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Coming Out Christian

Posted: 07/30/11 10:36 PM ET

2011-07-29-JeremyAlex_2kissinginchurch.jpeg.jpgComing out as Christian means coming out for love. Last Sunday, July 24, I went to the Manhattan Marriage Bureau on the first day same-sex couples could marry legally in New York State, dressed in my purple clergy robe. I went to congratulate couples and offer a religious wedding to any who might want it.

A sweet communion of folk gathered in line with palpable hope and expectation outside the building long before the doors opened. There were gays and lesbians holding hands, holding sunflowers, holding one other. They were young and old, some together for 30 years, others for three. There were family and friends, straight allies and children. This was a multi-ethnic mosaic of humanity. But I was struck by the children, cherubic eyewitnesses to this moment when their parents' love was honored. Their faces upturned, full of admiration and expectation.

Three little girls sang to their moms while their tuxedo-clad little brother looked on. Children were waiting in line, waiting for their dads' number to be called, waiting for the waiting to end, waiting for the civil right of their parents to marry.

A group of supporters lined the sidewalk with a rainbow of colored umbrellas. They were there to shield those getting married from both the hot sun and the group of protesters across the street that cited Scripture to oppose the marriages.

For as long as there has been Scripture, the Church has read it through various lenses. Christians do that today as well. We all find both conviction and comfort in texts that speak to us. We are all selective. Further, what is written in Scripture is not always consistent. There is both judgment and grace; freedom and restriction; words that cause us to fear and words that give us hope.

Scripture also says, "I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory about to be revealed to us. For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the children of God" (Romans 8:18-19).

My gay and lesbian brothers and sisters have endured so much suffering on the way to this historic time and place. In the name of Jesus, under the label of Christian, hatred and harm have been visited upon gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. Too many Christians have failed to speak up, to stand up, to Believe Out Loud.

All of the creation is waiting, like those children in line, for those of us who call ourselves Christian to come out on the side of love. We are each created in God's image; each human being is awesomely and wonderfully made. We are designed for love, not hatred; created for community, not apartheid.

I am calling on Christians to come out of the closet, to show ourselves and to reveal ourselves as Children of God. Being Christian means having an informed faith: a faith that is felt deeply in our hearts and souls; critically examined, critiqued and engaged with our minds; serviced with our strength. To come out means reading the biblical texts through the law that Jesus himself described: Love God with your heart, soul, strength and mind. And love your neighbor as yourself (Luke 10:27). What do these texts mean for us today, given Jesus' imperative to love? Our congregations need to be bold in searching for God's call in this day and time; they need to be radically welcoming of all of God's people.

On Sunday morning, in our worship celebration at 11:15 a.m., two of our same-sex couples will join their lives in holy matrimony at Middle Collegiate Church in New York City, in a congregation where love is the law we keep. You should come.

Last Sunday, when I went inside the Marriage Bureau, I didn't marry couples at the Office of the City Clerk. Only government officials were allowed to perform the ceremonies. But I'm glad I stood in line with them, witnessed their joy and celebrated their weddings. All of our children, not just those in that line on Sunday, are waiting for the Children of God to show love because wherever love is, God is.

 
 
