A ghost gradually becomes an ancestor, and traumatic experiences become memories, by a most human alchemy. The beloved community provides the inspiration, the spirit of support, so we can stop holding our breaths in traumatic reaction and anticipation, and finally exhale.
Which is worse: coming up against one of life's Epically Awful Moments only to find all of your friends spewing some tired old cliche, or attempting to comfort someone who's just endured an Epically Awful Moment of her own using the only thing you can come up with -- the same cliche?
Most people associate war zone trauma solely with PTSD, but the psychiatric syndrome, whatever the acronym we use for it, doesn't capture the depth and power of what keeps some veterans awake, eating at them from the inside for years.
With new data revealing that both bullies and victims are at higher risk for suicide, our eyes are opening to the fact that we're faced with a potentially life-threatening situation. So what can we do to protect our children against the painful effects of bullying?
Strife-ridden societies aren't furnished with peaceful town squares. I'm talking about my girls and me sitting in the dirty corner of a church, creating a temporary space from scratch with our presence.
We have yet to see the full toll of 9/11 among first responders, even 10 years out. All relevant resources should be made available to address the burden of illness shouldered by these brave souls who rushed toward the very thing most of us with just average courage would flee.
Stolorow has become, in my view and those of others, one of the country's pre-eminent thinkers on the subject of trauma. Hence, his recent book, World, Affectivity, Trauma: Heidegger and Post-Cartesian Psychoanalysis .
Is there an alternative to ideological illusion and the rhetoric of evil? Yes, there is. We must remember our common human vulnerabilities and bring them into a collective conversation within which our existential anxiety can be held and better borne.
Governments and agencies too often rush to enter the third or Reconstruction Phase that follows a disaster of this magnitude without understanding the consequences of ignoring the deeply held emotional traumas of the local population.
The reason the Seven Steps to Recovery works is that in essence it reconnects the thinking, feeling and acting parts of your personality. More than that, it enables you to adapt to the reality of what is, as opposed what no longer is.