The Talk isn't about teaching black boys how to act or, more precisely, how to grovel before whites with guns. The purpose of The Talk is to lift a veil of innocence from the eyes of black boys so they can recognize a danger when it appears.
Your reaction could shape your child's view of sex, and the most important step is to approach the situation in a way that will leave the door open to an ongoing conversation. Here are some tips for talking with your child.
Even though she's heard the speech, I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I didn't say it yet again. I cringe as the words come out of my mouth, knowing what's coming, "Mom, you don't have to tell me this. I'm not stupid." But, I say it anyway.
This holiday season, I came out to my mom about being sexually active, being bisexual, writing about sex for my college newspaper and then getting a ton of media attention for my column on having sex in the library. But did I also mention that I got straight A's this semester?
I was reminded of how out-of-touch these shows might actually be when Barbara, the host and creator of "The View," posed questions to both Chris Christie and Kim Kardashian that only a grandma or great aunt could get away with asking.
To shed anxiety-driven notions about talking to children about sex, we adults need simply to identify and revisit the maladaptive associations we absorbed early in life and use our "we're all grown up now" good sense and perspective to whack them apart.