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Saying No

The Year of the No: One Woman's Journey to the Dark Side of Yes

Sue Fliess | Posted 09.11.2013 | Parents
Sue Fliess

In my quest to be Every Woman, I'd lost sight of the very people I was killing myself to do it all for. Somewhere along the way, I'd stopped noticing my 8-year-old's copious kisses before school and how my older boy has my dad's soulful eyes.

Kerry H. McManama: Success Is the Freedom to Say, 'No'

Kerry H. McManama | Posted 10.24.2013 | Women
Kerry H. McManama

I am not a wife. I am not a mother. I am not caring for ailing parents. I do not have an illness that requires special attention. Unlike many women in my age range and at my career level, my responsibilities are to me and me alone... and also to my life.

Balancing Act: Creating Harmony at Home and Work

Marcia Wieder | Posted 07.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Marcia Wieder

If you are courageous and selective about the things you commit to, I promise you that your life will get easier. You will be able to free yourself from undue stress and guilt if you can reduce the amount of things you agree to do.

When Being Nice Just Doesn't Cut It Anymore

Jennifer Rosen | Posted 07.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Rosen

How did I get to be such a doormat? When did I develop such a deep-rooted fear of offending others? What caused me to place other people's needs ahead of my own? What did I think would happen if (horror of horrors) I were to actually displease someone?

3 Ways To Stop The Nagging

LearnVest | Posted 07.08.2013 | Parents
LearnVest

Like water dripping from a leaky faucet, a kid's constant nagging can be annoying and almost impossible to ignore, but giving in can have real financial consequences.

The Key To Getting Exactly What You Want Out Of Life

Carre Otis | Posted 07.04.2013 | Healthy Living
Carre Otis

I've come to understand that language impacts thought, and vice versa. Without owning the word "no," and all the other language under what I like to think of as the "No Umbrella," I was denying myself the conviction and power that comes with it.

Say 'No' Without Feeling Bad About It

Alexandra Franzen | Posted 06.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Alexandra Franzen

We all know that we need to say "no" about 1,000 times more than we say "yes." But we don't. And we pay the price, with over-cluttered calendars, over-saturated psyches, chronically-elevated stress hormones, and tightly-clenched shoulders that never quite sink away from our earlobes.

'How Backbends Taught Me To Say Yes'

Leigh Weingus | Posted 06.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Leigh Weingus

A psychologist probably would have had no problem putting two and two together, but it took me a little longer to come to a conclusion on my own. A back bend is the physical manifestation of opening up, otherwise known as my least favorite activity.

Is it Bad Timing or Absent Butterflies?

Assya Moussaid | Posted 06.04.2013 | Women
Assya Moussaid

I truly believe that when a woman wants something to happen, no amount of stress or problems would stop her from taking the plunge.

Learning to Say, 'We Can't Afford That'

William B. Bradshaw | Posted 06.01.2013 | Politics
William B. Bradshaw

I am officially retired from having a regularly paid job and have been for a number of years. Like most retired people, I live on a fixed income: ret...

This Is The Most Powerful Word In The Dictionary

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

The ability to be assertive and say "no" is a communication skill we all learn at a very young age. If you're a parent, you know better than anyone that once this word enters a child's vocabulary it's used very often. However, as an adult, "no" is often much more difficult to say.

Just Say 'Non'

Pamela Druckerman | Posted 05.14.2013 | Parents
Pamela Druckerman

When it comes to parental authority, we Americans could take some more lessons from the French. They work hard at being "the one who decides," and believe that kids blossom best inside limits, and that it's reassuring to know that a grown-up is steering the ship.

The Word More Parents Need to Say

Kate Gale | Posted 04.29.2013 | Parents
Kate Gale

What's going on with American parenting that seems to have resulted in a whole generation of parents who have lost the reins?

The 7 Truths About Motherhood

Mia Redrick | Posted 04.20.2013 | Parents
Mia Redrick

The word that keeps me grounded as I raise my three children.

3 Causes of Burnout -- and How to Avoid Them

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 03.27.2013 | Women
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

By cultivating attitudes and practices that release self-induced pressure, you can have the work-life balance that you want. Even the smallest decisions can transform the way you work and live.

My Proudest Parenting Moment

Christie O. Tate | Posted 03.24.2013 | Parents
Christie O. Tate

My daughter knew something at age 3 that I didn't learn until my 20s.

The Word Kids Absolutely Need To Hear

LearnVest | Posted 03.18.2013 | Parents
LearnVest

"No." It's a little word with a lot of influence, especially for parents. Maybe it's because of what happens after we say the word "no" (you know, the screaming and tantrum-throwing) that we skirt around it, try to disguise it and sometimes just don't say it all.

Parents Taking Control

Michael M. Osit, Ed.D. | Posted 02.19.2013 | Parents
Michael M. Osit, Ed.D.

Kids have an inordinate amount of power and control in their families. Many parents seem unwilling to be the authority, take control and be firm with their kids. It's as if parents are afraid of "damaging" their kids or their relationship with them if they say, "no."

Why I Never Let My Kids Quit... Anything

Grown And Flown | Posted 01.20.2013 | Parents
Grown And Flown

Deciding when to let your child quit something, be it Gymboree, Little League or SAT prep, is a question that never goes away.

Being Too Nice Can Hurt: How To Start Standing Up For Yourself

Posted 11.17.2012 | Healthy Living

By Art Markman for YouBeauty When you look at the other people in your life, there are lots of ways that you are the same. You speak the same langu...

How To Master The Art Of Saying 'No'

Kathryn Lamble | Posted 01.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Kathryn Lamble

No! It's a pretty scary word, right? It certainly is for me. It's like a well-placed "boo!" bursting through the darkness from an unseen corner. In fact, I find "no" so scary that that I often have difficulty saying it, and that's just where my problem begins.

18 Things You Should Start Saying Yes To

The Huffington Post | Lori Fradkin | Posted 11.05.2012 | Women

N-o spells no. That's what your parents taught you when you were little, and you quickly learned to employ it whenever vegetables or a request to clea...

Are You Too Accommodating? When (And How) To Start Saying 'No'

Posted 10.31.2012 | Healthy Living

By Kate Lowenstein Picture yourself in the following situations: Your boss wants you to stay late on Friday -- your long-planned date night. ...

Nothing to Fear

Grown And Flown | Posted 12.23.2012 | Parents
Grown And Flown

The danger, the real danger, was never in food or movies or video games, and it was not in the people they would meet online.

How To Tell A Friend She's NOT Your Bridesmaid

Summer McLane | Posted 12.17.2012 | Weddings
Summer McLane

You know when you have a best friend but then you realize that they're YOUR best friend but you're not THEIR best friend? That happened to me a few years ago.