No one can help you here, not even your mate. You must depend upon your own resource for, in reality, it is that resource that will bring you back to life. The essential self, given time, can reconnect and guide you back up out of the descent.
The running joke about New Year's resolutions is that they don't outlast the hangover. But if you're going to make a resolution to improve yourself, New Year's Eve is a good time to do it. Recent research helps explains why we pick this date for personal renovation.
At some point our family fell out of the usual Thanksgiving routine. We got tired of turkey. Stuffing. That danged green bean casserole and the "mystery Jello mold" desserts. In fact, the whole business of cooking the typical Thanksgiving meal got old.
Long after everyone has devoured their portion and is looking for another helping, I'm still methodically biting the top to separate the chocolate from the wafer. Then -- and only then -- will I eat it.
We cannot seem to turn off our pattern-seeking or cause-effect neurons. Sometimes the results are benign. Unfortunately, our incredible talent for seeking patterns and linking cause to effect has a dark side: We see patterns where none exist and cause where only chance reigns supreme.
Dreams are sacred texts from the soul. Our own original wisdom speaks in infinite forms, always encouraging us to return to who we are at the level of heart and soul, reconnecting with what heals and restores vitality, joy, and connection to all creation.