A few weeks ago I lost my 17-year-old chihuahua. Saddled with sadness, I lost all interest in sex -- a very bad thing when you make your living off selling it. Not only did I not want to have sex, but I didn't want to think about it, look at it, write about it, or even tweet about it.
Now that it's fall and we're clearing out our summer clothes for what feels good to wear in the new season, let's clear out our negative self-thoughts and only wear words that contribute to our self-esteem.
Resilience is a popular buzzword, but what really is resilience? Most people are able to define it as the ability to bounce back from adversity, but few realize that resilience is made up of a number of different skills and abilities.
When used properly, questions have the potential to connect us to the world of another. A heartfelt "How are you?" or "How was your day?" can become the bridge that keeps us in relationship to the lives of those we love.
We all want to change something. Most of us have tried and had either fleeting success or chalked up a failure. The way we think about change is the problem. In this arena (unlike most), we think too much. We usually think our way to keeping things exactly as they are.
Triggers can be an incredible ally. Triggers lead to what needs healing. Instead of being ashamed of being triggered, get excited because you have a clue for where to do your work! Triggers lead you on the path you need to go.
We either get pulled down by our resistances, into the safe comfort of what is known, or we make peace with the fact that we have resistances. We don't actually overcome them at this point, but we can make peace with them.
When we practice Radical Acceptance, we begin with the fears and wounds of our own life and
discover that our heart of compassion widens endlessly. In holding ourselves with compassion,
we become free to love this living world.
Do you ever feel like you're running around like a chicken with its head cut off? How can you integrate the various pieces of yourself together? Be inspired by my conversation with Cyndi Lee on "integrating your self."
The sunshine provided a brief reprieve during the daylight hours, in "aha, I can do this, just bask, forget my troubles" moments. The fact was, I was depressed as all hell and it seemed there was no way to shake it, despite the season.
The path to the inwardly enriched life is not hidden from the man or woman who longs to walk upon it. The path itself is not so much a series of steps, but rather a growing set of discoveries within those individuals who, as Christ said, "have eyes to see."
Through my life, the one strength that I could always rely on was my ability to bounce back. Not just a little bounce that you would see with a rubber ball, but a huge super-ball kind of bounce. For every adversity, I would become more and more resilient.
My goal for each patient is that they understand what triggers them to fall off the wagon and to be able to recognize the very moment a trigger occurs. Being conscious is the number one gift you can give yourself in the quest to make a new habit stick.
How many times a day do you apologize? Think about it. Not a major, "I messed up" kind of acknowledgement, more of a figure of speech, a rationalization, an excuse. If you're like me, it happens often.
As the years have passed I have begun to cherish facts. I can relate to facts and make decisions around them. I have released what could have been and concentrate on what is, noticing the things that are a match to my own dreams and wants.
I have a choice between the thoughts I keep and the ones I need to trash, depending on whether they come from a place of light or of darkness. To me, these thoughts of light are those that stem from a divine source, which thoughts of darkness don't have.