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Senator Steve Lonegan of New Jersey: Please explain to me what you mean by your comment "It's kind of weird. As a guy, I personally like being a guy" in regards to Newark Mayor Cory Booker and his sexual orientation. Yes, there is speculation that he may or may not be gay, but that is not what is important right now. I would like to know if you honestly feel that a gay man 'isn't a guy' or 'doesn't like being a guy.' To me your comment comes across that way and if that is the way you feel I'm ashamed to even say that I was born and raised in New Jersey.

I can ensure you that as a gay man I'm 100 percent a guy and I find it offensive that you would insinuate that gay men are not man enough. Being gay does not make one less of a man. In my opinion it makes him more of man.

We have to deal with bigots like you who are closed minded and intolerant every day of our lives. Some of us grow up feeling like we are less than others because of politicians with views like yours. Others have been thrown out of their homes by their parents, the people that were suppose to protect them and fight for them. We have to fight for rights that others take from granted. So please explain to me how being gay makes us not a guy?

Is it because we love some one that is the same sex as us? Once again you would be wrong because guess what we have to fight for that love to not only be recognized but in some cases just to live our lives. Some gay men have seen more hardship and pain than you could ever imagine being a straight white man. So please enlighten me what makes you an expert on what being a guy is?

Is 'being a guy' about standing up for what is right, loving and supporting your family and friends, and being the best person you can be? If we use those criteria of what 'being a guy' is, you fall short in several areas.

I am firm believer that everyone is more than just who they are attracted and I find it disheartening that a Senator as my home state you would base opinions based on this. To me that isn't 'being a guy' at all. It's called being a bully or even a coward.

So from one guy to another times are changing and soon you'll won't be considered a guy. You will be considered a DINOSAUR!

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