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Our Infinite Capacity for Self-Deception

Posted: 03/14/09 01:39 PM ET

Twenty five years ago, the New York Times Magazine ran an extraordinary article titled "How Do Tobacco Executives Live With Themselves?" by Roger Rosenblatt. At the end, he quoted an executive named Victor Crawford who worked for five years as a lobbyist for the Tobacco Institute and helped defeat a series of anti-smoking bills.

A smoker himself, Crawford had been diagnosed with throat cancer two years earlier at the age of 59.

Here's what Crawford told Rosenblatt about his career choice: "In a way, I think I got my just desserts, because, in my heart, I knew better. But I rationalized and denied, because the money was so good and because I could always rationalize it. That's how you make a living, by rationalizing that black is not black, it's white, it's green, it's yellow."

Crawford died two years later, at the age of 63.

His story is different than ours only by degrees. Each of us shares an infinite capacity for self-deception. What we fail to see - or willfully resist seeing - runs us, outside our awareness. What we're willing to see, however painful it may be, we have the potential to influence.

I've been mulling over this paradox the last few days in thinking about the economic crisis we're in and the stories that some of its most egregious players had to tell themselves to rationalize the choices they were making.

What explanation did Bernie Madoff come up with to justify systematically defrauding thousands of clients, including friends and philanthropies, out of billions of dollars over many decades?

How did James Coyne of Bear, Sterns feel comfortable flying off on a private plane for days at a time to play golf and bridge during the weeks that his company was going up in flames?

What could have made John Thain, the ousted CEO of Merrill Lynch, feel it was reasonable to spend $1.3 million decorating his office and then seek a $10 million bonus during a year that his company was reporting billion dollar quarterly losses?

These were all very shrewd, very successful men who behaved in ways that were stupendously stupid, tone-deaf, self-defeating, and devastating to others.

What I believe they were missing, above all, were active inner lives. The antidote to self-deception is self-awareness. Among the thousands of senior corporate executives I've met and worked with over the years, no single quality is more conspicuously absent, or less actively valued.

Introspection is a word you'll almost never hear inside a modern corporation. The strong leader doesn't hesitate, or waver, or question his motives. Suffering over a decision, expressing self-doubt, acknowledging uncertainty, and above all, truly stepping up to responsibility for a mistake or a misjudgment - all of these are viewed as potential signs of softness and self-indulgence, weakness and vulnerability. They're behaviors to be avoided at nearly any cost.

For most corporate executives I've met, the inner life is terra incognita - a vast, unexplored territory they scarcely recognize and assiduously avoid.

Human beings continue to make extraordinary leaps in mastering their external world - most especially through technology and sometimes in breathtaking ways. The mission of Google and its engineers, for example, is nothing less than organizing and making instantly accessible all of the world's information. To a remarkable degree, they've already succeeded.

But there has been no comparable revolution in mapping the landscape of our inner lives - our hopes and fears, values and beliefs, needs and motivations, complexities and contradictions -- and the impact they have on our everyday choices and behaviors.

People's inner and outer worlds remain largely disconnected - and especially so in corporate life. Fear of the unknown - of looking at the unvarnished truth -- is a much more powerful force in the lives of leaders than most of them consciously recognize.

Rather than seeking to grow, see more deeply, break past their own barriers and enlarge their worlds, too many leaders instead use their potent minds to rationalize, justify, minimize and disclaim responsibility for the dysfunctional, self-serving and expedient choices they make.

Allergic to uncertainty, ambiguity and nuance, they choose up sides, come to conclusions prematurely and view the world in reductionistic terms: black and white, right and wrong, good and bad, now or never. In the process, they narrow their vision and limit their options.

Self awareness - the capacity for objective self observation - is a way for leaders to recognize their limitations, fuel their humility and make choices reflectively rather than reactively. Cultivating an inner life also makes it possible to grapple with what they believe in and stand for, and make decisions from the inside out, rather than expediently, to drive the next quarter's earnings.

Companies are only as evolved as the leaders who run them, and the people who work for them. What got us here won't get us where we need to go. Incremental change isn't going to be sufficient, given the enormous challenges we face.

What we need instead is an evolutionary leap. It isn't going to come from a technological breakthrough, or new insights about operational efficiency, or a different system for managing people. It will happen when leaders have the courage to connect their inner lives to their outer behaviors and begin to hold themselves accountable for the impact of their decisions, not just on their companies, but on the greater good over the long term.

