As we enter 2013, the acute pain of the Sandy Hook massacre is beginning to recede. While some people yearn to move on, others vow never to forget.
As part of the healing process, I suggest we do both; move on, but use this recent tragedy to promote positive change in the future. Action -- whether large or small -- aimed at creating something meaningful out of a senseless act can go a long way toward recovery.
In my last post, I discussed what parents can do to minimize the potential for violence in their own homes. I listed tips for raising moral children so that parents understand their role in teaching kids right from wrong and their responsibility for reporting immoral behavior when they see it.
Here are six more ways to draw from the Newtown tragedy to promote change in our own homes:
- Talk to One Another: Begin an open discussion about what happened at Sandy Hook Elementary, not necessarily about the particular event, but as a starting point to reflect on larger cultural issues. The conversation needs to be appropriately adjusted to the age of your family members, so rely on some available guidelines about how to do that. Most children will inevitably hear about violent attacks in schools -- from the news, friends or when others occur in the future -- so open discussion at home is the best place to initiate, share and monitor reactions.
While there have been gestures following the Sandy Hook shooting that have brought national attention -- like the one that NBC's Ann Curry began when she created a Twitter-generated program for 26 acts of kindness -- there are small ones within our own families that may go unnoticed. But it's these very actions by everyday people that may contribute most to helping avoid recurring tragedies and even turn a horrific event into long-term, positive results.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice in New York City. She serves as a media expert on various psychological topics and as a consultant to companies promoting health, beauty and cosmetic products. Her book, Face It: What Women Really Feel As Their Looks Change (2010), edited by Michele Willens, is a psychological guide to help women deal with the emotions brought on by their changing appearances.
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