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Is Focusing On 'Normal' Making Us Unhealthy?

Posted: 09/14/2011 9:23 am

Take a minute and answer this question: Is anyone really normal today?

I mean, even those who claim they are normal may, in fact, be the most neurotic among us, swimming with a nice pair of scuba fins down the river of "Denial." Having my psychiatric file published online and in print for public viewing, I get to hear my share of dirty secrets -- weird obsessions, family dysfunction or disguised addiction -- that are kept concealed from everyone but a self-professed neurotic and maybe a shrink.

"Why are there so many disorders today?" Those seven words, or a variation of them, surface a few times a week. And my take on this query is so complex that, to avoid sounding like my grad school professors making an erudite case that fails to communicate anything to average folks like me, I often shrug my shoulders and move on to a conversation about dessert. Now that I can talk about all day.

Here's the abridged edition of my guess as to why we mark up more pages of the DSM-IV today than, say, a century ago (even though the DSM-IV had yet to be born).

Most experts would agree with me that there is more stress today than in previous generations. Stress triggers depression and mood disorders, so that those who are predisposed to it by their creative wiring or genes are pretty much guaranteed some symptoms of depression at confusing and difficult times of their lives.

I think modern lifestyles -- lack of community and family support, less exercise, no casual and unstructured technology-free play, less sunshine and more computer -- factor into the equation. So does our diet. Hey, I know how I feel after a lunch of processed food, and I don't need to the help of a nutritionist to spot the effect in my 8-year-old son.

Finally, let's also throw in the toxins of our environment. Our fish are dying, a clue that our limbic systems (the brain's emotional center) are not so far behind.

Maybe the same amount of people have genes that predispose them to depression as in the Great Depression. But the lifestyle, toxins and other challenges of today's world tilts the stress scale in the favor of major depression, acute anxiety and their many relatives.

Of course, we can't forget today's technology and cutting-edge research of psychologists, neuroscientists and psychiatrists. Because of medical devices that can scan our brains with impressive precision and the arduous work of scientific studies done in medical labs throughout the country, we know so much more about the brain and its relationship with other biological systems within the human body: digestive, respiratory and circulatory, musculoskeletal and nervous. All of that is a very good thing, as is knowledge and awareness.

A few years ago, psychiatrist and bestselling author Peter Kramer penned an interesting article for Psychology Today rebutting the claims of popular authors -- spawning a new genre of psychological literature -- that doctors are abusing their diagnostic powers, labeling boyishness as "ADHD," normal sadness and grief as "major depression" and shyness as "social phobia." Because of their rushed schedules and some laziness, doctors are narrowing the spectrum of normal human emotion, slapping a diagnosis on all conditions and medicating people who would be better served with a little coaching, direction and psychotherapy.

As I explained in my piece "Are We Overmedicating? Or Is Our Health Care System Inadequate?," I believe the problem is far more complicated than overmedication. I'd be more comfortable labeling it "really bad health care." And if I had to pick a culprit, I'd point my finger at our health care insurance policies, not the doctors themselves. But I don't even want to get into that, because it causes my blood pressure to rise and I'm trying really hard lately to live like a Buddhist monk.

What I liked about Kramer's article is that he doesn't deny that there are more diagnoses today, and yes, some people may feel the damaging effect of stigma. However, more often than not, diagnosis brings relief and treatment to a behavior, condition or neurosis that would otherwise decay certain parts of a person's life, especially his marriage and relationships with children, bosses, co-workers and, dare I say, in-laws? Kramer writes:

"Diagnosis, however loose, can bring relief, along with a plan for addressing the problem at hand. Parents who might have once thought of a child as slow or eccentric now see him as having dyslexia or Asperger's syndrome -- and then notice similar tendencies in themselves. But there's no evidence that the proliferation of diagnoses has done harm to our identity. Is dyslexia worse than what it replaced: the accusation, say, that a child is stupid and lazy?"

"People afflicted by disabling panic or depression may fully embrace the disease model. A diagnosis can restore a sense of wholeness by naming, and confining, an ailment. That mood disorders are common and largely treatable makes them more acceptable; to suffer them is painful but not strange."

