Gender Identity

Feminine lesbians are often told 'you're too pretty to be queer,' and bear gays are rendered invisible by their masculinity, yet the term 'gay face' is used as an insult. Is there a such thing as 'looking gay,' and is there a cultural value to it?
I was stunned when I visited a transgender support site that had reposted my article. Hundreds of trans people were leaving comments attacking transvestites, cross dressers, drag queens and other fringe members of the trans community simply because they don't want to be associated with them.
For girls, "slut" and its derivatives are among the most common and most feared of possible pejoratives hurled in the high-school social arena, equivalent in regulatory power to the "fag" label for boys. Both "slut" and "fag" tell young people that they are doing their gender "wrong."
I always bite my tongue when I meet little girls, restraining myself from telling them how darn cute and well-coiffed they are. What's wrong with that? It's our culture's standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn't it?
There is a long history of misogyny in Christian theology that stands in sharp contrast to the important role women play in the gospels themselves.