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The Bitter Truth

Posted: 06/24/11 03:26 PM ET

Last week, New York Times reporter, Danny Hakim discovered the unmistakable pattern of a crime -- the suspicious death of Jonathan Carey, a series of questionable actors who were close to the deceased at the time of his death, a string of denials by those close to the scene, refusals by those same actors to speak on the record, and a medical report that points to foul play. What may have shocked readers however, is that the crime was not discovered in an underworld mob family or in a drug cartel but among the State of New York's caregivers for people with intellectual disabilities.

Did the State of New York kill Jonathan Carey?

Probably. Carey was a 14-year-old with autism who was under the care of the State. The likely perpetrator was an employee of the state. The denials are coming from leaders in the state. The outrageous likelihood is that the State did kill Jonathan Carey. And the even more stunning reality is that such a crime against a person with intellectual disability is far from rare around the world.

Last week, the World Health Organization (WHO) confirmed that New York is just the tip of the iceberg. After 30 years of bypassing the health of people with disabilities, the WHO has now reported what has been obvious to people with intellectual disabilities around the world: people with disabilities are an enormous and growing population and their care and support is in crisis. The medical profession is ill equipped to care for them, governments are largely ignoring them, and most interventions designed to help promote public health and education fail to reach them. In most developing countries, care is abominable. Jonathan Carey's tragic death from neglect and mistreatment is almost certainly being repeated daily around the world.

How is it possible that more than three decades after the United States began to desegregate schools for people with intellectual disabilities, more than two decades after the United States passed the Americans with Disabilities Act, and five years after the United Nations adopted the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities, a massive dignity deficit remains? The bitter truth is that subtle but persistent discrimination against people with intellectual disabilities remains rampant around the world. Sadly, most people still perceive a person with an intellectual disability as incapable of contributing to his community and thus, treat her as a liability that is all too easily ignored. The language we use is revealing: they are "in-valids", "retards", "dis-abled".

It's a short distance from that type of discrimination to abuse and even murder, but it's an equally short distance from empowerment to dignity. In recent months, the eyes of the world have been mesmerized by courageous activists in the Arab world as they seek to validate their own dignity in the face of oppressive regimes. They have deployed novel tools -- Twitter, Facebook, and other social media -- to carry out a new kind of social revolution: a Dignity Revolution. The most compelling message of those protests wasn't about technology or even about political parties or economics. It was the sign held by a single Libyan man carrying his homemade sign reading, "Ana Rajul;" in English, "I am a man." He had caught and was spreading the dignity virus.

I wish I had his name so I could make him an honored guest at the next stop on the Dignity Revolution, the largest gathering of people with intellectual disabilities in the world, the Special Olympics World Games in Athens, beginning July 25th. There, 7,500 people of all ages from nearly 180 countries will return to the home of the ancient Olympics to compete in sports. But make no mistake. They are also coming with an unmistakable determination to lead a dignity revolution all their own -- to attract government leaders, health care professionals, educators, sports organizations, educators and perhaps most importantly, average citizens of every age and color to their own global movement. Their goal is the most difficult of all revolutionary goals: to change people's attitudes, to open people's hearts.

But nothing less is sufficient. Changing laws and rules is necessary but not sufficient. Desegregating spaces or organizations has never been an adequate response to fear and discrimination. Adopting conventions and improving funding formulas has never been enough to change the way people think and feel. For those who seek dignity, governments and their structures are often an obstacle but they are rarely the totality of the solution. The real engine of acceptance and dignity is your neighbor, your classmate, your colleague at work. Governments can't force them to think more openly or to see dignity more universally.

The real source of Jonathan Carey's death is us -- all of us who have considered him and his fellow human beings with intellectual challenges to be less deserving of dignity. The real source of the world's most powerful revolt against that long and painful history of indignity is the voice of empowered people with intellectual disabilities. They aren't as likely to have as many articulate representatives as other groups -- or a sophisticated social media infrastructure behind them, but they each proclaim "Ana Rajul." They have open hearts, courage in their attempt to be seen, and most stunningly, a magnetic authenticity. Theirs is a dignity revolution unlike others, destined to reshape not just the laws of nations, but the hearts of people.

If the world listens, tragedies like Jonathan Carey's death will become less likely in the years ahead. Joining this dignity revolution would be the only reasonable way to pay our respects to his short and undignified life.

 
 
 
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ThinkCreeps
Seriously, it's time.
04:53 AM on 06/27/2011
I don't know about that. Two thirds of two term presidents since 1980 have had exceptionally severe `intellectual challenges'. It didn't end well, but you can't say there's a glass ceiling in smart.
08:06 AM on 06/26/2011
You want the freebies the government gives them but not the dissatisfaction of society.

