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Gay Americans and American Freedom

Posted: 08/15/11 02:19 PM ET

Left to their own devices, most Americans would turn gay. At least that is the impression one gets from the current anti-gay campaign waged by some social conservatives and the religious right. Anxiety about the spread of homosexuality and the propagation of a "gay agenda" is at the root of claims that gays want to "recruit" children. It also fuels the opposition to education about homosexuality in public schools, as evidenced by the recent passage of the "Don't Say Gay" bill in the Tennessee Senate. This anxiety undergirds the approaches of such Ex-Gay ministries as "Exodus International," and may have even played a role in the recently overturned military policy, "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." For a sexual disposition that is supposedly the divinely sanctioned "natural order," heterosexuality appears curiously vulnerable.

At the same time, social conservatives and the religious right characterize the "gay lifestyle" as a sad and terrible "choice." That is essentially the point GOP frontrunner, Michele Bachman made in 2004.

"It is a very sad life. It's a part of Satan, I think, to say that it's 'gay.' It's anything but 'gay.' It leads to the personal enslavement of individuals. Because if you're involved in the gay and lesbian lifestyle, it's bondage. It is personal bondage, personal despair, and personal enslavement, and that is why this is so dangerous."

For Bachmann and many others, to be gay is to live a life of sadness, despair, and enslavement, but we need political activism of the most stalwart kind to keep many Americans, particularly our young, from embracing this path or rising up in support of it.

This faulty logic is intrinsic to the homophobia that persists in American society. Sound logic is never a matter of concern when fear is the primary motivating factor. The reasoning for one's opposition to something they fear does not have to make logical sense.

The faulty logic also reveals a perennial misunderstanding of the nature of sexuality. If homosexuality is a matter of "choice," then so is heterosexuality. But no one who opposes homosexuality on the basis of "choice" ever makes the claim that they themselves are choosing to be heterosexual. No, they just are. But if one can just be heterosexual, it follows that one can just be homosexual.

More troubling, however, is the anti-democratic sentiment at the core of this faulty logic. Characterizing homosexuality as a "choice" minoritizes gay Americans, rendering them outside Constitutional protections. In other words, to be gay is to somehow be "un-American." This concern set the tone for former New Jersey governor, James McGreevy's resignation speech in 2004. "And so my truth is," he proclaimed, "I am a gay American."

The "choice" argument also renders gay people outside the realm of religion and morality. Since our political discourse on (and against) homosexuality always slips into religious discourse, gays are seen in opposition to religion and morality.

Indeed, some politicians and lawmakers have invoked the language of "sin" in their opposition to gay Americans. But the discourse of "sin," has no place in the political culture of a liberal democracy. Such discourse lends support to the historical fiction of America as a "Christian nation," and limits morality as the special province of the religious and Christians in particular.

Invoking the discourse of "sin" with regard to gay Americans grows from fear and disquiet about perceived "gay behavior." Most opposition to homosexuality initially begins by underscoring issues of sexual identity, but always lapses into matters of sexual behavior that re-inscribe the "rightness" of heterosexuality. However, moralistic pronouncements about identity or sexual behavior are both inconsistent with our system of government. It has been deemed unconstitutional and morally irresponsible to discriminate against someone based on their identity. It is just as wrong to do so based on the perception of what law-abiding private citizens do in their bedrooms.

But even pro-gay forces falter in their efforts to promote sexual equality, often inadvertently re-inscribing "heteronormativity." Lady Gaga did so in her latest hit, "Born this Way." The song is an anthem to refute the "choice" argument, claiming instead for the naturalness of homosexuality. If being gay is not a choice but an immutable quality in a person like skin color, height, or gender, then gays have a right to equal treatment by the rest of society. Not only does this framework render gay Americans apart from rather than a part of society, it also ironically reaffirms the naturalness of heterosexuality. Born "this way" emphatically implies difference from the norm.

As we saw with the Civil Rights Movement, however, arguments based on nature and immutable qualities never work. In a democratic society, rights should not be granted on the basis of sameness, but despite differences. Blacks were granted legal equality based on the principles of freedom and our standing as citizens. So the real question is, on what basis can gays be granted full equality in the U.S. and on what basis can that freedom be denied?

