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Wes Isley

Wes Isley

Posted: April 22, 2010 11:58 PM

Faith matters most when times get tough, and that's true no matter what path you follow. I had a little spiritual trial of my own recently, and while it wasn't any fun at the time (these things never are), it showed me that I'm not just some dreamer with airy-fairy notions. Nope, as odd as my beliefs might be to some, they've got staying power.

You see, I don't follow a traditional religion. In fact, I don't call it a "religion" at all. Some might call it New Age (insert eye-roll here), but if you must label it, then I'm comfortable lumping my practice in with what is often referred to as Neo-Pagan. That's quite a motley group, let me tell you, but for me it boils down to a reverence and respect for the physical, natural world, a celebration of ritual and a belief in the sacred connections among everything in existence. Wow, that's deep, right? I know some of you are already cooking up challenges to all that, but let's save those nuggets for another post.

Back to my spiritual trial. A week ago, my mother ended up in the hospital with another recurrence of a chronic health condition. She was stable, but the reality of my own helplessness and my mother's frailty hit me like a lead weight. Now mix in additional projects at work with tight budgets and long hours. My situation isn't special; we've all been there, sometimes time and time again. What was different for me was my reaction.

I remember collapsing at home from exhaustion, my nerves frayed and wrestling with that feeling of panic that says you just can't take anything more. Then a little voice said, "If any of that newfangled spiritual stuff is worth anything, now's the time to use it!" (Yes, that's verbatim.) Regardless of our particular faith, when we're in a difficult situation, we all reach out for the same things: for hope that things can get better, for comfort and a sense of peace. So I did, and it worked, and that was especially satisfying because I'm relatively new to this spiritual path I'm on.

For most of my life, I've been a Christian. But now I don't have a deity to whom I pray for healing or help. People have even asked me how I cope in difficult situations, with the underlying assumption that I would return to the flock, so to speak, when the going got tough. Their concern is genuine and appreciated, but my little test showed me that I'm doing just fine.

It isn't important to explain what I did specifically to find my inner happy place. What I found most interesting was that it really wasn't all that different from what I used to do as a Christian. The words may be different: "meditate" instead of "pray," for example. But stripped of all the embellishments, people of faith -- any faith -- follow the same essential steps: stop, breathe, take a broader perspective and let go. That's true whether you're on your knees praying in church or casting a magickal circle under the shade of a tree.

I think there's a lesson here for us all but especially for those of us who follow a spiritual path that we often have to defend against ridicule and misunderstanding. To them I say take heart, have faith, and hang in there.

 
Faith matters most when times get tough, and that's true no matter what path you follow. I had a little spiritual trial of my own recently, and while it wasn't any fun at the time (these things never ...
Faith matters most when times get tough, and that's true no matter what path you follow. I had a little spiritual trial of my own recently, and while it wasn't any fun at the time (these things never ...
 
 
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02:55 PM on 04/27/2010
People get so wrapped in their own beliefs that they don't see how others can believe differently. It's different strokes for different folks!
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LynneE
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12:55 AM on 04/27/2010
Wes, I hope your mom is ok. I identified with your story, being a convert to atheism after spending most of my life as a catholic. It is a struggle at times, but I feel so much more free and rational! I do love buddhist philosophy and meditation: the spirit within, love of nature. What more can you ask for? Peace to you and your family.
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Wes Isley
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06:18 PM on 04/27/2010
I hear you, LynneE! And thank for you for the kind thoughts.
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Wes Isley
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06:36 PM on 04/26/2010
This is what I wish more people understood--that all religions are essentially the same. Sure, some may disagree. But if you can look past theological differences and focus instead on what religions claim to do for the believer, you really can't tell any difference. At least I can't.
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SilentSolidarity
So what do you need? Besides a miracle.
10:38 PM on 04/25/2010
One question: Are you Christian or not? The title and the fact that you always refer to your Christian past are quite misleading because it makes people think that you are talking about Neo-Paganism as an alternative faith within Christianity. But Christianity is incompatible with the basic principles of (Neo)-Paganism.