 

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01:13 PM on 03/16/2009
I think your point is underlined and bolstered by the number of comments (i.e. few). For me, you hit the nail on the head. Do you think the virtual elimination of the humanities from our public school curricula has any relevance in this regard? And obvious public contempt for the concept of a liberal education in college and beyond?
10:04 AM on 03/16/2009
Carol Tavris has written a book that explains this most extraordinary human ability to deny the facts, appearing to be delusional and/or so self-absorbed absorbed as to be hiding from reality. Well-written and clearly described with examples from our daily world, it brings the psychological reasons behind the rationalizations we so willingly engage in to the reader in an understandable and most human way. Please read: "Mistakes were made (but not by me): why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions and hurtful acts" by Carol Tavris (2007). How you see the world (and indeed yourself) will be changed.
11:21 AM on 03/16/2009
Tina, I will definitely get Carol Tavris's book. This issue is so critical right now. How much longer do we have to listen to someone like AIG's Edward Liddy say, with a straight face, that he must pay bonuses to keep his "best and brightest?" His best and brightest lost billions of dollars. The populist uprising people are talking about needs to focus first on telling the truth, however painful that may be, and holding others accountable for doing the same!
Thanks for your suggestion!
09:03 AM on 03/16/2009
Inner life? One good reason for something called PRAYER:)
Google "The Chaplet of Divine Mercy"
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11:26 PM on 03/16/2009
Access to one's inner life can be through simple yet consistent self-reflection and an inner moral code. Not necessarily what many would call "prayer," though maybe some.
06:38 AM on 03/16/2009
In other words, due to the concentration of power, as well as the anonymity of those positions of power, corporate culture became dominated by sociopathy. Our entire socio-political system, from childhood onward is geared toward stripping away human emotion and empathy.

Think about how sick it is that the first real lesson involving business any of us receive is that in order to be any good at it, we have to be pitiless, merciless, and even cruel? Then you're taught that such soul suicide is the only way to any semblance of security. Ever.

I'm astounded that anyone wonders at why the United States single-handedly cranks out more sociopaths of all varieties and flavors than ALL the other countries combined in a given time-frame.
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05:54 AM on 03/16/2009
I believe that the unaccountability and denial practuced by the Bush administration spread to the private sector. Well, not taking responsibility is a function of our modern lives. Bush lied us into war and then blamed the intelligence. He did nothing about Katrina and blamed local government. The GOP removed all safeguards on the financial system over the years. Is it any wonder during an era of multi-million dollar bonuses that the top actors on Wall Street would act in self-interest alone.
12:27 AM on 03/16/2009
Very true.

At least once a day, I thank God that we have a President who thinks that way. And then I pray that he survives the hatred espoused by the people who think the other way.
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07:56 PM on 03/15/2009
Thanks, Tony! A great piece and one that could hardly be more timely. I have always marveled at the "it's just business" rejoinder when someone's selfish acts harm another. I have always wondered where they put their "person" when they go about their "business life." Thanks again for the thoughtful article and for challenging us all to stand up inside before trying to lead outside.
02:25 PM on 03/15/2009
Watched the NRA convention on C-SPAN recently and got an earful about how wonderful, patriotic, noble and good this organization really is.
Listening to these folks one would think they were selling Rice Krispies or Mom's Apple Pies but in reality Rice Krispies goes snap, crackle, pop not bang, bang, bang and Mom's Apple Pies never blew someones head off.
There was a real delusional aspect at this NRA convention and the most important truth about what these folks were really selling was never mentioned.
And the truth is these folks were advocating the selling of hand guns to anyone and everyone and as a result 30,000 Americans are slaughtered every year and 250,000 are crippled or maimed each year and who are the main beneficiaries of the selling of hand guns in America; the gangs, gangsters, criminals and the Mexican drug cartel armies of thugs and murderers across the Mexican border.
One would think such horrific and tragic statistics would give these folks pause about their advocacy of selling handguns to everyone at these gun shows but such tragic statistics are ignored by these folks.
When one considers the l00's of thousands of Americans who have been slaughtered by handguns over the years and also includes the millions injured and maimed and the resulting human suffering one would have to classify the NRA in the same catagory with the KKK, SS and the CIA.
Americans would be wise not to buy anything the NRA is trying to sell.
05:42 PM on 03/14/2009
It's the nature of the beast. Sports star, movie stars, TV star, the guy with the crappy job buying a McMansion with a Micky D's salary. We all hide from ourselves, some just are better at it than others, those are the people we call successful.
09:11 PM on 03/15/2009
Which is exactly why we need to redefine success -- are take ourselves on.
04:41 PM on 03/14/2009
They felt entitled to more because they had more. Conscience plays no role in the minds of those who feel themselves above the law.
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01:03 PM on 03/14/2009
Amen to all you say. It is the result of the cultural change that came about with Reaganism where greed became good and more was always better. I think Obama's election is showing that the world is really ready for this change.
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03:59 PM on 03/14/2009
I second that.
Excellent article Mr. Schwartz. thoughtful, thought-provoking and beautifully written. Thank you.
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10:41 AM on 03/16/2009
I'll third that!