"Autism ... steals the soul from a child; then, if allowed, relentlessly sucks life's marrow out of the family members, one by one." So wrote Dr. Jerry Kartzinel in the introduction to Jenny McCarthy's bestselling "Louder Than Words." No wonder, then, that the concept of neurodiversity-- the idea that we should understand and accept autistic people as a group that thinks differently from the majority -- has proven to be so controversial.
After all, if autism is really the soul-stealing, marrow-sucking beast that Dr. Kartzinel describes, then certainly it should be cured. Neurodiversity is often dismissed as nothing more than a luxury available only to "high-functioning" autistic people, with nothing to offer to those more severely affected by autism.
I came up against this point of view many times as I made "Loving Lampposts: Living Autistic," my documentary about autism, and I've wrestled with it myself.
Even though my son struggles with communication and social interaction and suffers from multiple anxieties, most people who meet him would probably describe him as high-functioning. There's a decent chance that he can grow up to hold a job and live on his own. Neurodiversity makes sense for him, but why should I -- or anyone else -- assume that it makes sense for "lower-functioning" autistic people?
This sounds like a reasonable question, but in fact, I think it's really evidence of our misunderstanding of the concept of the autism spectrum. Everyone accepts the idea that autism is a spectrum disorder that affects each autistic person differently. What's less obvious -- but perhaps much more important -- is that a single autistic person can reside at different places on the autism spectrum at different times.
Take my son, for example. Try to get him on to a New York subway's C train (of which he has a huge phobia), and he'll writhe and scream and need physical restraint to prevent him from accidentally hurting himself or someone else. But give him a pen and a pad of paper and ask him to write his favorite words, and you'll be certain he's high-functioning.
More dramatically, consider the case of Sharisa Joy Kochmeister, one of the first autistic people I met as I made my film. Sharisa is nonverbal, and from the time she was 2 until she was 12, everyone assumed that she could not communicate. She had an IQ of 30 and was placed in special education classes that were not much more than babysitting. A classic case of low-functioning autism.