Whether it's a failed relationship, a bad career move, or a project that went bust, stuff happens in life and we often can't control the outcome. We can, though, learn to go a little more with the flow.
The worst part of never saying no is that our projects never come to fruition in a way we want them to. And that stinks. Lately there's been lots of arguing and debating about goals, success and leadership, much of it revolving around setting boundaries for ourselves and others.
When you feel you've done everything you can think of, you've planted all the seeds necessary, but are still waiting around to reap the harvest, it's hard not to get discouraged. Here are four reasons why your dreams still haven't manifested and how you can kick them into high gear!
We are always guided. Some pay close attention to the clues that help us to discern which paths we take, that most serve our highest learning and greatest good. Others give occasion to such awareness, and as a result, happiness and life's successes seem hit or miss and chance-like.
Begin noticing if you're acting or reacting throughout the work day. If you find the reactions column to be significantly greater, practice taking a beat and weighing things out before taking your next step.
Being successful cannot be defined by society. It has to come from a certain alignment between who you are, what you do and how you impact your community. Nobody can decide this for you. You are the only one in charge. And what a relief this is.
There comes a point in life when you stand dead center at a crossroads, either faced with a career, relationship or personal decision. Standing still for a moment allows you to reflect and revisit the journey it took to get there.
A key assumption that still reigns supreme in the modern world is that long hours equal success. This is particularly evident in some industries where leaving work on time is actually considered leaving work early.
You're going to encounter all kinds of thorns on your journey to success that for whatever reason want to stand in your way or try to knock you down. The most efficient, effective and rewarding way to get through those thorns is by charging straight ahead.
Nothing is perfect or everlasting. It is worth our while to contemplate deeply, mindfully and periodically on our own meaning of life. Racing toward only money, power and status is likely to leave us unfulfilled.
I was pretty nervous about going to the detention center and even more nervous that the programs we introduced wouldn't be anything that the boys wanted. I knew that what I was doing was important, however, and I just hoped the love I had for sports would be contagious.
Monetary successes rarely come to us every minute of the day. The space between our successes leaves a vacuum to focus on our failures. Expanding our definition of success to include other aspects of our lives, fills our day with success and thus with energy.
All in all, it's always about learning. In this case, it's about figuring out how to work through obstacles, the expectations and routines holding you back, as well as managing stress that may come your way.
The "Explainer in Chief" believes that successful leadership starts by asking the right questions. But great leaders are good listeners too. And while they forge new paths, they also build consensus and "creative networks of cooperation."