Following the lead of Janet Jacobsen and Ann Pellegrini, I maintain that sexual freedom is analogous to religious freedom. We should no more allow discrimination against gay Americans than we would American Catholics, Baptists, or Mormons. If persons who choose to be religious live under the full Constitutional protection of our government, why can't homosexuals be granted the same freedom?

Religious opposition to homosexuality is often a statement on the part of our churches about who really is an American and deserves the protection of the State. But the reality is that as Americans we all are free, and all religious institutions are Constitutionally bound to honor this. And as a segment of society that benefits from one of the most hallowed principles of our government, the freedom of religion, they should be happy to do so.

A truly democratic society respects human persons, as well as the choices they make as law abiding, private citizens.

 
Left to their own devices, most Americans would turn gay. At least that is the impression one gets from the current anti-gay campaign waged by some social conservatives and the religious right. Anxi...
Left to their own devices, most Americans would turn gay. At least that is the impression one gets from the current anti-gay campaign waged by some social conservatives and the religious right. Anxi...
 
 
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10:35 AM on 08/20/2011
The base of this and many other blogs is the opinion that it is LGB is OK. This not the opinion held by some other people.
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Cori527
Gay democrat agnostic vegetarian!
10:56 PM on 08/24/2011
You are correct. The intolerant have different opinions. What's important is that we recognize this and learn to become more tolerant.

Thank you.
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AdamWest1313
Hardcore Agnostic
12:16 AM on 08/25/2011
Okay, you have covered all of the bases.
10:41 PM on 08/18/2011
Human rights are awesome. Slowly we are getting there, but we will get there.
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
08:16 PM on 08/18/2011
Competition for power externally comes from fear so people want to build walls around that fear. The people inside those walls are not free. A deeper realization leads one to love, appreciation and non judgment while engaged in the world so no walls are built. The people who are afraid and build the walls are building them around themselves and need to set themselves free. http://thinkunity.com
12:44 PM on 08/18/2011
Among the many other fallacies the author presents, his main assertion is false. Whether a person is intimate with another is always a choice. General attraction is one thing. Choosing to be intimate is another. Intimacy is always a choice and should not be entitled to greater protections because it is with someone of the same sex rather than of the opposite gender. It is appropriate for a religion to teach and preach in public that intimacy should be reserved for a monogamous relationship between a married man and woman and that intimacy outside such a relationship is wrong and a sin, whether the state criminalizes it or not and whether the state recognizes other forms of marriage or not.

For example, the Catholic Church is free to teach and preach in public that a man should only have sex with a single woman who is his lawfully wedded wife and that it is further wrongful and sinful for him to marry more than one wife, even though in the Muslim faith it is not considered wrong and sinful to marry more than one wife and in many nations it is perfectly legal to marry more than one wife The laws of a government vary from nation to nation and a religious institution is not required to change what it feels is wrong and sinful to confrom to political boundaries and the laws of men.
04:49 PM on 08/18/2011
"Choosing to be intimate is another. Intimacy is always a choice and should not be entitled to greater protection­s because it is with someone of the same sex rather than of the opposite gender."