Then Kramer asks this question: What would it feel like to live in a world where practically no one was normal? Where few people are free from "psychological defect?" What if normalcy was a mere myth? He ends the article with this poignant paragraph:

"We are used to the concept of medical shortcomings; we face disappointing realizations -- that our triglyceride levels and our stress tolerance are not what we would wish. Normality may be a myth we have allowed ourselves to enjoy for decades, sacrificed now to the increasing recognition of differences. The awareness that we all bear flaw is humbling. But it could lead us to a new sense of inclusiveness and tolerance, recognition that imperfection is the condition of every life."

Amen to that.

 

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Take a minute and answer this question: Is anyone really normal today? I mean, even those who claim they are normal may, in fact, be the most neurotic among us, swimming with a nice pair of scuba f...
Take a minute and answer this question: Is anyone really normal today? I mean, even those who claim they are normal may, in fact, be the most neurotic among us, swimming with a nice pair of scuba f...
 
 
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08:08 PM on 09/15/2011
Perhaps we need to redefine our definitions of "normal"? Seems to me society has gotten very rigid and narrow about what is acceptable; everything's a pathology, nothing'f human behavior.
03:46 PM on 09/15/2011
So what you're saying is that it's normal for us not to be normal, so we shouldn't try to be normal? But if it's normal for us to not be normal, than if we accept that we are not all normal we must accept that we are normal...

This is the problem with applying statistics to human behaviour.
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wallyone
08:16 AM on 09/15/2011
Sometimes normal is normal, and only a fool or a therapist would equate denying being abnormal is proof of being abnormal. For example, the psyche community has been so destructive in its embrace of recovered memory, which has no basis in science. People imprisoned and families and lives destroyed by the belief in satanic cults, day care abuse, ritualized infanticide, and so forth (all proved false yet sanctioned by therapists) tell you what you need to know.
04:22 AM on 09/15/2011
The winners write the history.

The averages decide what is "normal", and they always unconsciously try to make it sound equivalent to "right."

Reality is that from an objective, scientific point of view, we only have "average/common" or "rare."
03:37 AM on 09/15/2011
Here's a somewhat simpler, laic persons reason why: Bad parenting being a biggie. Parents don't take the time and effort rearing kids as was done in the past. So when a kid acts up, it is automaticaly, "OMG ! The kid has a disorder. Quick, give me a pill to fix it." And the reason that is so common: TV. You turn on any station, at any time of the day and you are bombarded with all these ads for drugs that will cure everything for bad breath, to mood swings & depression. And to top ot all off, the pharmaceutical giants spend millions wooing doctors to use their pills. And (gasp) I do believe that some doctors get 'kick-backs". It is soo much easier to perscribe a pill than go any other route. And to make it worse, many people BELIEVE the malarky that the TV spouts. People ! That is only an "admans" spin on a pack of lies.
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J Maness
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01:00 AM on 09/15/2011
I'm not sure if it makes us unhealthy, but the focus on "normal" certainly makes the collective us more boring.
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Chad Wheeler
12:52 PM on 09/15/2011
I agree whole heartedly. When I hear stories about eccentrics, I find them inspiring and interesting, and would much rather be around someone whose house is filled with old drugs or Tibetan cookbooks or rare fish than the "normal" person.
10:17 PM on 09/14/2011
"Normal" is no longer a condition. It's a judgement. Why can't one have ADHD and be normal?
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asdusty
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10:16 PM on 09/14/2011
There is no such thing as normal. So, yes, it is unhealthy to focus in something that does not exist.
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french queen13
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08:35 PM on 09/14/2011
As another article said, 'normal' is being given a narrower and narrower definition by those who put themselves in positions of power - Big Pharma and medicine-fixated psychiatrists (which does not mean all psychiatricsts, let alone psychologists, take note). Why should humans all have to fit into one neat little box of what's 'normal', especially when the definitions are likely to be heavily influenced by the pronouncer's biases.

