In recent years, people have attempted to take responsibility for their personal development with performance tools and peer feedback systems. Some have been successful and made significant changes. Others, not so much.
I am going to advance 14 general claims that seem uncontroversial to me but have surprisingly powerful implications. My goal is not to resolve any issues of blame but to raise the level of discourse by warning of certain common errors.
The more I saw children glued to their devices, the more indignant I got. The thought of my intelligent, thoughtful daughter playing "Candy Crush" or group chatting at all hours made me physically ill.
Your kid has just completed a year of school, they are moving forward and that means they're feeling older and more mature. As parents, we have to remember to give them a little extra freedom (if they've earned it) so that they can have these special and unique experiences.
If there is anything we can learn from our revolutionary generation in these weeks leading up to the Fourth of July, it could be--it should be--to focus less on our personal freedom "wants" and invest more time in civic responsibility.
When I think about the many ways he's shaped my thoughts and choices since childhood, I recall stories and conversations. Here are three of the most memorable lessons that come to mind. They taught me what really matters in life, what matters to him, and how to weigh what's worthwhile.
We hear so much these day about banks and companies that have become so large they are unable to manage themselves -- that there are so many layers of bureaucracy that illegal and unethical behavior can go undetected for years.
Maya Angelou's passing reminded me of legacy. What we leave behind is of extraordinary importance and Angelou left an entire library of work, all a product of her soul. As I thought about it, it occurred to me that that is one of the things missing in today's dizzying world. Substance.
When we no longer hold our partner responsible for the fulfillment of our needs, everything changes. This is easier said than done, but it is perhaps the single most important thing we can do to insure that our relationship will be mutually satisfying.
Monday morning, like most mornings, complete chaos unfolded in our house as four people -- my two daughters, my husband and myself -- aimed to head out the door by 8 a.m., our daughters for school and my husband and I for our offices.
The only reason I actually studied and did my work in high school, I thought, was to get into a good college and to keep my parents out of my hair. But now that I am at good college, why am I still working hard?
Many people, myself included, have pursued happiness and pleasure in places where we know it will not be found. It is tempting to seek the comfort of material things, indulge yourself, pursue your appetites and the satisfactions of the flesh.
The fact that a fetus is inside of Jane does not mean that Jane is morally responsible for the fetus. If she has become pregnant through rape or contraception failure, she has made no promise to the fetus, and so abortion would not be promise-breaking. Abortion is not wrong in either case.