How about EQUAL protections? You know, like the Cosntitution 'promises'. I'd settle for equal. It's only betterosexuals who want these alleged "freater protections".
07:28 PM on 08/18/2011
I am not sure what you mean. The Constitution requires the government to treat all similarly situated citizens equally and all citizens, be they white or black, gay or straight, already have that.
04:49 PM on 08/18/2011
Ooops, "greater".
12:29 PM on 08/18/2011
The author simply misunderstands and mistates the U.S. Constitution. The Constitution restricts and limits what the government can do. When the author states that "as Americans we all are free, and all religious institutions are Constitutionally bound to honor this" he is simply incorrect. The Constitution does not control what religious institutions do. Instead, the Constitution expressly prohibits the government from controlling religious institutions under the Anti-Establishment Clause.
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Atwill
Christian puppets scare me
05:14 PM on 08/18/2011
and we do not get a marriage license from the church. we get it from the government. which means marriage is not religious
07:36 PM on 08/18/2011
The laws in various countries define marriage differently and very distinctly. I prefer to live in a country where each citizen can lobby for the laws they believe are best for society. Accordingly, Muslims may lobby for marriage to include multiple wives, gays may lobby for same sex marriage, and others may lobby to define marriage as between one man and one woman. Freedom is where each can vote on what the law should be.
07:37 PM on 08/18/2011
Again, I don't follow your point.
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Erin Scott
05:32 PM on 08/18/2011
He is referring to the religious lobby insisting time and again that their doctrine has to be codified into law. The fact is there is no effort anywhere to force churches to change their practices of their beliefs. Those are completely separate from the law and LGBT folks simply want inclusion under the law.
07:40 PM on 08/18/2011
Each citizen, whether gay, religious, latino, or otherwise, is entitled to loby for the laws they they feel are best for society. That is freedom. That is what Prop 8 did in California.
09:42 AM on 08/18/2011
freedom is good.
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Doug Whitinger
Question everything
08:47 AM on 08/18/2011
Why is it that straight people claim to know all there is about being gay? Name one gay person who ever agreed that being gay is a choice. Can't? Hmm...
09:12 AM on 08/18/2011
Because they are special. That's why they deserve special marriage rights, special treatment by the IRS and the Social Security Administration, special job protections, special accommodation protections, special housing protections. They're very very special people. We LGBT people are not special, however, so we must content ourselves to unequal treatment under the law, and fewer rights and protections. And because they are so very very special, they know that we are too stupid to understand that being lesbian or gay is a choice; it must be because they tell us so. And if only we would be smarter, like the special people, then we would have made better choices. But we chose poorly and therefore deserve to be discriminated against by our own government because only the really special people (aka: straight people) deserve equal rights and treatment under the law--the rest of us just aren't special enough.
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PKJ1980
12:28 PM on 08/19/2011
We aren't special and we all don't share those ignorant beliefs. Who you're attracted to isn't a choice. I never woke up and decided "I'm going to like women!" I just do. What homophobes need to realize is being gay is no different in terms of their attraction. It's just different than what THEY believe. And you know people, if something doesn't fit into their beliefs there are a huge portion that will hate it. But, there are those such as myself and several people I've seen in these posts that are straight and don't share those same ignorant views.
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Cori527
Gay democrat agnostic vegetarian!
11:03 PM on 08/24/2011
I've always argued that everyone is special.

Until now.
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Atwill
Christian puppets scare me
11:32 AM on 08/18/2011
no gay person i know said it was a choice. to act on it, yes, to BE , to have the feelings . no. These homophobic people dont know the difference between feeling and acting on.
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Gay-Curmudgeon
I'm not patronizing. I'm condescending!
08:02 PM on 08/17/2011
Urgent Message to Dr. Best - Please don't let Michelle Bachmann see this article! She might start to lobby for the repeal of the 13th Amendment!!
05:59 PM on 08/17/2011
I was with Dr. Best right up until the 3rd from last paragraph: "If persons who choose to be religious live under the full Constitutional protection of our government, why can't homosexuals be granted the same freedom?"

I disagree that the reason I rate full American citizenship is because American law respects different choices. I deserve full citizenship because I was born here. No such demographic should be excluded. There is no excuse.

