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Transgender Children Today: Shifting the Responsibility for Change Away From Children and Onto Society

Aidan Key | Posted 09.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Aidan Key

How do we change society? We start by listening to the truths of these children and believing, rather than dismissing, them. If we can start by believing the child's clearly stated truth, we are well on our way.

WATCH: Mother Schools Haters Who Don't Understand Her Trans Daughter

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 07.15.2014 | Gay Voices

"My daughter is six years old. She transitioned, which means she changed her outward appearance from male to female and started living full time as he...

My Trans Son: Standing Tall

Todd Greenwood | Posted 09.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Todd Greenwood

As a society, we have just begun to talk about what it means to be transgender, and I, like most men of my generation, knew almost nothing. If there is anything that I've learned, it's that the subject is deeply complex. I think I understand something fundamental, but I really don't.

The Day I Took a Knife to School, and How It Changed Me

Mary J. Moss | Posted 09.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

"I might as well be invisible," I thought. I was sitting in my wheelchair in the locker room while the other kids played a sport in gym class. I could hear them and wondered how long it would take for anyone to find me. I felt so alone. I thought I was a burden to my family, and I felt hopeless.

Dispelling Myths, Misconceptions and Lies About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

Recently, a video about a transgender child in California went viral. Sadly, like every other conversation about transgender children, the comments section was often unkind. Scanning the comments, I saw the same poorly thought-out ideas keep popping up. I think it's time to put these misconceptions to bed.

Grieving a Child Who Is Still Alive

Mary J. Moss | Posted 08.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

My daughter Grace passed away in September 2010. There wasn't an obituary. There wasn't a funeral. There wasn't a casket or even a body to put in it. No one sent me sympathy cards. No one brought me casseroles. This wasn't because no one cared yet. It was because my child was still alive.

Allies and Angels

Jorge R. Petit, MD | Posted 07.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Jorge R. Petit, MD

In their book Allies and Angels: A Memoir of Our Family's Transition, Terri and Vince Cook lay bare their experience and journey of parenting a transgender child. They show us that resolve and steadfast love are what truly define the parental instinct.

She Never Was a Boy

Karen Adams | Posted 05.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Karen Adams

Quickly my mind raced through the catalog of her interests, behaviors and clothing choices, and I saw how many clues I had missed. I saw my new daughter for the first time, through the actions of my nephew.

Transgender Family Thanksgiving Celebrations

Wayne Maines | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

I dream about the day when families with transgender children will be able to have classic Thanksgiving celebrations. Unfortunately, many families like ours celebrate alone or with a few close friends because they are not considered part of the extended family anymore.

Sharing the Stories of LGBT Youth: Jazz, 12 (PHOTO)

Diana Scholl | Posted 05.14.2014 | Gay Voices
Diana Scholl

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Parts Unknown

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 11.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

Severe pain in my 17-year-old son's abdomen took us to the ER last week. It's one of those situations that everyone dreads, but if you're transgender, there can be an added level of anxiety when the medical professionals aren't current on trans health care. Such was the case for us.

Into the Toilet

Justine Valinotti | Posted 10.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Justine Valinotti

How do they always end up being about bathrooms? I'm talking about the debates and protests that accompany any attempt to ensure that gender-variant individuals have the same rights as everybody else.

Love More, Fear Less: A Mother and Her Child Share Their Incredible Journey

Franne Golde and Syd Fox | Posted 07.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Franne Golde and Syd Fox

It was a primal scream that went right through me and sent distress signals to my heart. My beautiful 4-year-old daughter stood up in the bathtub as though she were possessed. "Mommy, I'm supposed to be a boy. God made a mistake!" she screamed through heaving tears.

To Go, Or Not To Go, That Is The Question

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

For my transgender child and thousands like him, the simple act of relieving themselves in a public restroom at their school is a source of stress, confusion, violence, endless meetings and even lawsuits, just because they identify with a gender that differs from their biology.

A Simple Valentine's Day Dance

Wayne Maines | Posted 04.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

Nicole was 10 years old, openly attending school as a transgender girl, and Valentine's Day was right around the corner. One evening Nicole came home, and while we were preparing dinner, she announced that there was going to be a father-daughter dance at the town recreation building.

Preparing For A Generation That Comes Out Younger

Josh A. Goodman | Posted 04.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Josh A. Goodman

The average coming-out age has declined from 20-something in the '80s to somewhere around 16 today, and there are many who come out younger -- in some cases far younger. Both the LGBTQ community and society at large need to be thinking about how to meet these kids' needs.

Remaining Hopeful After A Disappointing Court Decision, But How Do I Tell My Daughter?

Wayne Maines | Posted 01.29.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

Last week, after five years of struggle, pain, hard work and hope, a Superior Court judge ruled that the Orono school system did not violate the Maine Human Rights Act when it prohibited my daughter Nicole from using the restroom that matches her gender identity.

If You Knew Him

Gretchen Peters | Posted 01.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

As the mother of a trans man, I have a hard time dwelling on the fact that hate could drive a person to murder someone like my son. I know what all of us who love our children know: that if you really knew them, you could never hate them. But the fear of what could happen never really goes away.

Science, Not Politics, Needs To Guide Policies Protecting Trans Youth

Scout, Ph.D. | Posted 12.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Scout, Ph.D.

Earlier this week the East Aurora School District passed a policy that would provide key supports to trans youth. Soon thereafter the Illinois Family Institute urged people to complain about the policy, and today the East Aurora school district might very well rescind that protective policy.

The DMV Test

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 11.20.2012 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

For most people, getting your driver's license in the mail is a non-event. But for Sam, we were anxious, for a reason 99 percent of the population would never consider. For Sam (and therefore for me, because I love him so much), we were eager to see if the gender marker actually read "M."

Mother Of Transgender Child Speaks Out

Kergan Edwards-Stout | Posted 11.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Kergan Edwards-Stout

As would be expected, having a child undergo such a transition caused numerous issues within the Tyler family, at school, in their community, and at work. Sarah Tyler graciously took time to share with me the journey her family has traveled.

Elementary Schools, Transgender Kids And Educator Freak-Outs

Elizabethe C. Payne | Posted 10.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Elizabethe C. Payne

For the past few years we have had an increasing number of elementary schools contact us with reports that their teachers and school staff were "freaking out." The cause for alarm? The new enrollment of a transgender child or the gender transition of an already-enrolled student.

XX vs. XY

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 10.01.2012 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

"When did you know for sure?" Everyone we meet wants to know the answer to that question when they hear we have a transgender child, most because they are genuinely interested in a subject that is still a mystery for so many.

A Happy Camper

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 09.08.2012 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

When your child is transgender, do you err on the side of full disclosure, thereby risking rejection, or do you proceed without exposing your child's biology, because it really shouldn't matter, right? Such was the case when Sam went to camp for the first time as a boy.

What Does Transgender Mean? One Semi-Conservative Dad's Perspective

Wayne Maines | Posted 06.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

My transgender daughter Nicole is my mentor. It's tough to put into words what a profound impact this small person has had in changing my core values, but since the young age of 5, she has unknowingly encouraged me to open my eyes and heart to new ideas.