Just like you said, Christians worship a single deity, you don't worship any. This is where it stops.
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Wes Isley
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06:40 PM on 04/26/2010
I didn't mean to be misleading. I am not a Christian and I do not see Neo-Paganism as some alternative within Christianity. But since most people call themselves a Christian, Muslim or Jew, anything else is seen as an "alternative." Just look at HuffingtonPost's religion page--Mostly Christian, Jew or Muslim, with a little Buddhism thrown in. While these faiths make up a majority in the world, that has not always been the case and, in the future, this will probably change if history is any indicator. Yet there are other voices out there that should be heard.
09:03 PM on 04/24/2010
wish I was a God or Goddess....
I personally would like to worship trees or the Big Blue Sky, like Ghenghis Khan.
Trouble is 2000 years of Catholic theology can be pretty persuading. It would be way
more fun to be a wiccan, make up my own ritual and have sex in the woods with hot little nymphs.
Trouble is there is plenty of evidence Jesus was real and is alive. And many many people including myself have had visions of Heaven and Hell- what are you Neo pagans gonna do on judgement day?
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09:21 PM on 04/24/2010
The only evidence that Jesus ever existed in in religious texts - they are not evidence, so no, there is no evidence that Jesus existed - stop making things up.

Wait - that's all that religion is able to do - isn't it? No wonder it's such a load of garbage.

As for judgement day - that doesn't exist either, so THIS pagan isn't gonna do anything!
GHarry
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12:54 PM on 04/25/2010
Exactly right. Plenty of evidence Jesus was real? If someone can believe that they can believe anything -- and that's the kind of gullibility religionists depend on. My favorite example of religious silliness happens when a TV reporter interviews Billy Bob after a tornado has flattened the town's church and many houses."The Lord was watching out for me," Billy Bob invariably exclaims. One is tempted to ask Billy Bob why the Lord wasn't watching out for all those children and others that the tornado tore to pieces, but it wouldn't do any good. BB would just roll his eyes heavenward and say "The Lord works in mysterious ways." Ah, superstition. It's infinitely adaptable to any situation.
06:00 PM on 04/25/2010
Sorry Pdiddley, but there ain't no 2000 years of Catholic theology. Your so-called Catholic theology is an invention of the Imperial Church. No where in the New Testement will you find anything that matches the dogma of the modern church. Origin, the first great theologian of Christianity thought and taught that in the end all things would be redeemed by the saving power of God in Christ, that nothing would be lost. None of the gospel writers ever equated Jesus with God. John, who had the most advanced Christology taught that Jesus was the embodiment of the wisdom (word) of God. Mark taught that Jesus became the Christ at the moment of his baptism (thou art my beloved son, "today" I have begotton you). Math. and Luke rolled this back to the moment of birth but nowhere did they teach that he was the same as God, or that he was God himself.
09:18 PM on 04/23/2010
See, folks, here's the beauty--and eventual reason for the abandonment--of religion. THERE ARE NO RULES! You can make up a god, a religion and a holy text as you go along.
Do you find reason to disobey your holy text? Fine. Rewrite the text; forget about Leviticus altogether and dwell exclusively on the Sermon on the Mount.
Have you committed an obvious sin according to what is written in the Bible? Cool. Just as for forgiveness and all is forgiven. Caltholic priests will forgive you just before they go to the Rectory to seduce a choir boy.
Have you grown tired of Jesus and want to go with the Egyptian Sun God, Ra? Ra will welcome you with open sun burns and he'll take care of Jesus if he objects.
It's wonderful being a hypocrite . . . with god's blessing.
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03:03 PM on 04/25/2010
Sorry to tell you, but all religions are made up.
02:52 PM on 04/26/2010
At first I wasn't sure if he was being sarcastic, because he's right on.
Religions are like an interface, like an operating system. But the hardware is universal.
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08:31 PM on 04/23/2010
You don't need proofs or to hold up anything to walk your path. embrace it and live. You know it works because you live it :)
08:19 PM on 04/23/2010
" But stripped of all the embellishments, people of faith -- any faith -- follow the same essential steps: stop, breathe, take a broader perspective and let go. "

What you ignore is that faith -- or not-- is immaterial to that. It is what PEOPLE do. They either deal with stuff or they don't.