I also think framing the argument for full legal protection of GLBT people in the context of 'religious freedom' is just as in appropriate as doing the same thing to people based on their race or biological sex. It is important for this reason to remember that choice really doesn't enter into the equation.
04:52 PM on 08/18/2011
It is RELIGION that is the "choice". Why some choose hateful religions escapes me?
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Cori527
Gay democrat agnostic vegetarian!
11:04 PM on 08/24/2011
Religion often reinforces the intolerance many choose to feel towards others.
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MikeInTheCola
Serenity now! Serenity now!
12:55 PM on 08/17/2011
Good article. Choice or not, it shouldn't matter. As a gay man, I don't obsess over whether I was "born this way," though I know I was. Even if people would choose to be gay, we, as a free nation, should not discriminate. We are all guaanteed our own life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness. Don't like me because I'm gay? Get over it. I promise not to bash you for your live choices that have no effect on me, either.
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lacrosselamore
sick of sacntomony and deluded fools
01:42 PM on 08/18/2011
Love your profile pic. That's GREAT!
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midknightryder13
02:47 AM on 08/30/2011
I agree -- care to share the source?
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PKJ1980
12:30 PM on 08/19/2011
Fantastic point. Even if it was a choice it is yours to make. As a straight man with a functioning brain I know it isn't a choice though. Your being attracted to the same sex is no different than my being attracted to a woman, it isn't a decision it's just instinct.
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MikeInTheCola
Serenity now! Serenity now!
01:08 PM on 08/19/2011
Well said!
10:53 AM on 08/17/2011
Maybe if the gay community all put 'Gay' in the religion section of the census then it could be recognised as a religion. It may sound absurd, but in my view not as absurd as religious doctrine deciding issues of state.
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Atwill
Christian puppets scare me
11:24 AM on 08/18/2011
I have also thought of that. what if gays started thier own religion and then if all gays were in it, gays could never be discriminated agasint for any reason, marriage, military. nothing. Because then you'd be discriminating for a religious belief which would be unconstitutional. and the only way the religious right could figt it is to over turn "Freedom of religion."
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PKJ1980
12:35 PM on 08/19/2011
No because bigots from other religions would team up and form a super team to judge the gay religion and put it down.
People just need to quit being so judgemental. I know several gays and I can honestly say every gay person I've ever gotten to know has become a friend. So people need to drop all the talk about gays being bad people. Ask them if they truly know someone who is gay. I bet the answer is no.
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Cori527
Gay democrat agnostic vegetarian!
11:05 PM on 08/24/2011
Sexual orientation is not a religion. The very concept is offensive.
11:48 PM on 08/24/2011
As always the virtual medium has failed to convey my sarcasm. Of course sexual orientation is not a religion, I was alluding to the fact that in Australia there are movements to make sure people tick a Christian/Catholic religion on the census "so that the Muslims don't take over". I just think its silly that a religious group can influence affairs of state yet Gay people are still having to fight for equality. I am sorry you were offended, it was not my intention.
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OtayPanky
You're welcome
09:44 AM on 08/17/2011
As soon as someone defines homosexual sex as sin, he has defined himself as a homophobe. He is preaching hate. His speech is hate speech, no different from the hate speech of Neo-nazis and the KKK.

We certainly don't need to have "thoughtful dialogue" about this with these people. It is a waste of time. And we certainly don't need to attend their conferences.

Nothing we can do will change their minds. That's an inside job - a coming to recognition that the Bible is just wrong, and wrong-headed, about the topic.

What we can do is exactly what we did in the civil rights movement: pass legislation to insure that their hateful perspective has no place in the legal fabric that defines our country.

Then, just like in the Civil Rights era, they will gradually come around, persuaded by the baton of our laws, rather than our arguments for justice and fairness.
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gmikejake
resist evil
06:50 AM on 08/18/2011
Thank you. Insightful. F/F A little disagreement, however, it seems that some of us do not "gradually come around," persuaded by laws. Evidence anti-abortion activists, persistence of racism, xenophobia, and, for example, Right Wing Authoritarians (RWA). For some change itself, particularly substantive change in our dominant culture and societal institutions, is very scary and must be resisted. Please review the research on the RWA for some explication as to the persistence of fear and hate created and sustained by both ideology/faith and societal change. What can we do about the phenomena? I think awareness, understanding, "calling them out," and a refusal to allow "bullying" to determine out futures will help some. When they get way out of line, arrest and conviction seems appropriate although, according to the research, often our RWA are very good at "hiding."
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OtayPanky
You're welcome
07:19 AM on 08/18/2011
gmikejake: A little disagreeme­nt, however, it seems that some of us do not "gradually come around," persuaded by laws.