Seems to me that if you take one you'll get the other, whether it is fair or not.
01:26 PM on 06/26/2011
You know, something I never thought of until just now - the physically disabled are living longer partially because of medical breakthroughs which have extended the lives of many able-bodied people as well. Maybe their care is just a consequence we have to live with in return for extended lives for everyone? Just a thought.
09:03 PM on 06/25/2011
Sorry, I appreciate the compassion but the larger concern is how little is done to help the able-bodied, able minded. Look what a large percentage of school budgets goes to meet the ADA laws for such a small number, while kids who have possibility of bright and productive future have so many unmet needs.
Accommodation is a good thing but I just can't buy the argument that not enough has been done. The bathrooms I now have to wait in line for used to be multi- stalled, but renovated to ADA specs, so only one person at a time ...even if just to use the sink. I'm not minding that fact but realize the hardship placed on business to renovate and example of how much has been done since ADA.
I know it sounds cold, but money IS an object (otherwise, why are so many healthy children's lives being destroyed). Far too many resources go for the oldest infirm and the severely disabled and severely disabled are saved with Herculean efforts.
As a mother, if I bore a child that was profoundly disabled, I would believe the moral choice would be to allow that child to die humanely. I could never feel right about keeping a child alive for 20 years unable to walk, toilet, eat, and requiring multiple surgeries, nurses and 24/7 care.
It's wrong. If there were unlimited resources and we were saving healthy children, then I'd have another view. It is misplaced compassion.
12:10 AM on 06/26/2011
Why, this is beyond infuriating! You're blaming the lack of funding in education on those useless disabled kids?! REALLY???!!! I'm sure it would be easier for you and your trips to the bathroom if my mother had died, but she just WOULDN'T. And now you have to put up with her out in society, taking up your precious space and "destroying healthy children's lives" with her accommodation needs. I'm sure you'd rather my Dad keep her and her wheelchair at home out of your way. I wish you could live just one day of their life. Then I wish you could return to your own because no one should have to be in my Mom's situation. I wouldn't even wish it on someone like you.

My 13-year-old daughter, who is reading all this over my shoulder, points out that people like you only want to live in a perfect bubble with no unpleasant experiences. My daughter is a significantly better person than you will ever be, with your twisted view of who is valuable and who isn't.
12:30 AM on 06/26/2011
Your response is silly. I "only want to live in a perfect bubble with no unpleasant experiences" is your reduction? How about a world where hundreds of thousands of children who would and could be healthy and live if money were NOT an issue. You want to live in fantasy world pretending money is not the issue and because of that you are part of the problem.
You are intellectually dishonest. And you dig low to think the point of the bathroom renovations was my waiting or not, when I made it clear it was simply an example of what has been done at owners expense to the argument not enough has been done.
And I also made it very clear that diasbled or wheelchair bound was not the issue, but the severely disabled kept alive with Heroic measures at enormous expense.
12:37 AM on 06/26/2011
There isn't enough money for everything. If there were we'd have fully funded global vaccinations and malaria tents, and AIDS meds. It does come down to choices. I'd rather we fully funded vaccinations, malaria and AIDS meds than keeping a severely disabled person half alive for 30 years, or all the seniors in nursing homes who will never, ever leave except for a coffin, being spoon fed, diaper changed....or those who are last year or two of alzheimers..no memories....diaper changed and spoon fed and not really here. Why? Why are 80% of our medical costs spent in the last few weeks of life?
It is immoral so get off your pristine, high horse and have some moral courage to look at the situation.
08:54 PM on 06/25/2011
One of my sons has autism but is very high functioning and "passes" as "normal", whatever that means!! but he doesn't fit in, in either world, and remains very isolated except for our immediate family. he desperately wants "friends" and live a normal social life but it is very difficult because of his awkwardness in social situations. But he has come such a long way- works PT and lives alone in his own place- cleaning and cooking for himself. what many people don't realize is that you can be only minimally disabled or different and you won't really be embraced by most of society. And although he likes being alone, he is also quite lonely. And he is such a terrific person that he -along with many other people with disabilities -would be great friends to have!!
05:08 PM on 06/25/2011
More action needs t be taken to prevent and stop bullying against kids with autism and other disorders in the schools.
05:07 PM on 06/25/2011
While we strive to give everyone a place in society with dignity, employers make it more and more difficult for people to find jobs because of their insistence on "perfect candidates."
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Deep Thinking Man
Always Remember, A Wet Bird Never Flies At Night !
01:12 PM on 06/25/2011
in one way or another; you've all made valid points !!!!!!!...so i've fanned you all !!!!!!!
11:47 AM on 06/25/2011
I come at this from a somewhat unusual perspective. In 1984, when I was 11, my beautiful and vivacious 36-year-old mother suffered a ruptured cerebral aneurysm. She survived - a partially paralyzed, mentally diminished shell of her former self. She's 62 now, and my Dad has taken care of her all these years, including being her Special Olympics coach. Ten years ago, I moved my family back to my home town and built a house next door to my parents so I can help him as they both get older and more infirm.

