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11 Ways to Emotionally Thrive

02/10/2014 05:35 pm ET | Updated Apr 10, 2014
  • Tamara Star Creator of the 40-day personal reboot for women, Founder TStar Recruiting, Best Selling Author

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Life can feel like an emotional roller coaster if we let it, but remembering that we have more control over our inner landscape than we realize-helps smooth out the ride.

Most of us are experiencing major life change and lightening speed personal growth on a regular basis. We can no longer hide from our "stuff" and there's a global movement to wake up, wake up, wake up.

So, what to do? Hold on and consider these 11 ways to not only survive, but thrive in this fast paced world.

1. It's time to look around our life and realize we truly become the five people we hang out with most.

Cut ties to negative people, drama queens and energy suckers. Surround yourself with true friends -- people who inspire you and people who you love you dearly.

Energetically: Like attracts like, so if you're surrounded by people who don't reflect what you really respect, it's time for a little self-reflection.

2. There is no longer an "out there" and an "in here."

The world is your mirror. Easily triggered by others? It's time to remove the trigger. Once we work out our issues of anger, self sabotage, low self-worth/esteem and a lifetime of wounding, we no longer need to pull in others to play out life dramas so we learn the lesson.

3. Take care of your body energetically.

We're bombarded daily by electromagnetic fields, constant distractions, obligations and responsibilities.

Buy or trade for massage, acupuncture, energy healing, aromatherapy, float tanks, and reflexology.

Can't afford any of it or find a trade for service? Lay on the earth for a few minutes.

Earthing
has been scientifically proven to reduce stress and bring our nervous system back into balance. Take a hint from our animal friends -- the first thing an animal will do when it's sick or wounded is seek solace in a quiet place and lay on the earth.

4. Still your mind.

Meditating for even 10 minutes a day will reduce the effects of the number one killer: stress.

Yoga, silent walking with no agenda or being in nature are moving versions of meditation if you can't sit still.

Set your watch or phone to 15-minute intervals and take three deep breath breaks.

Breathing into your belly vs. shallow breathing calms the nervous system of the body. Shallow breathing actually activates the fight or flight points near the collar-bone on a primal level and adds to stress.

5. Take substantial breaks from the cell phone.

The world can survive without you for an hour lunch break. You do not need to be like Pavlov's dog reacting to the sound of your cell phone.

Schedule some private time. Toss your cell phone in the back seat of the car on your commutes and errands or at the very least, leave it at home while you walk your dog.

6. Invest your time with fewer people intimately so you can develop those relationships into a deeper connection.

Intimacy = Into You I see, isn't possible with everyone. It's become a superficial word in today's zillion plus online friendship arena.

Developing true connection and trust with another provides a safety zone and refuge from the world when you need it.

7. Community

Think globally and act locally -- really locally by knowing your neighbors. Get one another's back and create that small town feel in your own backyard. Care about each other, offer a helping hand.

We need to break out of the garage door batman habit of driving in, closing the door and waving at one another as we drive by.

8. Turn off the damn television.

It's all negative or drama anyways. If you can't part with it, limit your time to great movies or inspiring channels like OWN or National Geographic.

Better yet, toss the TV out and watch something 100 percent inspiring. Worried about missing the news? Read it online. I promise, someone will fill you in.

9. Refuse to add more poison to your body.

Buy organic, buy local, use eco-friendly hygiene products.

10. Have compassion for everyone.

We don't know the reason someone is speeding past you in their car, there could be an emergency.

Hear something bad about another? Remember that's just one person's perspective.

Everyone is doing the best they can. Avoid sweeping judgements and consider a few reasons other than your initial reaction before giving someone a negative label.

11. Watch your thoughts and your words.

We are manifesting machines and if you haven't noticed lately, we are manifesting our worst nightmares and our biggest dreams.

Avoid gossip and don't repeat it, investigate things for yourself, suspend judgement and refuse to speak of your fears.

Talk about what you want, not what you don't want. Look around your life: What choices are your friends making and what choices have you made?

So why should we do these things?

We are meant to live happy, healthy, abundant lives. When our self-worth and self-esteem are healthy, we realize we're worthy of creating a good life.

Most importantly, when we live a good life, we're empowered to help others, and that's truly the most rewarding task of all.

Originally posted Daily Transformations 2012

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