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Is Meditation Self-Indulgent?

Posted: 06/24/2012 12:00 pm

"I just feel like there are so many problems out there in the world, me sitting in silence doesn't really do anything for them." Juan is a close friend and meditation student. His question rattled me. He continued, "It just feels too self-indulgent."

Many new meditators have the experience of questioning not just the utility of meditation but also the morality of it. But, is he right? Is meditation indulgent? Absolutely.

Meditation is complete indulgence in the experience of the present moment. We often think of indulgent behavior as being morally wrong, which it can be when it comes at the expense of a deeper connectedness.

We are sometimes taught to put the needs of others before the needs of ourselves -- even to our own detriment. Roshi Joan Halifax brilliantly refers to this as "pathological compassion." Health care workers are often described as having "compassion fatigue," a form of burnout that is widely discussed in more than 200 published papers. Interestingly, studies of compassion fatigue in health care workers show that it is associated with worse outcomes for their patients. Simply put, ignoring our own well-being in the face of stress can actually result in harm to others.

These findings are not just relevant to health care workers. Stress levels are extremely high throughout our country, especially in the midst of an economic crisis. Higher levels of stress have consistently demonstrated higher levels of chronic health problems, psychological illness, and violence.

As a means of dealing with stress, there are acceptable and unacceptable outlets. Escapism -- through alcohol, overeating, watching television, overworking, and legal or illegal medicating -- is seen as an acceptable, and paradoxically non-indulgent, outlet. Many patients appear for counseling after these methods have failed, or worse, done harm. Escapism does not address the root causes of stress; it gives temporary reprieve -- a quick stir of a boiling pot -- at the expense of deeper connectedness with self and others. And often, the very methods that we use to escape stress may cause further harm down the line.

Rather, acknowledging and being present with our stress through meditative practice is the best way of reducing it. By fully acknowledging our pain, we learn to be more authentic with ourselves and with others. Sitting quietly every day and focusing on the breath and the experience of oneself alone can be, as Jon Kabat-Zinn says, "a radical act of love."

Meditation is spiritual housekeeping. To meditate is to sweep the rooms of the stress of daily life. Would it be seen as overly self-indulgent to vacuum the living room before the arrival of a guest? The intimate silence afforded by meditation allows us to communicate with fewer interruptions from the mental static of stress.

What about the vast problems of the world, as Juan had asked? How does meditation help global starvation? Meditation doesn't purport to solve all the problems of the world, it simply focuses on developing a place of inner calm. But if 7 billion people found a place of inner calm, the world would know a greater peace.

Is meditation self-indulgent? Maybe selfless-indulgence might be a more accurate description.

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"I just feel like there are so many problems out there in the world, me sitting in silence doesn't really do anything for them." Juan is a close friend and meditation student. His question rattled me.
"I just feel like there are so many problems out there in the world, me sitting in silence doesn't really do anything for them." Juan is a close friend and meditation student. His question rattled me.
 
 
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
04:47 PM on 08/08/2012
It is not self-indulgent if one meditates with the heart and finds the soul.
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
11:59 AM on 06/28/2012
Is meditation self-indulgent? Maybe selfless-indulgence might be a more accurate description.
brilliant!
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oldstuff
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12:18 AM on 06/28/2012
does anybody know of any meditation that doesn't require a belief in some mystical creature, Chakra, creator, you get the point, a non magical thinking meditation?
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01:03 PM on 06/28/2012
There is no obligation with meditation to offer your first born or chant the name of some past guru or mystical creature.

Meditation can be as simple as just being still and quiet in your mind....simply staring a flower on a warm summer day or enjoying a quiet moment as the sun sets etc....

I find long runs quite meditative....my mind may have 1001 things running through it...but i really don't get too "stuck" on any of them...eventually my mind comes back to my breathing...the sound of my feet pounding against the ground, the feeling of sweat pouring off my head...etc...

Meditation really isn't about anything mystical...its simply practicing a state of being...allowing the "drama" of your ego and mind to take a back seat...

You can simply sit or lay quietly and just focus on your breath...let the thoughts come and go and try to sit outside of them while you stay in the moment.
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01:44 PM on 08/08/2012
Yes.
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12:28 AM on 08/09/2012
that was very helpful
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Dale Deaux
12:00 PM on 06/27/2012
I have a tough time understanding how something meant to essentially separate one from the self is selfish... If you're thinking about anything, yourself, or even your breath while you are meditating, you aren't doing it right.

