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How the Judge Wrecked My Perfect Divorce Day

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 10.23.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Greenberg

I was fine with the divorce but upset by what felt like a scolding from a judge. I've asked myself several times if perhaps she was simply acting like any other judge would in this situation. I don't know what the answer is.

Planning Pays Off

Fred Silberberg | Posted 10.21.2014 | Divorce
Fred Silberberg

While the concept of planning what happens upon a separation may seem cruel or too calculating to some, its' a fact of life that those who plan ahead for their long term goals are usually more likely to succeed at them than those who do not.

This Is Not Bad. This Is Not Good. This Is Change.

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 10.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Today, as I walked the midway with my family, I felt grateful for all that Tracie and I have experienced in our thirteen years, grateful that, despite the newness of our separation, we could come together as a family, in peace.

On Pride and Loneliness: Separation, Attachment and the Power to Be

Cosmin Gheorghe | Posted 10.14.2014 | Parents
Cosmin Gheorghe

Have you ever felt proud? Do you have a clear -- or any -- memory of what being proud feels like? What emotions do you experience when you feel proud?

Turn Your Divorce Breakdown Into Your Breakthrough

Honoree Corder | Posted 10.09.2014 | Divorce
Honoree Corder

While you may not realize it today, your divorce can actually be the beginning of an amazing new life for you. Not that I want to spoil the end for you, but everything is going to be okay. In fact, you're going to love your life after divorce!

Don't Just Stand There... Do Something! 6 Ways To Help A Friend Through Divorce

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 10.05.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

When someone loses a loved one, you offer your sympathies. When someone has a baby, you send a lovely gift. When someone is divorcing, you...? Hmm. Right. You know you should do or say something -- but you choose to keep your distance instead.

5 Ways to Behave Like a Grown-Up Through Your Midlife Divorce

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 09.22.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

Midlife divorce is skyrocketing. And the reasons for that are many. Chiefly, most of us are looking at longer lifespans than our ancestors and we're not willing to live out those lives in complacent misery.

Divorce!

Sheila Blagg | Posted 09.10.2014 | Divorce
Sheila Blagg

Divorce is a part of your life that just sucks, but allowing yourself to stay in that frame of mind for years not only takes away from you, but away from the life you want to begin building. Thus, allowing your past to have entirely too much power over your future.

Divorce Confidential: Potential Risks When Litigating Move-Aways in Divorce

Caroline Choi | Posted 09.03.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

For my last installment in this three-part move-away series, I am going to explore the potential risks that you may face when you decide to litigate a move-away motion in court.

Back To School Rules for Co-Parents

Risa Garon | Posted 09.03.2014 | Divorce
Risa Garon

Parents don't naturally know how to co-parent. When a separation in an adult relationship occurs, there are many emotions, stresses and time pressures that truly discourage constructive co-parenting.

Do's and Don'ts for Body and Mind Post-Divorce Makeovers

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 08.27.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Indulging in financial self-soothing following the stressful divorce process is the reward that many women seek in the days after that Final Judgment is received. Justified trips to Cancun, rationalized days at the spa, and country club memberships are the delicious luxuries we seek, when soothing our aching hearts.

Beginning or Ending? When Our Kids Go Off to College

Madeline Levine | Posted 08.25.2014 | Parents
Madeline Levine

Our college-bound kids know full well that they are leaving their childhood and embarking on the extraordinary journey of crafting their future adult selves.

You Can Speculate About Him or Her...

Tracy Crossley | Posted 10.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Tracy Crossley

Until the cows come home. Mind reading 101. It is a complete and total waste of time. Dealing with someone who doesn't speak of truth or whose acti...

'I'm Right! You're Wrong!' -- 'No, I'm Right! You're Wrong!'

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 10.07.2014 | Good News
Robert C. Jameson

I'm sure you have either been involved in this type of argument or have heard it going on out in the world. It just seems to be part of the human condition.

Seamless Transitions From Divorce to Dating

Sheila Blagg | Posted 09.30.2014 | Divorce
Sheila Blagg

If you've recently gone through a divorce and you're thinking about how to get back into the dating scene, you need to prepare yourself mentally. Before you plunge in head first looking for your next major relationship, do take some time for yourself.

Want Love After Divorce? The First Step Is to Forgive

Honoree Corder | Posted 09.14.2014 | Divorce
Honoree Corder

You can't fit new love into a heart that's already full of love... or something else, any more than you can fit a new wardrobe into an already over-flowing closet.

'Till Death Do Us Part'

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 09.05.2014 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Last week would have marked my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. Although my former husband and I have been parted now for many years, when the date rolled around and I did the math, I felt it as a momentous occasion.

10 Ways to Get and Keep a Man #SO #VERY #NON #PC

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 08.30.2014 | Women
Barbara Greenberg

It is hard but it is not an impossible task. There is somewhat of a formula here. It is not validated empirically but it is the formula that I have put together as I have observed many women on their relationship journey.

A Hole in My Heart

Michele Weiner-Davis | Posted 08.24.2014 | Divorce
Michele Weiner-Davis

I always knew that divorce ends marriages, but what I didn't know, was the way in which it would dissolve my family.

Abundance or Lack of Abundance Is a State of Mind

Karen Stewart | Posted 08.17.2014 | Divorce
Karen Stewart

The state of mind for those getting divorced is the predictor of how long, how stressful and how costly the transition will be. So for those at the doorsteps of divorce, consider your first step very carefully.

7 Surprising Ways He Begs You to Stay

Lindsey Ellison | Posted 08.17.2014 | Divorce
Lindsey Ellison

In my divorce coaching practice, my female clients are often shocked by how she is begged to stay, despite the misery in their marriage. Here's how you can be prepared for what might happen, and what to do if you still want out.

Learning What "Responsible Separation" Means

John McElhenney | Posted 08.06.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

Laura A. Munson has written an amazing book about a crisis of heart she and her husband suffered. Well, actually her husband suffered some sort of m...

3 Steps To Successful Co-Parenting

Caroline Choi | Posted 07.09.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

It's important to look at the big picture in your divorce and focus on what is in the best interests of your children. When you get along as co-parents, your children will likely be happier given the difficult circumstances that they are already facing with the divorce.

Feeling Like a Fish Out of Water After Divorce? 3 Ways to Jump Back In

Dr. Andra Brosh | Posted 07.02.2014 | Divorce
Dr. Andra Brosh

"Get back in the water -- there is no need to wait to be invited to something, and there are no rules about how you exercise your right to belong to something greater than yourself."

9 Ways To Co-Parent Like A Grown-Up

Emma Bathie | Posted 05.28.2014 | Divorce
Emma Bathie

Here are some key ways that have helped ease my pain and confusion on a path that I didn't think I'd be walking when my ex and I first thought about having children together. If you have also decided to separate and co-parent, I hope these will also bring you comfort on one of the hardest journeys we can take as a parent.