Everyday, we are bombarded with images that perpetually show black folks in a negative light, explicitly and implicitly. When black is shown positively, it is clear that it is the exception, not the rule.
As the language suggests, it is a "response ability" -- the ability to choose our response in every moment to all that is going on around us. A choosing that allows us to claim ownership of the circumstances of our lives, and thereby, to contribute to making them better.
Let me drop the mic on this situation right now: my daughter is more important than whatever is waiting on your work email, or however long the line at Starbucks will be in five more minutes, or the traffic you're going to have to sit in anyway.
Today celebrates United Nations Day -- a day to remember why the United Nations (UN) was created. It's a perfect day to challenge yourself to think outside your own cultural borders and expand your capacity to embrace diversity.
It can be difficult for parents to be sure of how to approach the subject of alcohol with their kids, especially if the topic was taboo in their own households growing up. For a healthy and realistic approach, read on for some practical parenting tips on broaching the subject of alcohol with kids.
In every family, there is one person who bubbles to the surface and becomes the family adult. Adults are the ones who bear the responsibility. It's being the person in the room -- or the family -- who wears the sign 'The buck stops here.'
There is never a dispute about the "what" and "who" of mass shootings. But mention the word "why" and the politicians, the pundits, the lobbyists, and even the parents, put up their deflectors and unleash the spin machines.
We have taken it upon ourselves to carry the encumbrance of all that should have been done. Even though these thoughts of conjecture bare no fact, they have somehow embedded themselves into the already troubled minds and hearts of the responders.
Perhaps, this is the biggest adjustment we must make: to stop pursuing control. To learn to trust and to enable our kids to navigate their way through life without the misconception that they can control it. Adaptability, not control, should be our aim.
Some people do change. Some people do break their bad habits and pick up better ones. However, this requires an action plan, and more -- it requires taking responsibility for implementing that plan, one step at a time.
In every culture there are rites of passage, markers that distinguish childhood from adulthood. But in America, our total focus at this stage and age is on rights. In fact, the first thing that pops into our minds when we think about turning "21" is drinking.
By the time your child is in school, I know you have heard the word "consistency" used in some kind of parenting advice. If you are consistent, kind and firm but clear, your child will be able to internalize good behavior.
Examine what holding patterns you may be settling for. Tell yourself the truth and examine the options. When two people are making skillful relationship choices, there is no limit to where things can go.
Your emotions are the product of the stories you are telling yourself about what the event or person or project really mean. And those stories are uniquely yours, and you are able to change them. What stories are you telling yourself, and do they move you forward, or create stress and anxiety?
Dirty Wars is a detective story that unfolds in countries we know in name only, places we hear about but will likely never visit, and from the people who populate these faraway lands from which we are so disconnected.
Every society values its own skill sets for its own reasons. The problem in America is that, while we excel at raising spectacularly verbal kids, we have lost sight of other values that we need to foster in our children.