Mind you, my meditation experience is in the Zen tradition, and I know there are many different types of meditation, but from my study of other forms, this seems to be the point to all of them, separation from the self.
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MadTeaparty
01:45 PM on 08/08/2012
Not separation from self; just working with mind.
03:50 PM on 06/26/2012
I love meditating! As I learn to direct all of my concentration onto my breathing, I begin to feel so relaxed and I can actually feel the stress in my life begin to melt away. And I definitely don't think it's self indulgent. How can taking care of your spirit and mental health, a feat which is necessary for your functioning as a compassionate human being, be consider self indulgent?
09:08 PM on 06/26/2012
That's great, Michaela! I'm glad that you find it to be a positive stress release. I think that taking care of our health is such a critical part of our human experience. Unfortunately, many people find it to be indulgent or silly or somewhat esoteric; people get labeled as "new-agey" or "health nuts." What do you think is the best way to get rid of labels like that?
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Dale Deaux
11:55 AM on 06/27/2012
The best thing is not to get rid of them. It helps separate the sublime from the dross. You used the perfect word, Esoteric... it's internal, hidden, and not for everyone.
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01:46 PM on 08/08/2012
Labels are a problem for labellers, not those who are labelled.
08:33 AM on 06/26/2012
Grate post. Thank you. The crucial point I think when doing meditation is you have to believe that you are originally pure. The soul is pure when it expresses innate truths. Here is one of the best tool I think, helping in meditation. Visit this: http://budurl.com/brainsys
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ethelmertzrules
Repetition doesn't make it true
05:46 PM on 06/25/2012
Meditating is the best possible way to be selfish, if you want to call it that. 15 minutes spent visioning, mapping out your day or just sitting still makes you a better you. Some religious folks I know refer to it like this: Prayer and Affirmation are you speaking to God/Universal Spirit and meditating is you being open to the answer.
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Claude Hosch
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08:14 PM on 06/24/2012
Each person chosing to begin meditation makes the world one person better, one act at a time..
06:58 AM on 06/25/2012
I love that statement, Claude. Thanks for sharing.
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Claude Hosch
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12:49 PM on 06/25/2012
Thanks Timothy.
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Lisa Arends
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06:20 PM on 06/24/2012
I know for me, those 5-20 minutes I take for myself each day make me a better partner, friend, coach, and teacher. I can help others better by taking the time to help myself.
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05:40 AM on 06/24/2012
Perhaps...so?
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george martini
I wasn't always this introverted.
02:53 PM on 06/24/2012
How dare you meditate for your own sake? You are being selfish to yourself for taking too much time with yourself instead of spending more time with your ego.
03:41 PM on 06/24/2012
Got nuthin on the 1%ers and the gop for selfish!
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budanatr
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05:19 AM on 06/24/2012
Good article Timothy.
Can meditation help global starvation and other global problems? The answer is an unequivocal yes.

When one takes a few moments to meditate, answers to problems often find their answers. Even questions as overwhelming as global starvation. Here are some free meditations to try out. http://1ness4u.wordpress.com/meditation/. There is one called the Peace Meditation I found somewhere that helps you meditate for global peace.

Meditation can be experienced as something very practical for solving problems.

The answers are available for all our problems.
01:03 PM on 06/24/2012
I totally agree that we can access unimaginable insight through meditation. Sometimes I often grapple with the question of when and if more assertive actions are needed to address things that we would consider to be unjust. For example, what role would meditation play in mediating the situation in Syria? I think it is a very interesting question, one for which I'm still trying to answer myself.
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george martini
I wasn't always this introverted.
02:56 PM on 06/24/2012
I totally agree, except for the middle part and some of the words at the beginning and end of your insightful comment. Keep up the good work and say hello to Rupert for me.
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budanatr
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02:27 AM on 06/25/2012
From my experience it is essential to take 'next steps'. Keeping in mind that all things are possible and that, through meditation, we have access to all the answers necessary.
Sometimes it helps to start on a small, more local project. See a problem in your neighborhood, state or country. Meditate and surrender into the Infinite with no agenda. Then, from that perspective, examine the problem or situation. The solution will usually become apparent. The steps to that solution will usually become apparent as well. After the meditation is over, take the first step and then continue on.

Accomplishing solutions with small projects can cause us to have confidence and trust that we can accomplish anything no matter how large.

My personal perspective and experience teach me that we are all responsible for one another. We are all part of an infinite Whole. If we see unjustness in the world then we are responsible to do something to correct that. If we see lies and actions that harm others then we are responsible to do something about it.

Meditating on peace and expecting to see peace and justice in Syria is not going to be as effective as acting in the world to help the Syrian people win in their struggle to have a free, peaceful and open society.

Meditation is an essential part of my day. So is getting off my a$$ to take steps necessary to effect change and help my world.

Compassion without action is dust.
05:03 AM on 06/24/2012
Meditation should not be dabbled in as it will change you significantly if you persist in it. For those who prefer to remain as they are, don't meditate just criticize those who do.
If practiced regularly, Meditation will open up your mind in the sense that you will find your mind unpeeling like an onion, your paradigms will shift and your perspectives on what is normal will change. Soon you will disconnect from normality and lose interest in the chase, opting for solitude. You may find yourself becoming more compassionate or change jobs. In other words, you will see things completely differently than you did before.
01:20 PM on 06/24/2012
My teacher says, "make no mistake, meditation is a grueling practice." So true.
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george martini
I wasn't always this introverted.
02:56 PM on 06/24/2012
“You cannot travel the path until you have become the path itself”
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Claude Hosch
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08:30 PM on 06/24/2012
Meditation will change one, for the better if practiced 'properly' with importunity. True solitude is not a separation from people, but a separation from the rumination of thoughts in the brain. For those losing touch with reality; they may be quietly fantasizing about imaginary things, not knowing they are not meditating.

"The hidden valley has no partiality; any call will be echoed."