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Wendy and Ignacio Overcome Great Odds to Marry in Cuba

Posted: 08/14/11 06:40 PM ET

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He was nicknamed Cusio and he was the laughingstock of all the boys in the school, but entertained us girls with his stories; we loved his taste in clothes and his helpful nature. He was born in a neighborhood where men boasted of being macho, ready to pull a knife if anyone questioned their manhood.

He grew up in the eighties when the police picked up homosexuals walking along a public street and threw them in a paddy wagon. His adolescence was spent in a county where the official discourse had too many hairs on its chest and an excess of testosterone in its slogans. Thus, he suffered the unspeakable for being gay, but never wanted to leave his country, thinking, perhaps, that better times would come.

I lost track of him nearly a decade ago, but it is to him that I owe my predisposition to consider it a normal thing that two men would decide to love each other, or that two women would join their lives as a couple.

Almost a month ago, the memory of Cusio returned in full force. I see him everywhere with his striking gestures and tight pants, his perennial smile that allowed him to overcome any outrage. He came strongly to mind when I accepted the unusual, irreverent and surprising proposal to be the matron of honor at the first wedding in Cuba between a transsexual and a gay man.

If my grandmother were alive she would put her hands on her head to see me engaged in something -- as she would have said -- so "shameful." My elementary school classmates would discredit me as weak and confused, while those bullies I knew in my Cayo Hueso neighborhood would sharpen their knives.

However, annoyed reactions are not only in those faces that emerge from the past. Several of my freest friends stopped talking to me as a protest against such insolence.

But is it Wendy and Ignacio -- the couple to whom I now have the pleasure of being the matron of honor -- who reflect much of the suffering I knew in Cusio, a part of the torment he had to carry. To be a witness to this union between a girl who once had the name of a boy, and the HIV positive young man crushed both by homophobia and political intolerance, constitutes my personal way of honoring the boy who taught me to respect differences.

Wendy was born in the wrong body. Ignacio went to prison very young for handing out proclamations with the Declaration of Human Rights. They met last February, when she had already managed to have genital reassignment surgery and he had spent years battling HIV. They saw each other and a second later both knew they had fallen irredeemably into the black hole of love.

She worked for the Center for the Study of Sexuality (CENESEX), headed by Mariela Castro, and he published his chronicles on one of the digital sites the government brands as "enemies of the Revolution." The obstacles on the path of their relationship did not end there, they were barely beginning.

When Raul Castro's daughter learned that her protege was seeing a gay dissident, she forced her to decide whether to continue working in that official institution or to continue her relationship with Ignacio. One morning State Security took Wendy's office computer to search for any "classified" information she might have sent to her lover. They told her she was no longer a trusted person and they could only offer her work cleaning the floor. She was out of there like a shot, her straight hair shining under the overpowering sun of her unemployment. He received her with a kiss and they set the wedding date.

Before leaving CENESEX, Wendy Iriepa had managed to have the surgery that aligned her mind with her body. She also achieved the dream of many Cuban transsexuals, having an identity card with a female name. So that when they went together to the notary they were issued a marriage license without anyone realizing that her birth certificate said: "Sex: Masculine." They signed for the first time on July 28, and yesterday, Saturday August 13, they formalized it.

Thus, they slipped through the gap left by the law, in a country where gay marriage is not allowed. But preventing them from validating their relationship in the eyes of the law, would have gone against Mariela Castro herself, who had given the order to issue Wendy an ID card as a woman. Although the National Assembly has not yet approved -- or even discussed -- the legalization of marriage between same-sex couples, Ignacio and Wendy managed to get ahead of the bureaucracy.

To me it was left only to support them in their decision, to watch them rise to the occasion before each new obstacle, to witness their happy smiles and to know they were already a couple. But they have faced it all, overcoming the mockery of many, the pressure of the political police who saw the wedding as a provocation, the discomfort of Mariela Castro whose absence at the Wedding Palace showed her disapproval. We could celebrate thanks to the strength of their love that allowed them to ignore the anti-gay jokes, the insults, the testosterone-filled official discourse and the aggressive stance of the troublemakers common to every neighborhood.

In the midst of the ceremony I thought I saw a familiar face. I went to look at the grand staircase of the Palace but couldn't find him. I don't know, perhaps it was just a combination of the heat, the emotion and the short shot of rum I took before it all started. But I could have sworn it was Cusio. Smiling and gesticulating, in his tight pants... always up for a scandal.

