Obligations" is actually a weak term, for the obligations of which we are speaking are part of the social contract around which millions of people have built their lives.
To establish male control in family life, both conservative Republicans and the Catholic Church propose taking a metaphor literally, that A Fertilized Egg Is A Person. Taking the metaphor literally allows for the claim that preventing abortions constitutes saving lives.
When I ask audiences what they like about being older, people often answer "Gratitude," and then say what they are grateful for: grandchildren, good health, free time, wearing what they want, the chance to travel, giving back to the community.
In the 20th century we saw examples of what happened when nations were stripped of their morale and lost their spirit. They fell into fascism or totalitarianism. We need job creation and morale building not deficit reduction.
Private security military contractors, or at least their leading advocates, are gaining in political authority, successfully framing themselves not only as legitimate security actors but also as legitimate standard setters.
"Constancy is the hobgoblin of little minds," says Ralph Waldo Emerson. Sometimes we are in need of the "refresh" button. The ability to morph and change our ideas is essential for personal and business growth.