I dispute the idea that humans are more stressed than before. For one thing, this only refers to the well-off in a first-world society, the whole high-tech lifestyle business. Vast areas of the world face the same stresses humans always have - the stresses of just surviving. I somehow doubt stress is, or was, unknown (even if unnamed) to subsistence farmers for whom famine is an ever-present dange, for example. A highly technological society has created its own variations on the theme, but living in and with stress is nothing new.
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jstrate
08:14 PM on 09/14/2011
I suppose normal in medicine has a statistical definition--within plus or minus two standard deviations of the mean. If you fall outside that confidence interval, look out! You are unusual to be sure--only one in 40 lie withint your tail of the distribution, only one in 40 within the other tail. If you measure enough stuff, however, practically everyone will be unusual on something, if only by chance. Natural selection is not an intelligent designer. It prepared us for the environments of the past, not the screwed up environments of the present. Adopt a few habits of our H-G ancestors (e.g., walk 5K a day; eat vegetables and lean meats, get some sunshine, have some friends, look after family, don't work too hard) and chances are good that you will be o.k.
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charleyvldm9
He thinks outside the box.
07:41 PM on 09/14/2011
20% of the American population is "half mad,"(needs Mental Evaluation) that's 60 million of them not us,you see and read about some of them acting out..Lets ask Drs.Phil,Oz,and Drew what to do as they can confirm these figures.
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robert horwitz
06:33 PM on 09/14/2011
Therese I have thought about all of this and came to similar conclusions if not exactly the same conclusions long ago. I must say that I did get an early jump on knowing that the World is far from perfect. When I was about three years old I received a box of Cracker Jacks. (NO PRIZE). Though up to that point I thought that I was a fairly well adjusted and happy kid. This was my moment of realization that the World was not as advertised.
05:20 PM on 09/14/2011
"Imperfection is the state of every life". Amen to that. What's worth exploring is WHAT we consider to BE "imperfection". Who / what decides whether something/someone is "perfect" /"imperfect"? "There's something WRONG WITH YOU"! does that make it so?
I'm also a follower of the we-often-create-"problems"-where-none-exist school and factor in two additionals: there's always something we don't know/understand - and - humanity has expanded/flourished because of DIVERSITY/FLEXIBILITY - not - CONFORMITY/RIGIDITY.
Thus, the more we rigidly "dogmatize" normal/abnormal. right/wrong, perfect/imperfect, the more "problems" we are likely to perceive/create.
I recall a brief conversation with someone who was an acquaintance. A close friend of hers (who I did not know) had died a few days prior. This lady apologized for FEELING GRIEF. Her words: "I know I SHOULD'NT FEEL GRIEF. I KNOW IT'S NOT SPIRITUAL TO FEEL GRIEF. I know we should'nt feel like that but I DO ANYWAY". If I had been her counsellor I would have said to her: "WHY on Earth do you believe that GRIEF is "NOT SPIRITUAL" ? And - "WHY is "spiritual" SO important above EVERYTHING ELSE" ?
You see, here was someone who BELIEVED she was "imperfect" because she experienced One of THE most "normal" emotions. Her beliefs based on some rigid dogmas about "spirituality".
That's typical of the sort of thing we do to ourselves - and each other - so much of the time.
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CMontalvo
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04:47 PM on 09/14/2011
A far larger contributor to this phenomenon is society's embrace of victimology, a wide-spread aversion to accepting personal responsibility for our actions. We didn't screw up...we're ILL! We don't need to apologize...we just need some therapy! It wasn't MY fault...this was done TO me!

Aversion to personal accountability has become rampant. When student test scores reflect poor instruction, the teachers respond, "The tests aren't valid", "They're measuring the wrong thing", "You can't measure the most important "soft learning" skills". When Washington dismantles Depression-era banking regulations and the economy crashes, the pols say, "It was those evil bankers/homeowners", "This didn't happen on our watch", "It was all caused by excessive greed". When the ranks of the middle-class shrink, we say, "The rich are stealing all the wealth", "The system is exploiting the poor", "All the jobs are being sent to China".

The era of assuming personal responsibility for our fate seems like a totally foreign concept today...ESPECIALLY on this site. Wonder whether it will ever come back into vogue...
ThePeacemakers
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04:45 PM on 09/14/2011
"Normality may be a myth we have allowed ourselves to enjoy for decades, sacrificed now to the increasing recognition of differences...."

It also seems that a lot of the myths people live are from the Agricultural Age, which were then clumsily adapted to the Industrial Age, and which people are still clinging to.