I've discussed the complexity in how we can educate our daughters about slut-shaming. Do we allow them to embrace the word so that it gives them confidence around their sexuality? Or do we teach them that it's a bullying tactic.
Today is SAT day -- our daughter's first. It's 6:10. "I don't know where her admission ticket is. Or the pencil sharpener I bought yesterday, or all those Number Two pencils. And her passport. I put all of that stuff together on my desk. Did someone move it?"
Yes, we understand kids need to relax and get rejuvenated during the summer, but the summers are long and the more competitive the college, the more that college will expect applicants to use summers in meaningful ways.
Intellectually I know that she is expressing herself in a safe and personal way. Like the crazy purple straight legs jeans I used to wear, or the thrift shop clothing my parents never even reacted to. But the truth is, I still wish I hadn't let her dye her hair.
Has the quest for popularity become so anxiety-provoking that parents, who are otherwise involved in their children's lives -- sports, arts, grades, clothing -- would allow their child to pose drunk with a beer can on the Internet?