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Divorce Confidential: Holiday Preparations

Caroline Choi | Posted 12.16.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Holiday preparations are in full swing. The shopping malls are packed like a can of sardines and if you're like me, you're probably a little overwhelmed and stressed about getting the perfect gift for your loved ones.

Holiday Magic--When You're Coping With Separation & Divorce

Sharon Zarozny | Posted 12.11.2014 | Divorce
Sharon Zarozny

Traditions create the magic of holidays. They keep us grounded. Change, on the other hand, often knocks us off our feet. So how do you cope?

'Let It Go' Is the Ultimate Divorce Anthem

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 12.11.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

The lyrics of "Let It Go" are empowering and positive. They speak to making tough changes and coming out whole. "Let It Go" is an anthem for anyone who's seen struggles and survived. The lyrics resonate while seemingly bringing out the Beyoncé in all of us.

Divorce Confidential: Tips for a Healthy Marriage

Caroline Choi | Posted 11.16.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Just because you're married, doesn't mean dating goes out the window. It's easy to find yourself in the same monotonous routine once you're married, especially given all the new responsibilities you may face as a couple and as parents.

5 Tips for Managing Parenting Time During the Holidays

Joseph E. Cordell | Posted 11.12.2014 | Divorce
Joseph E. Cordell

So long as you and your ex are able to keep your children as the priority and work to plan everything well in advance, it is entirely possible to begin new traditions with your children and avoid the stress of a bitter holiday season.

Avoiding the Zero Sum Game When Families Split

Claire N. Barnes, MA | Posted 11.11.2014 | Divorce
Claire N. Barnes, MA

So what can parents do in a practical way to not diminish each other during separation? They can start by remembering they are their child's first teacher. Everybody wins when the children's needs are put first.

The Problem With Covenant Marriages and Fault-Based Divorce

Mark Baer | Posted 11.06.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On October 30, 2014, I was contacted by a reporter, who asked if I could explain the Arkansas "covenant marriage" law to them. Among other things, if...

6 Things Your Couples Therapist Already Knows About Your Relationship

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 10.30.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

It's said you can't kid a kidder. But you'd also have to reach a pretty high bar to fool a couples counselor. We've pretty much seen it all. Fortunately for us, we don't have to reinvent the therapy wheel every time we meet a new couple.

How the Judge Wrecked My Perfect Divorce Day

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 10.23.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Greenberg

I was fine with the divorce but upset by what felt like a scolding from a judge. I've asked myself several times if perhaps she was simply acting like any other judge would in this situation. I don't know what the answer is.

Planning Pays Off

Fred Silberberg | Posted 10.21.2014 | Divorce
Fred Silberberg

While the concept of planning what happens upon a separation may seem cruel or too calculating to some, its' a fact of life that those who plan ahead for their long term goals are usually more likely to succeed at them than those who do not.

This Is Not Bad. This Is Not Good. This Is Change.

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 12.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Today, as I walked the midway with my family, I felt grateful for all that Tracie and I have experienced in our thirteen years, grateful that, despite the newness of our separation, we could come together as a family, in peace.

On Pride and Loneliness: Separation, Attachment and the Power to Be

Cosmin Gheorghe | Posted 12.14.2014 | Parents
Cosmin Gheorghe

Have you ever felt proud? Do you have a clear -- or any -- memory of what being proud feels like? What emotions do you experience when you feel proud?

Turn Your Divorce Breakdown Into Your Breakthrough

Honoree Corder | Posted 12.09.2014 | Divorce
Honoree Corder

While you may not realize it today, your divorce can actually be the beginning of an amazing new life for you. Not that I want to spoil the end for you, but everything is going to be okay. In fact, you're going to love your life after divorce!

Don't Just Stand There... Do Something! 6 Ways To Help A Friend Through Divorce

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 12.05.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

When someone loses a loved one, you offer your sympathies. When someone has a baby, you send a lovely gift. When someone is divorcing, you...? Hmm. Right. You know you should do or say something -- but you choose to keep your distance instead.

5 Ways to Behave Like a Grown-Up Through Your Midlife Divorce

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 12.16.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

Midlife divorce is skyrocketing. And the reasons for that are many. Chiefly, most of us are looking at longer lifespans than our ancestors and we're not willing to live out those lives in complacent misery.

Divorce!

Sheila Blagg | Posted 11.10.2014 | Divorce
Sheila Blagg

Divorce is a part of your life that just sucks, but allowing yourself to stay in that frame of mind for years not only takes away from you, but away from the life you want to begin building. Thus, allowing your past to have entirely too much power over your future.

Divorce Confidential: Potential Risks When Litigating Move-Aways in Divorce

Caroline Choi | Posted 11.03.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

For my last installment in this three-part move-away series, I am going to explore the potential risks that you may face when you decide to litigate a move-away motion in court.

Back To School Rules for Co-Parents

Risa Garon | Posted 11.03.2014 | Divorce
Risa Garon

Parents don't naturally know how to co-parent. When a separation in an adult relationship occurs, there are many emotions, stresses and time pressures that truly discourage constructive co-parenting.

Do's and Don'ts for Body and Mind Post-Divorce Makeovers

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 10.27.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Indulging in financial self-soothing following the stressful divorce process is the reward that many women seek in the days after that Final Judgment is received. Justified trips to Cancun, rationalized days at the spa, and country club memberships are the delicious luxuries we seek, when soothing our aching hearts.

Beginning or Ending? When Our Kids Go Off to College

Madeline Levine | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Madeline Levine

Our college-bound kids know full well that they are leaving their childhood and embarking on the extraordinary journey of crafting their future adult selves.

You Can Speculate About Him or Her...

Tracy Crossley | Posted 10.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Tracy Crossley

Until the cows come home. Mind reading 101. It is a complete and total waste of time. Dealing with someone who doesn't speak of truth or whose acti...

'I'm Right! You're Wrong!' -- 'No, I'm Right! You're Wrong!'

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 10.07.2014 | Good News
Robert C. Jameson

I'm sure you have either been involved in this type of argument or have heard it going on out in the world. It just seems to be part of the human condition.

Seamless Transitions From Divorce to Dating

Sheila Blagg | Posted 09.30.2014 | Divorce
Sheila Blagg

If you've recently gone through a divorce and you're thinking about how to get back into the dating scene, you need to prepare yourself mentally. Before you plunge in head first looking for your next major relationship, do take some time for yourself.

Want Love After Divorce? The First Step Is to Forgive

Honoree Corder | Posted 09.14.2014 | Divorce
Honoree Corder

You can't fit new love into a heart that's already full of love... or something else, any more than you can fit a new wardrobe into an already over-flowing closet.

'Till Death Do Us Part'

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 09.05.2014 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Last week would have marked my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. Although my former husband and I have been parted now for many years, when the date rolled around and I did the math, I felt it as a momentous occasion.