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Stay at Home Mothers

Take Your Pedestal and Shove It

Lyz Lenz | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Lyz Lenz

When you elevate women to a pedestal, you put them in a place where they can't fall. Because this elevated position means that with all the glory comes all the blame. Because this sets up the dichotomy where mothers are highly valued until they make a mistake. Then, they are the problem with everything.

Kim Siegal: Lean In? Opt Out? All I Know Is I'm Dizzy

Kim Siegal | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Kim Siegal

Don't look at your neighbor and wonder. Know that your children will remember the time you spend with them, not without them, and make that time together count. Don't let momentary sadness cause you to regret your big decisions -- remember, there will always be trade-offs.

Do Stay-at-Home Dads Have More Fun?

Rachel Levin | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Rachel Levin

Everyone knows Dad is the fun one. Now that more dads are staying at home, are they really enjoying parenting day in, day out as much as they did during their traditional two-hour window?

The Mommy Mediator

Rachel Levy Lesser | Posted 11.24.2013 | Parents
Rachel Levy Lesser

Some days, I see the mothers of the world living together in harmony, supporting each other as they go about raising their children. Some get involved in their local communities, others forge ahead at their place of work and some do a bit of both. Then there are the darker days.

When a Choice Makes You

Carissa K | Posted 11.18.2013 | Parents
Carissa K

I've lost a bit of who I was... that drive, that energy, that pace. But I've gained a bit of who I am.... this cheerfulness, this softness, this pace. I think that perhaps I'm a bit more lover and a bit less fighter, which is both good and bad. I miss the working me, but I am proud of this me.

What All Women Need To Know Before Tying The Knot

Jennifer Ball | Posted 11.08.2013 | Divorce
Jennifer Ball

Women like me didn't make an agonizing choice between a high-paying, satisfying career and motherhood. Women like me, we basically went from friends to parenthood. Some of us have degrees, some of us never finished college. Some of us never started.

You Are Supermom and So Are You

Jessica Watson | Posted 10.31.2013 | Parents
Jessica Watson

No matter how elaborately your neighbor organized her daughter's lemonade stand, no matter how perfectly manicured your sister-in-law's nails are and no matter how many runny-nosed children your best friend manages to entertain in her minivan, there is no supermom.

Why Opting-Out Makes Little Sense

Jennifer Owens | Posted 10.09.2013 | Parents
Jennifer Owens

A decade into working momhood, I'm glad I didn't opt-out. As my career has grown, so has my salary, my influence and my ability to work flexibly.

Moms Who Drink Too Much

Heather Kopp | Posted 09.10.2013 | Parents
Heather Kopp

We're kidding ourselves if we think that our addiction to any mood-altering drug or activity isn't affecting our kids. And we're dangerously deluded if we conclude that it can actually improve our parenting.

Can We Please Stop Talking About Stay-at-home vs. Working Mothers?

Claire McCarthy, M.D. | Posted 09.02.2013 | Parents
Claire McCarthy, M.D.

We have got to stop talking about stay-at-home vs. working mothers as if it were some sort of debate, as if it were the central issue of parenting and families. It's not.

9 Reasons Why I Regret Being A Stay-At-Home Mom

Grown And Flown | Posted 08.17.2013 | Parents
Grown And Flown

I let go of the burning ambition I once held because I didn't feel as though I could hold it and three babies at the same time. My husband did not do this, my children did not do this, I did this.

Myra Evans: How I Redefined Success for Myself and My Family

Myra Evans | Posted 08.15.2013 | Women
Myra Evans

The stress that comes with making more money and having more power takes a toll on your body, mind and soul.

Letter to the Clothing Store Cashier

Kaylee Scottaline | Posted 08.11.2013 | Parents
Kaylee Scottaline

I used to be just like you. I used to look at the women with screaming, misbehaved babies and think, why can't this woman control her kid?

The Twitter Notification That Gave Me A Reality Check

Mike Julianelle | Posted 07.29.2013 | Parents
Mike Julianelle

Becoming a parent is like joining a cult: On the inside, everything seems perfect and right, but step outside and everyone thinks you're a deluded weirdo whose personality has been erased and replaced by that of a child-obsessed robot.

The One Question About Parenthood I Can't Get Out Of My Mind

Liz Kozak | Posted 07.23.2013 | Parents
Liz Kozak

I know deep down that she's the little person she's meant to be and that she's on her own journey and that she is in fact human -- not a snorty piglet. But I can't get one irksome question out of my mind.

How I Finally Peeled Back The Layers Of My Mother's Secret Life

Mardith Louisell | Posted 07.19.2013 | Fifty
Mardith Louisell

Books were written about women artists, aviators and many other women, but not about stay-at-home moms. They were out of fashion, dumped at the door of a consignment shop. I didn't like the world to undervalue my mother, even if I had.

True Story: How to Squirrel Away $5,000 to Get Out of a Horrible Marriage (And Get the Kids, House and Alimony)

Morghan Leia Richardson | Posted 07.09.2013 | Divorce
Morghan Leia Richardson

This woman didn't earn the family's income or even oversee much of the bill payment. Yet for three years she took charge: Unbeknownst to her husband, Anne set up a savings account and had the bank send the statements to a trusted friend.

The Terrible Twos Were NOTHING Compared To This

Adrian Kulp | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Adrian Kulp

Every day, I suit up for battle. It's not just the usual twice-a-day stuff like "I don't wanna go" or "I don't wanna eat that for breakfast." I'm talking about something every hour. Screaming, pushing, punching, biting, spitting, back-talking, karate kicks and testicle head butts. All in a day's work.

'I Was A Stay-at-Home Mom -- And My Marriage Survived'

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 06.21.2013 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

When my husband and I made the decision that I would stay at home with our children, not long after our first child was born, it was not made lightly.

Who Works? Stick Figures, Gender and Illustrating the Workforce

Lisa Wade | Posted 06.10.2013 | Women
Lisa Wade

Men are the "neutral" sex in contemporary Western cultures. This means that (1) the image that pops up in our minds when we say "person" or "human" or "worker" is usually implicitly male, (2) non-sexed representations of people are usually assumed to be male.

'I Did It My Way'

Christi Guthrie | Posted 06.08.2013 | Women
Christi Guthrie

It is OK to want 'All the Things,' to do it all, to juggle. It is OK to want to be more than a mom and a wife.

8 Things I REALLY Want To Say To My Kids

Amber Dusick | Posted 08.01.2013 | Parents
Amber Dusick

Everyone snaps at some point.

If I Lean In, Will I Still Get Checked Out?

Tamara Shayne Kagel | Posted 06.02.2013 | Women
Tamara Shayne Kagel

Men's opinions of what is sexy and confident evolves as our culture's opinions of what is sexy and confident evolves. If we decide we all need to speak up more and be more aggressive in our career-driven daily lives, we can redefine what is attractive to a man.

The Reality Of Being A 'Feminist Housewife'

Lyz Lenz | Posted 06.02.2013 | Parents
Lyz Lenz

For all of us, life is full of complicated, sticky messes. We don't need to demean one person's calling to glorify our own. And pedestals only make it harder to fall, children or no, uterus or lack thereof.

Lisa Belkin

The Problem With Saying 'Stay-At-Home Mom'

HuffingtonPost.com | Lisa Belkin | Posted 03.27.2013 | Parents

The childhood rhyme is wrong, of course -- words CAN always hurt you. They have power, and pack a punch, which is why we spend so much time parsing an...