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04:53 AM on 08/18/2011
Transsexual assaulted

HAVANA, July 14, 2010, Mario José Delgado González, LGBT-CUBA-NEWS-TODAY-July 12, in the evening, three men stabbed Osmar Trujillo Quiñones, a 22 year old transsexual....The incident occurred on the city bus P12 in which Trujillo was traveling in the company of 8 other transsexuals friends.

Maikel Marin, a 19 years transsexual, one of the friend traveling with the victim, told this reporter that they had taken the P12 in the direction of the Sport City, where they exert prostitution, when 3 delinquents began screaming offensives remarks to Trujillo because he had accidentally collided with one of them. Suddenly, one of the men pulled a knife and stabbed Trujillo 4 times in the belly, according to what reported Francisco Leroy Sanchez, 28 years old, another victim’s friends who accompanied him.

Sanchez reported that, amid the chaos and confusion, the attackers jump from the bus and managed to run away and the driver, without stopping, drove the bus at full speed to the National Hospital to save the victim life. http://www.cubanet.org/CNews/y.....4_N_7.html

The rampant violence against homosexuals is proof of the intense homophobia under the Castros’ regime. These attacks are happening right now. Where are the reports of the Human Rights Watch on the island’s anti-gay activities? The regime police often overlook evidence in anti-gay hate crimes, such as in this case. No arrests are made, and no charges appear in their reports. They just dismiss the charges.
03:21 AM on 08/17/2011
"Pre-criminal danger to society" is a legal charge under Cuban regime law which allows the authorities to detain people whom they think they are likely to commit crimes in the future. Under Cuba's penal code, the charge covers behaviors contrary “to the standards of communist morality.” The charge carries a penalty of up to four years in prison. By using this law the regime imprisons people without justification. Many LGBT people through the years have been jailed under those charges.

The implementation of this controversial law replaced the first labor camp established by Che Guevara in the Guanahacabibes region in western Cuba in 1960, to confine people who had committed no crime punishable by law. This camp was the precursor of the concentration camps established in Camagüey province from 1965 to 1968 called Military Units to Aid Production (UMAP), to confined dissidents, homosexuals, Catholics, Jehovah's Witnesses, Afro-Cuban priests, and other such “scum.” In those camps homosexuals were often beaten, and occasionally raped, by criminal gangs in the camps. Some gays were killed; others committed suicide. The western left didn't care of what was going on, and did nothing in defense of those confined in the concentration camps.
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LMPE
I connect the most dissimilar things
03:10 PM on 08/15/2011
I've seen "Transamerica". Someone's going to have to make "Transcuba".
05:11 PM on 08/16/2011
If you get permission of castro regime to bring out to the world all crimes, destruction and lies of castrofascism I will give you my last tax devolution enterely...... if you will compite with Michael Moore, no thanks.
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john frodo
armchair expert
10:26 AM on 08/15/2011
Jajajajaja...... Very good!!!!!
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Humberto Capiro
11:56 AM on 08/15/2011
According to the World Policy Institute (2003), the Cuban government prohibits LGBT organizations and publications, gay pride marches and gay clubs.[14] All officially sanctioned clubs and meeting places are required to be heterosexual. The only gay and lesbian civil rights organization, the Cuban Association of Gays and Lesbians, which formed in 1994, was closed in 1997 and its members were taken into custody.[15] Private gay parties, named for their price of admission, "10 Pesos", exist but are often raided. In 1997, Agencia de Prensa Independiente de Cuba (the Cuban Independent Press Agency) reported, that Spanish filmmaker Pedro Almodóvar and French designer Jean Paul Gaultier were among several hundred people detained in a raid on Havana's most popular gay discothèque, El Periquiton.[16]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_in_Cuba
01:57 AM on 08/15/2011
it is amazing how ignorant people are about cuba on what is suppose to be a progressive site! Cuba has the most gay friendly laws of any carribean and central american nation and the GOVERNMENT paid for wendy's sex change, just like it would pay for anyone who wants one. This is LIGHTYEARS ahead of the US...
doctora chiripa
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03:13 AM on 08/15/2011
G.a.y.s (this married couple are legally a man and a woman) in Cuba cannot marry and until recently the Cuban police were raiding g.a.y. clubs and for most of Castro's reign g.a.y.s. have been mistreated and even jailed or put in camps. Yes, g.a.y.s. were picked up and jailed or put in camps just because of their sexual orientation. The famous Spanish director Pedro Almodovar and French designer Jean Paul Gaultier were picked up in one of those g.a.y. club raids. Google "Before Night Falls" the story of Reynaldo Arenas. The only reason things are opening up now is because of Raul Castro's daughter, however, if you read the article she was against this marriage because one of the men is a dissident (opposition to Castro). If you oppose his government then you will feel the w.r.a.t.h. of the Castro brothers and are jailed. Finally after decades of b.r.u.t.a.l.i.t.y. against g.a.y.s. the Castro brothers are softening up because they have no choice. In addition, in Cuba people of color are d.i.s.c.r.i.m.i.n.a.t.e.d. against and are treated like second class citizens and most of the dissidents who are jailed are people of color. Don't believe me google the "Black Spring." Amnesty International declared the dissidents as "Prisoners of Conscience."
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Humberto Capiro
11:57 AM on 08/15/2011
Mauvaise Conduite or Improper Conduct is the title of a 1984 documentary film directed by Néstor Almendros and Orlando Jiménez Leal. The documentary interviews Cuban refugees to explore the Cuban government's imprisonment of homosexuals, political dissidents, and Jehovah's Witnesses into concentration camps under its policy of Military Units to Aid Protection. The documentary was produced with the support of French television Antenne 2 and won the Best Documentary Audience Award at the 1984 San Francisco International Lesbian and Gay Film Festival.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Improper_Conduct