 
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gemmax
11:41 AM on 08/02/2011
IMO A woman who claims to be a minister of the gospel is not following the instructions for the organization of the church.
So these credentials as listed above do not mean much to me. To claim that one is following Christ and teaching others what He taught, and then to describe these unions as holy is to deny what He said about marriage. IMO There is a reason behind every single sin or abomination that is described in the Bible. A reason that is about what is good for mankind, what is healthy. It is not about punishment. It is about what is best for mankind.
I'd like to sit down with this writer and ask this question: What will you say to a person whom you have performed a gay "marriage" ceremony for who then later comes to you and tells you that they have been born again and asks what to do about this marriage that they no longer have the desire to be in? What will you advise them to do?
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JDuck
Until we know the equal we'll never feel the free.
12:24 PM on 08/02/2011
Yet anouther who would rather stand across the street and shout their disgust....
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chw777
06:24 PM on 08/02/2011
He said he wanted to sit down with the writer and talk with her.
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ZenGardner
Neither believe nor disbelieve.
12:41 PM on 08/02/2011
Ah, to be so invested in a specific set of rules that you don't dare question them for fear of losing your imaginary sense of self worth. What a sorrowful state you live in.
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chw777
06:26 PM on 08/02/2011
His sense of worth is not imaginary. He is a child of God. He belongs to God. He is of great worth.
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gemmax
09:20 PM on 08/02/2011
If you only knew.
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eddy joe
welcome to the machine
11:35 AM on 08/02/2011
I will believe in God, and in his word. I encourage others to do the same. To the best of my ability, I will live as God instructs me to.
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JDuck
Until we know the equal we'll never feel the free.
12:24 PM on 08/02/2011
So, which side of the street would you stand on?
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ZenGardner
Neither believe nor disbelieve.
12:38 PM on 08/02/2011
eddy joe? The one screaming in disgust of course. Like everyone who has a fixed set of beliefs that they have invested their lives on... he has no imagination.
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pdferguson
Micro-bios? We don't need no stinkin' micro-bios!
04:12 PM on 08/02/2011
The best of one's abilities is to live your life without the blinders of Iron Age fantasy, and without abdicating responsibility for your own life to the powerful institution of religion. The sooner you learn that simple lesson, the better off you'll be.
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22Keys
03:41 PM on 08/01/2011
If the church wants to see the 22nd century in the West, the church is going to have to cultivate a realistic perspective on human sexuality. I sincerely hope that all these young people heading off to the seminary are paying attention.
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powercosmic
The Anti-Christ
02:36 PM on 08/01/2011
To all those Chr#istians who don't believe who have trouble reconciling their "faith" with what is happening Politically with the Religious Right, come out as an Atheist!!!

Come on over to the side of Radical Freedom!!

Demand that Chr#istianity be removed from the public square and from public education.

Demand that other Chr#istians keep their private beliefs PRIVATE and therefore Free.
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George Genung
12:48 PM on 08/01/2011
I am calling on all agnostics to come out of the closet ! IMO, most people are agnostics, which explains the huge expenditures on end of life care in this "Christian" nation.
If you are going to paradise, much better than here, then, go, and save the rest of us a lot of money.
03:06 PM on 08/16/2011
The way of the transgressor is hard not the saint. This life for us is full and rich. We aint afraid to die cause we are assured that whether we live or die is gain; for to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. We just aint ready to sleep yet. I for one want to remain to see Him crack the sky!
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p47nandmosquito
11:29 AM on 08/01/2011
Your call is one I ave always thought to be at the core of Christianity, and I am always astounded by people who claim that it should be ignored. Thank you for this article, the world seems to need many more like it.
ThinkCreeps
Seriously, it's time.
08:08 AM on 08/01/2011
Superstition.

Unlike sexuality, there's something that's a simple choice: choose sense instead.
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Indigo1941
Time traveler.
06:16 AM on 08/01/2011
Scripture also says to wash your face and go into the upper chamber and pray to your Father privately in silence.
03:26 PM on 08/16/2011
But it also says to do not forget to assemble together in order to strengthen and encourageand exhort one another!
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researcher
05:08 AM on 08/01/2011
"I am calling on Christians to come out of the closet, to show ourselves and to reveal ourselves as Children of God"

from a logical point of view we cannot be children of god.

to the religious god is infinite. what can exist outside of infinite? once we state we are children of god we have created boundaries on infinite. which of course is impossible unless we redefine infinite. logic does not seem to be a necessity for religion.

it is this idea of being children of god that causes the religious to think they can be separate from and infinite god. we are expressions of that that is, isness, absolute, infinite source, etc.

what confuses the religious is sin evil and suffering. so they condemn themselves as the culprits and pronounce themselves blameworthy (ego thing) and then some even feel they need a savior to appease an angry god that demands an atonement. ie a god of unconditional love of course.

atheists are made not born with such beliefs. the same religious god made in the image of man is the same god the atheists do not believe in.
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catsanon
Humans... Such silly creatures.
12:01 PM on 08/01/2011
"...the same religious god made in the image of man is the same god the atheists do not believe in."