Now I volunteer at my former elementary school as a Battle of the Books coach. The first meeting of every year, I go over the school rules and the competition rules. I always end the meeting by imparting my own single Personal Rule. I do not allow the insult "retard" or "retarded" in my practice space. Students are allowed one strike because they're young and forgetful. But the second time, either the student goes or I do. Then I tell them about my past and how RIGHT HERE IN THIS VERY SCHOOL my peers routinely bullied me for having a "retarded" mother. Most of them don't know the word is hurtful. Some of them hear their parents use it. But they're all moved by my story and if I can get them to stop and think about their words in my presence, maybe they will learn to stop and think, period.
07:26 AM on 06/25/2011
I would recommend this health insurance plan i found through "Penny Health" to anyone with a growing family who is looking to minimize their medical expenses.
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Jake Thomas
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04:52 AM on 06/25/2011
What needs to be recognized is that there is no human genome, no two of us are alike we are all unique. Disabled really refers to living in a world designed to cater to the average. Neurological diversity and physical diversity are things to be celebrated it contibutes to our colour and variety.
The focus needs to be on ability and how best to maximize that for everyone.
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Deep Thinking Man
Always Remember, A Wet Bird Never Flies At Night !
12:59 PM on 06/25/2011
YGB, Janice, and Jake,
you are all correct !!!!!...society has stigmitized people with disabilities !!!!!... please don't get me wrong...i'm not crying in my beer, so to speak, but it does make me angry when so-called "normal" people do not/will not/cannot see the world through the eyes of people with disabilities. all of my life, i've had to "adapt" to the "normal" world; it hasn't been easy for me to so, but i've done it to my satisfaction.

since i'm older now, i have to make a few changes that i've sworn i'd never do (a wheelchair on a sometimes basis, a bath seat, and lift chair). my knee joints are shot, and i'm a bit shakey, but i'm not giving up !!!! i admire you three for what you've said, and YGB, i admire you in particular for what you've done for your parents and for your teachings !!!!!

you're all three fanned !!!!!!!
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Deep Thinking Man
Always Remember, A Wet Bird Never Flies At Night !
10:00 PM on 06/24/2011
i have Cerebral Palsy, Spina Bifida Occulta, Spinal Stenosis, Scoliosis, Epilepsy (a side-effect of the CP), and i've had 2 low-back surgeries (L4-L5). i've had, and maybe still do, the feelings of inferiority. i've had to do twice the work of others to hold every job i've had.

i was always told, "you can be anything you want to be, and you can do anything you want to do". when it can time to do and be, i was told, "oh, you can't do that, you'll hurt yourself". whet i've accomplished, i've done myself. i never had "accomodations" while i was in school. i went to a Jr. College and was told, "we aren't mandated to accomodate you". i'm going go to Southern Illinois University Carbondale to persue my Masters Degree in Rehabilitation Administration. my plan is to work to help pass laws to bring respect and understanding for people with any disabilities visible, or invisible.
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Mizz Givens
I'm only mean 'cause you're stupid.
11:19 PM on 06/24/2011
Yeah, that whole "you can be/do whatever you want" is a load of crap, right up there with "everyone has disabilities" or "everyone has a cross to bear." I hate it when people tell me to tell my son that. I call BS on it every time, and so does my son, because, as he said, special education ain't special at all.
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Deep Thinking Man
Always Remember, A Wet Bird Never Flies At Night !
11:47 PM on 06/24/2011
yepMizz Givens, i'm in total agrrement with you and your son !!!!!!
open2facts
because, sometimes, I'm wrong
06:06 PM on 06/25/2011
As the mother of a severely (MR and Autism) disabled son, I'm with you Mizz. All I can hope for is that he can be all that he is able to be within the confines of his disability. At this point (age 20) speaking would be nice.
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whirlybird
Time's a-wastin'!
12:13 AM on 06/25/2011
Good luck to you....you deserve it.
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jozie
Is war about who's right or who's left?
08:49 PM on 06/24/2011
Correction - World Games begin June 25th, not July 25th, The official website is athens2011.org
08:31 PM on 06/24/2011
The "survival must be earned" ethos that's being relentlessly promoted, the Social Darwinism and the moral code that says that greed is good and that there must be losers to be horribly punished, that is the biggest enemy of humankind in general. There is no room for dignity for these people.
DUSAA-1775
never moon a werewolf
08:19 PM on 06/24/2011
The extreme left quickly ignored Obama's pleas for civility. The WI union protesters would rather steal attention from the Special Olympics than honor a dignity revolution.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcuqM1LEi5c
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whirlybird
Time's a-wastin'!
12:14 AM on 06/25/2011
Inappropriate and off-topic.
DUSAA-1775
never moon a werewolf
06:22 AM on 06/25/2011
You are , of course welcome to your own opinion. However how is my post off-topic? The article is about treating people with respect and dignity... which is what obama's call for civility was about. .. which has been ignored by many on the left.
The WI union protesters disrupting a day meant to honor and reward those in the Special Olympics, is but one example how they do not support nor honor a dignity revolution.
08:10 PM on 06/24/2011
A dignity revolution! Excellent suggestion and one that requires positive thinking and positive (but simple) action. I've been the champion of that for my severely daughter and people definitely give her the dignity to which she is entitled. Many have learned a lot about dignity from and because of her. Many others could learn from from many disabled individuals if they would stop for just a moment and consider the humanity of each person and the dignity that accompanies that.

An excellent post!