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Of course. The KKK is alive and well, and will continue to thrive on the fringes of our society.

And some will continue to hate gays and lesbians no matter what.

Such is the dark side of human nature.

But essentially, the way to change people's minds is to enact laws first, and enforce them. Then after a generation or two, the old bigotry dies, and a new acceptance arises.
09:38 AM on 08/17/2011
Society is as important as the individual who lives in it. To many individuals right shouldn't undermine the rights of society.
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TXanimal
Somewhere between Occam's Razor & Murphy's Law
12:32 PM on 08/17/2011
How would equal rights in this context undermine the "rights of society"?
04:50 AM on 08/19/2011
When action of individuals is harmful to society. My comments are more than this, however several attempts to reply to you had failed. Moderators seem to find my replies against Huffington policies.
12:54 PM on 08/22/2011
“It's probably because you tried to post a link..." Maybe, however Many of my posts with link have not been acceptable in past few days. I found these statistics Lesbian having four times the partners of straight women, gay man eight or nine partners each year. So LG havee much more social interactions than straight public. This is excessive lust,I doubt it would know limits to underage. This is undermining rights of society. Also not every 18 year old is that mature too.
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iyalode5
expatriot extraordinaire
05:24 PM on 08/17/2011
Oh! You Must be a sociologist! You seem to know so much about the matter! Honestly, the only right equality would undermine for you is the right to be WRONG.
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gmikejake
resist evil
06:52 AM on 08/18/2011
Huh? Please explain. And why must oceanlite be a sociologist given the comment?
09:22 AM on 08/17/2011
Christians concentrate way too much on homosexual issues when we should be preaching the Gospel of the Kingdom of Heaven, loving one another, showing a Light and compassion while NOT accepting sin. The Church needs to retreat to the Word of G-D and abandon the political fight with regard to homosexuality, because they are doomed to lose. Christ said there is a time a place when we as Christians must walk away from a religious fight because if we keep on and on and on we are not doing it for Christ we are doing for ourselves, then hate seeps in. The Word of G-D says what it says about homosexuality and it cannot be changed or amended to suit social change. Following G-D's Word is hard and will always be in conflict with society, that's why they will be VERY FEW who make it in the end. http://www.yahwehyeshua.com
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ez duz it
οὐκ ἔστιν θεός
08:17 AM on 08/18/2011
yeshuachrist, מָשִׁיח יְהֹושֻׁע שְׁלֹום --

You write, “The Word of G-D says what it says about homosexuality and it cannot be changed or amended to suit social change.”

The Hebrew and the Christian Scriptures say nothing about homosexuality, much less condemn it, or refer to it as sin.

Anti-Gay religious bigots have enjoyed their heyday in hamartologizing and pathologizing Gay women and men way too long. They’ve distorted Scripture to socially disenfranchise us and deny us the right to commit our lives to the person we love in civil marriage.

Fortunately, growing numbers of scholars beholden to conscience, rather than sectarian allegiance, are successfully challenging Anti-Gay hermeneutics in the name of God.

With them, I reject your false claim that homosexuality is “sin.”

--ez
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BTW: You use the expression “Word of G-D.” Where in Tanakh is “יְהוָה ־ דְּבַר” ever used?
10:00 PM on 08/16/2011
American isn't a 'liberal' democracy. Its a center-right politically. Get it right.
10:11 PM on 08/16/2011
In the classical sense, this is a liberal democracy.

Remeber when the "right" were liberals.
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wbthacker
Can YOU pass the Turing Test?
10:24 AM on 08/17/2011
"Liberal democracy" is what educated people call a government which is democratic (the people get to vote; either directly or by electing representatives to vote for them), but is restricted by a constitution that defines various liberties (hence, "liberal") that the majority must respect. The United States is a liberal democracy thanks to our Bill of Rights.

Thirty seconds of fact-checking on Google would have let YOU "get it right".
02:38 PM on 08/17/2011
What I was talking about were the liberal philosophies that formed the basis of our government.

Remember that whole Enlightenment thing?