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Celebrating Gay Pride

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Gay Pride is about celebrating; celebrating everything we have accomplished. Everything we still have to accomplish. Most importantly it's about celebrating who we are. Not as gay individuals, but just as individuals. Now that may sound odd to some. It's gay pride -- why not celebrate being gay? Quite simply put, because we are so much more than that. Being gay is such a small part of who we are, it should be the last thing that defines us -- not the first thing.

This by no way means living closeted or not being proud to be gay. It means allowing others to see us as a person first and foremost. When you tell some one you are gay it only tells that person you are attracted to members of the same sex. It does nothing to tell that person who you are. Isn't that just as important if not more important than who you are attracted to?

Yes I'm attracted to men and in love with one of the most amazing men I'll ever meet. However, I'm more than that. I am a son, a brother, an uncle, a father to my four-legged kids, and a husband. I enjoy Star Wars, comics and movies. I prefer beer over wine. I like to cook and bake. I'm originally from the East Coast. I am rehabbing a 100-plus year old house with my husband. I'm a loyal friend and will go out of my way to help friends or family. All of those things tell a person more about who I am as a person than "I'm gay".

Yes telling some one I'm gay is important. However knowing all that other stuff is even more important. When a person knows the former along with the small detail of being gay hopefully they will come to realize being gay does not define us. What defines us is what we stand for, our actions, and our interests not who we are attracted to.

So please remember while celebrating Gay Pride, remember to celebrate who are and to show others who you are. That is most important part of Gay Pride.

This blog originally appeared on Diary of a Drag Queen's Husband.