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Girls, Women, Soccer!

Posted: 06/18/10 02:52 PM ET

Today it was a glorious late afternoon in Paris and I had had enough of some macho colleagues and decided to take a break and go watch the US-Slovenia World Cup match at my local café (2-2!). I picked up my daughter from school and sat half outside half inside watching the screen with genuine excitement. The only person yelling at the screen with glee or disappointment was another woman, there with her little girl ... a Slovenian neighbor, waving her flag.

Watching the World Cup reminds me of playing soccer as a girl growing up in suburban Houston, where my British neighbor was head of the local United team, made up of player from many nations. I remember their games, their parties, their political discussions -- they made me want to travel. Soccer truly brings people together. I skipped Sunday school to go watch games for years. One summer I was even grounded yet was allowed to go to the neighbor's house to watch the 1982 World Cup with their cute Danish house-sitter! I met and got to know my first big love when we played on a coed team at university together. Soccer for me is equated to love stories, crushes ... and heartbreak. Sometimes soccer simply came first. Then I moved to Europe and had megadoses of World Cup soccer. There was the summer of 1998 when France won and I was in France and the summer when Germany lost and I was in Germany.

The feeling of being surrounded by serious soccer fans is simply fantastic. As a woman living in Rome, I can recall the literally empty streets as every single Roman was inside watching Italy v. Someone. Once a Lazio fan (I was pro Roma) told me he could not bear to attend the Roma-Lazio match because it was simply too emotional for him. My step-sons are Paris St Germain fans, but we still love them anyway. I also remember very cute soccer players. There was that Dane in Houston, the various Italians always, and now, at last, a mostly adorable wonderful US team which is making me pretty proud here in Paris (cannot say the same for the French team, sad to say).

One of my favorite Italian films is called "The Summer of Bobby Charlton" and it mixes love sex and loss in with great doses of soccer. Those legs running, the young beautiful men playing, the agony of a missed goal, (I have a weakness for goalies) the fans! Here in France, women don't really play soccer and I feel sad for my daughter who sees her Norwegian and American friends let loose on the field. I tried to find an female adult soccer team once to play with once here and it was virtually impossible.

This time around my daughter's godmother, whom I met during that Danish house-sitting incident 28 summers ago, a World Cup summer (they are somehow different than other summers) is here visiting us in Paris. We met because of soccer, and she escaped the soccer crowds in South Africa to come here during the World Cup ... but actually said that before they left, the feeling in the air in South Africa was great! Everyone is so proud and it means so much for the country, truly uniting them.

I actually made a guy with whom I had a second date base the entire evening around my being able to watch the U.S. play the U.K. last week. He won big points for that ... and for enjoying my enthusiasm. Women who love soccer really truly love it! When boys playing in the park accidentally kick their soccer ball towards me I happily do a little dribble step turnaround before kicking it back -- ahhh, I still remember the moves. In fact, where is the next World Cup being held? Hmmm ... might use those frequent flier miles...

 

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Today it was a glorious late afternoon in Paris and I had had enough of some macho colleagues and decided to take a break and go watch the US-Slovenia World Cup match at my local café (2-2!). I pick...
Today it was a glorious late afternoon in Paris and I had had enough of some macho colleagues and decided to take a break and go watch the US-Slovenia World Cup match at my local café (2-2!). I pick...
 
 
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11:52 AM on 06/20/2010
How do you get a Ph.D. in Cinema Studies? Sign me up for that one.
03:58 AM on 06/21/2010
Actually degree was "focusing on" Cinema Studies and writing dissertation on the same:) The actual degree was in the Comp Lit Dept but we helped create while I was there an undergrad degree in Film Studies,...which is not as easy as it would seem...students sign up for Cinema courses thinking they will be a breeze and find out you actually have to learn something!

but this article is about football Nothing to do with cinema except the film Summer of Bobby Charlton which truly is great!

Am feeling humiliated by my second "home" team here in France Jeezzzz!

And keep bringing daughters to soccer games! My daughter has been watching with me and gets excited just by the fans' excitement...I have been known to yell out loudly at the screen at various cafes around town, which she hates but she gets over it...

