We all smooth over the truth and bend in our standards from time to time in order to reduce conflict and make relationships work. But when pleasing others becomes a habit you may find yourself resentful, which ultimately damages your relationships.
Many people are challenged in their ability to be honest when it comes to saying what they really think to others. They are conflicted between what they really think, and their desire to not risk disapproval.
I just blew my shot at "Mom of the Year." Again. Like a storm that I didn't even know was brewing inside of me escalated to flood stage when my daughter said casually, "Mama, I don't care for the blueberry pudding."
Until recently, "no" was a dirty word to me. As a stage-four people-pleaser, my vocabulary was rich with affirmatives: "sure," "okay," "absolutely," "no problem." But my mouth couldn't seem to form the word "no."
Part 14 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: I tell Billy not to contact me again. I feel relieved, elated, but then comes the crash. Later I would learn this is a sign of love addiction.