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10 Things A Guy Will Say If He Wants to Cheat

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Written by Kiri Blakeley on CafeMom's blog, The Stir.

A couple of years ago, I went to a dinner party. The couple hosting it were nice, good-looking, pleasant and seemed to be really in love. But over the course of the evening, as I was chatting with the husband, I began to get the uneasy feeling that he was... hitting on me. But this can't be, I thought. His wife is in the kitchen. Like, 10 feet away. She just cooked dinner. He just kissed her! But if you don't correctly sense when you're being hit on, then maybe you're not actually female.

Long story short, it turned out that the guy dated other women. And here's the kicker: He claimed his wife was "fine" with it. Only they'd never quite discussed it. He just knew she knew. And she was okay with it. So he said. Yeah, I didn't buy it either. Even if I did, I wasn't interested.

Here are 10 excuses guys use when they want to cheat.

"She knows and is okay with it." I suspect guys who think this genuinely have convinced themselves of it -- it's easier than thinking of themselves as being cheaters.

"She doesn't like sex." Hmm. Maybe not with you -- because you're a cheater.

"She's not interested in sex with me." That can't be true, considering you have three kids. And even if it is true, try therapy.

"She wouldn't care." Then there's no problem in asking her, right?

"We're just together for the children." Then maybe you should be faithful for the children too?

"She knew what I was like when she married me." Oh please. Women think marriage changes everything.

"We're getting divorced." Have they filed? Look it up online. Ask to see the papers.

"We're separated." Call me when you're divorced. Or not.

"She's gay." Then get divorced.

"She doesn't understand me." That makes two of us.

What excuses have you heard when a guy wants to cheat?

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