The entire city feels like it is watching, all the taxi drivers talk about their "home" teams...it's great!
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10:58 AM on 06/20/2010
The emotion that surrounds soccer among Europeans and South Americans goes beyond the World Cup. National leagues and continental clubs' championships are pretty intense as well. "Soccer culture" in the US is entirely different, and I mean that beyond its indifference to the sport. The MLS format is totally different from the Clubs/Association/Federation model that predominates elsewhere. MLS is adapting soccer to a format that belongs to american football, baseball and basketball. In the US a team is called "Lakers", and it incidently plays in Los Angeles, but in the European/South American format, the team would be called "Los Angeles"; it would belong to the city and its fans, and not to a franchise and its owner. My team here in Brazil is named after its city, and its colors are those of the state flag. Identity, love and rivalry are not nearly as strong among US fans (and I say that to all sports). Please, don't compare a Lakers x Celtics, or a Phillies x Yankees; Steelers x Eagles. You have no idea how intense Real Madrid x Barcelona, Lazio x Roma, River Plate x Boca Juniors, Corinthians x Palmeiras, Peñarol x Nacional, etc, are. Rival fans are not even allowed to seat next to each other!!! Yes... that bad side of it is the violance and the riots. But when kept to a civilized level, it is the most emotional and beautiful sport there is. You don't know what you are missing.
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07:33 AM on 06/20/2010
For those hating America's nonchalant regard for 'football'/soccer, there are at least 3 other major sports that attract the bulk of elite young athletes before soccer: American football, basketball, baseball. I loved playing soccer from 2nd grade until high school and even played in a private club league during high school. But i focused the bulk of my energy into football. As did the best athletes at my school and other schools.
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07:28 AM on 06/20/2010
"The feeling of being surrounded by serious soccer fans is simply fantastic."

I suspect its your senses' detection of increased levels of pheromones and hormones wafting in the air.

Dont tell your husband I said that. ;)
10:44 PM on 06/19/2010
My girl comes with me to watch games in stadiums and pretend to give a damn and understand the game. But I know she could care less. I'm just glad soccer players are hot enough for her to keep watching with me but it's no use explaining anything.
Yesterday, she changed a little and surprised me by yelling at the TV after the a hole ref cancelled our goal. I was a bit confused and a little turned on too.
06:47 PM on 06/18/2010
Not a FOX news fan but here is more to support a US win today v. Slovenia I actually kept asking my daughter to check the score as I thought we were indeed robbed of a point: http://msn.foxsports.com/foxsoccer/worldcup/story/US-robbed-of-World-Cup-win-over-Slovenia-by-awful-referee-call
06:29 PM on 06/18/2010
Looks like the US should have won that World Cup SOCCER game! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/06/18/usa-foul-call-controversi_n_617364.html

That would be "Football" to you Brits oops English folk.
06:06 PM on 06/18/2010
being able to watch the U.S. play the U.K. - Furthermore, I'd love to see this... A united England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.... Again, perhaps this is why the rest of the world would love to see the USA stay at home. Until we can at least learn our geography, perhaps we should stay at home. And play soccer.
06:01 PM on 06/18/2010
'Soccer' does NOT unite people. Everyone else in the world knowingly calls the sport 'football'. However, USA tends to turn up at tournaments claiming to be participating in a sport called soccer, which no one else plays. Maybe this accounts for the poor performance in today's first half, when the boys seemed to misunderstand what they were supposed to do with the ball. Which, incidentally, is called a football, not a soccer ball. Until we get this right and understand that on the world stage it is not a game played by college boys, we will continue to produce frightening results. Learn the terms: Header. Cross. Win. Yes, England is playing poorly. That does not mean we should necessarily expect the world to follow our terms of soccer. Until then, thinking that 'soccer' unites us is a wildly disturbing sentiment.. Where I am watching, in the Middle East, calling it 'soccer' distances USA from the rest of the football playing world.
06:22 PM on 06/18/2010
Firstly this article is about celebrating women who love the bloody sport! So get off your high football horse! And let people have some fun! It's sport!

I live in France and I am American and we "Americans" call the game "soccer" NOT "football" and I am not going to try to pretend to be European and start calling football "American football"...and yes the French tv had the game last Sat listed as US-UK duirng the whole game so sorry England you still played horribly whatever you call yourself!

I am damn proud that the US finally has a team that in a few more years could actually be a serious contender for a World Cup win!

Take that from a colonist! And Happy 4th of July by the way!:)

But mostly enjoy the World Cup!
07:28 PM on 06/19/2010
Pretty awful mistake to make either way.