Conducta Impropria - Improper Conduct (Part 5)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0VT4cSm4n8&feature=related
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artleads
Let's have a national retreat.
11:32 PM on 08/14/2011
This whole debate makes me wish Ron Paul ran the world. There would be no central government ruling on matters like this.
11:14 PM on 08/14/2011
I have read that Cuba is the only country in the entire Western hemisphere where homosexuality is still illegal. Another report said that homosexuality IS now legal in Cuba.

I find it interesting that a country that was supposed to be a socialist paradise, had such a backward attitude about gay folks and their rights

I'm glad to hear that Castro's government has apologized for Cuba's bad treatment of gays during the worst of the communist era.

Let's not be too harsh on Cuba, though. Remember that as late as 2003 (the year of the Lawrence vs. State of Texas Supreme Court decision), homosexuality was still illegal in most southern U.S. states. People in those states did it anyway. The law was mostly ignored.
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02:16 AM on 08/15/2011
And the state paid for sex reassignment operation.
10:28 AM on 08/15/2011
As a matter of propaganda , yes...... same does this regime when allowing Michael Moore to film fairy tales in the island........ do you believe all this crap?????...... it is your option to be lured...... democracy guaranty it.
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LMPE
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03:09 PM on 08/15/2011
The history of homosexuality in practically every country that has had communism (at least in theory) requires discussion.

What I understand is that Lenin legalized homosexuality in the newly formed USSR, but then Stalin made it a crime punishable by ten years in jail. When the USSR took over Eastern Europe after WWII, they forced the new governments to pass anti-homosexuality laws, while the new communist governments in China and North Korea did the same.

Currently, homosexuality is still punishable by death in North Korea. Although the former Eastern Bloc countries repealed their anti-homosexuality laws, homosexuality was still a social taboo. Naturally, the younger generations are more tolerant of gays, and Prague is allowing a gay pride parade.
07:54 PM on 08/14/2011
The Castros regime policy regarding homosexuals was implemented during the First National Congress on Education and Culture regarding Homosexuality in Cuba. This is a quotation from the report: “The cultural organs cannot serve to proliferate pseudo-intellectuals who try to make snobbism, extravagance, homosexuality, and other social aberrations into expressions of revolutionary art, so far away are they from the masses and the spirit of our revolution…. Although homosexuality should not be considered a central or fundamental problem of our society," it requires attention as a "social pathology" and its "manifestations" should be rejected in all their forms….An in-depth analysis was made of the preventive and educational measures that are to be put into effect against existing locusts, including the control and relocation of isolated cases and degrees of deterioration . . . it was resolved that for notorious homosexuals to have influence in the formation of our youth is not to be tolerated on the basis of “artistic merits” . . . homosexuals should not have any direct influence on our youth through artistic and cultural activities. It was resolved that those whose morals do not correspond to the prestige of our revolution should be barred from any group of performers representing our country abroad. Finally it was agreed to demand severe penalties be applied to those who corrupt the morals of minors, depraved repeat offenders and irredeemable antisocial elements.”