Some of us don't rummage around in our heads for some extra "beliefs" to add to the extra stuff we're dealing with. Some do. In the final analysis, there's no evidence that there's only you inside your head deciding "WTF am I going to do about this situation?"

Dealing with sick relatives (or our own illness) is no walk in the park (skyclad or not :-) ) but that's part of the human condition. We do the best we can and some have more strength for the struggle than others. In the end, we all go into that final darkness and our brief candle is extinguished.

That's no reason not to enjoy what bit of light we have while we and others are alive.

Michael
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Wes Isley
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03:05 PM on 04/25/2010
MichaelSF, yes, I agree--it is all about what PEOPLE do. The specifics aren't really important, in my opinion. Some would say this is reason to jettison all religion or spirituality, but I do think they can be very helpful. However, we do need to give each other the freedom to figure out what that is individually. Everyone should have and enjoy that freedom.
02:28 PM on 04/23/2010
Blessed be! I know exactly where you are coming from - I, too, am a recent transfer to Paganism from Christianity - and sometimes it gets confusing for those around me - but my spirituality still holds me up and is there to comfort me and bring me peace - I have actually found the Goddess to be way more accessible than 'God' was - and I have found more peace & more understanding of me on this path than I ever had on the other one -

Merry Meet -
09:12 PM on 04/23/2010
Transferring from Christianity . . . hmmmm . . . does that mean that you've angered the Christian god and get an automatic pass to hell? If I were you, I wouldn't turn my back on Jesus during the Rapture.
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Thinkster
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09:23 PM on 04/24/2010
More garbage - no heaven, no hell. Just liers and con artists. No Jesus. No rapture either.

You're wasting everyone's time.
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Wes Isley
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03:09 PM on 04/25/2010
The Rapture is too easy. It can't be proven. No one will see it until it happens--"if" it happens. Until then, it's held over our heads to scare us all into following a particular religion. That's certainly ok if you wish to follow Christianity, but what will you do if the rapture never occurs? Of course, you won't be around to tell. Wouldn't it be a shame if all these billions of people died believing in something that isn't true?
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Wes Isley
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03:17 PM on 04/25/2010
yes, hang on that peace and understanding you have found!
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01:30 PM on 04/23/2010
so.....does neo pagan god exist? Did he/they do anything?

I dont get it, basically, your religion is 'relaxing'?
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Wes Isley
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03:11 PM on 04/25/2010
Julian101, you miss my point. I don't believe in any deity--but I see all religions following the same basic principles. Call it "relaxing" or "prayer"--either way, it all works the same way. We may tell ourselves that "god" is hearing us but there isn't any proof. But our belief that god is hearing is what makes it all better. Yet that faith alone doesn't make it true. But does that matter really? As long as it works, that's worth it all, right?
11:08 AM on 04/23/2010
"Neo-Pagan"? Seriously? Sometimes I think people pretend to follow eastern or new age religions just to seem unique and special. Sort of like people with statues of Bhudda in their homes who know nothing about Bhuddism. This is a fine example of "hipster religion," any religion that seems foreign and mystical that doesn't involve Jesus and will allow me to impress my freinds. More often then not these hipster religions require little to no actual effort from the person. You will never see a hipster convert to Islam or Judaism or Christianity, those religions are too hard and most people have already heard of those.
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Wes Isley
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03:16 PM on 04/25/2010
There are as many Christian pretenders as there are of any religion or faith--but that fact doesn't necessarily mean that the faith itself is worthless. By using your logic, perhaps we should abandon Christianity because of all the hypocrites out there? I don't wish for that at all.

And "hipster" is relative, always used by others to denigrate another faith not their own. Many people convert to Christianity and Islam around the world. Buddhism, too, which is a very difficult religion in many respects if you follow some particular brands of it.

And I'm glad you think I'm a "hipster"--does wonders for my ego!
08:35 AM on 04/23/2010
Blessed be, Wes! And I hope your mother is doing better.

May the love of the Goddess be ever in your heart.
Merry meet.
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Wes Isley
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03:17 PM on 04/25/2010
Thanks, Ariel. Mom is doing better. A little minor surgery next week, and hopefully, that will do the trick. Blessings to you and yours!