Why presume that atheists are incapable of multi-tasking? It is possible to disbelieve in any and all proposed gods......

BTW, "religion" is not limited to Christianity and its predecessors and offshoots, either...
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
02:36 AM on 08/01/2011
What is the best way to know if one is "coming out" into false Christianity or working their way into "true" Christian, Jesus indicated there would be some of each. John 8:44, John 10:14
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p47nandmosquito
11:25 AM on 08/01/2011
Read the scriptures, know the context (this is good for both: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003S9W6PM/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_2?pf_rd_p=486539851&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0310926645&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=0MV4WBRZ8NQGWWJCH4CM), and always remember that the two greatest commandments are, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and strength" and "Love your neighbor as yourself." And don't forget Jesus ranked them equally, so we should too.
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gemmax
11:29 AM on 08/02/2011
Jesus also describes how to love our fellowman and sometimes it means standing up for His teachings regarding how to live our lives on earth. jJesus Himself objected clearly to some activities of mankind, and He laid out the rules for a healthy society.
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p47nandmosquito
07:15 PM on 08/02/2011
@CHW777, I find 3 New Testament references to homosexuality, all in the letters. Two (1 Corinthians 6:9-11 and 1 Timothy 1:9-11) are really just lists of drinkers, rapists of all kinds, liars, slave traders, whatever, saying they're bad, nothing saying anything against homosexuality specifically. The other (Romans 1:18-32) calls it a result of the fact that we have fallen from perfection. The primary Old Testament references are to an attempted gang rape, and the other is a law in the "don't let society fall apart" category (it was a very patriarchal system you'll recall), and/or the "be different from your neighbors" one. I have heard one claim that "eunuch" was often used to refer to gay people, with all the "it doesn't matter" references to that, but I don't know if that's true. Either way, the "Gospel truth" about homosexuality appears to be that, provided it doesn't damage society as a whole and that it's consensual, it doesn't matter much.
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ChaCubed
Fabulously Liberal
02:19 AM on 08/01/2011
Dr. Jacqueline J. Lewis, I am free of theistic beliefs, and I express my opinions of theistic and religious beliefs freely, especially when the beliefs are negative or hurtful towards others, but I also say religion is a tool to be used for good or evil, to lift people up or to put people down, and I applaud you for interpreting your religious beliefs to do the right thing and encouraging others to do the right thing.

You bring to mind the words of a minister who agreed to marry a couple, one of which was divorced, who the Catholic priests refused to marry. He explained his decision this way: "It is my job to marry people in the eyes of God; it is not my job to decide who gets to marry in the eyes of God."

Thank you, and cheers!
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OtayPanky
You're welcome
12:45 AM on 08/01/2011
One thing we don't want to do here is serve as enablers.

I mean, if Christians want to get their ethical bearings out of a book where their God allegedly commands Moses and the Israelites to commit genocide against the seven tribes occupying the so-called "promised land", that's their disease.

We don't need to make it ours.

We can source our ethics and our moral values from much better documents than that.
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09:56 PM on 07/31/2011
If I introduced you to a bearded, middle-aged unmarried guy who wore sandals and always hung out with his 12 best friends--all who were also men...
...I'm just sayin'. ;-)
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c-tom
Badges we don't need no stinking badges
08:44 AM on 08/01/2011
30 is that middle-aged these days?
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11:20 AM on 08/01/2011
It was 2,000 years ago, Tommy.
Thanks for playing. ;-)
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ZenGardner
Neither believe nor disbelieve.
12:49 PM on 08/02/2011
You mean aside from football...
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09:50 PM on 07/31/2011
Good luck with that.
I'd be happy if they'd just read a science book.
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angelcakesinc
Silence is death
07:58 PM on 07/31/2011
Can you really 'come out' when you're part of the dominant group and your Christianity is assumed anyway? Sorta like coming out straight... not exactly necessary and not overly useful. Chances are you're already assumed to be straight. Unless you're always hanging out with a bunch of gay people, or if you're a Christian always in a group of atheists nobody usually assumes you're not straight or Christian... Bah, whatever. The sentiment of the article is good at least.