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Gender Nonconforming Children

Girls Can't Play With Dinosaurs?

Emma 'The Gecko' Davidson | Posted 06.09.2015 | Parents
Emma 'The Gecko' Davidson

"Of course you can be a paleontologist when you grow up, you can be anything you put your mind to... You can't have dinosaurs they're for boys! What a...

Baby, We Were Born This Way

Eileen O'Connor | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Eileen O'Connor

Since becoming a mother, I have learned that all I really care about is that my kids are happy. And healthy. I can only do so much in the healthy department. But, at this stage of this game called life, I pretty much control their happiness. And when I say I, I mean we.

This Isn't the Same Thing as Pretending Your Child Is a Dog

Melissa McLaren | Posted 06.28.2015 | Gay Voices
Melissa McLaren

There's been a lot of media coverage this week on transgender children and while I know better than to read the comments, I sometimes can't help myself. I was really happy to see a lot of supportive comments but I saw several versions of the same few questions and these are my thoughts.

Why This Mom Took Her Gender Non-Conforming Child Out Of Public School

The Huffington Post | Brooke Sopelsa | Posted 03.12.2015 | Gay Voices

Faith Yewdall’s son, Ziya, was never the pugnacious type, so when the gender non-conforming 6 year old got into a fight on his second day of school,...

Tomboys, Sissies and the Gay Dad

Jason Howe | Posted 04.20.2015 | Parents
Jason Howe

For as long as he could remember, his parents, especially his father, had rejected him because he was a boy so effeminate that he was often mistaken for a girl.

Mom Takes On Fox News' 'Mean Girl' Tactics On Gender Non-Conforming Youth

Posted 11.21.2014 | Gay Voices

By Lisa J. Keating | The Next Family I’d like to bring to the surface and discuss the real life damage that occurs because of the type of reporti...

The Second Halloween My Boy Wanted to Be a Girl

Julie Tarney | Posted 12.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

You'd think that by the time my son Harry turned 4 years old in 1994, I would have learned how to handle Halloween. A guilt ghoul swallowed me whole the first time my boy wanted to go trick-or-treating dressed as a girl. But, no, some lessons don't come easy.

Dispelling Myths, Misconceptions and Lies About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

Recently, a video about a transgender child in California went viral. Sadly, like every other conversation about transgender children, the comments section was often unkind. Scanning the comments, I saw the same poorly thought-out ideas keep popping up. I think it's time to put these misconceptions to bed.

A Transgender Teacher in Hawai'i Makes a Place for Every Student (VIDEO)

Dean Hamer and Joe Wilson | Posted 12.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Dean Hamer and Joe Wilson

2013-10-21-Screenshot20131021at7.22.14PM.pngIn Kumu Hina's school, a young student who decides to wear both male and female leis at a school performance is not sent to the principal or the guidance counselor, nor are the other students derisive or hostile, much less violent.

The 7th Annual International Day of Action for Trans Depathologization

Jack Harrison-Quintana | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Jack Harrison-Quintana

The global trans movement has grown exponentially in the years since the campaign started, and the effort to move away from a pathology framework and toward one based on the affirmation of identity has been central to forging the path to liberation.

What Happened When My Son Came Out... as Straight

Lori Duron | Posted 11.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Lori Duron

By trying to eliminate the need for a gay son to come out, I created an environment where a straight son felt the need to come out. As I try to learn from my mother's mistakes, I may be making some new ones of my own. I guess that's how it goes with parenting.

Gender Transition in Children: A Dialogue Continued

Dana Beyer | Posted 08.31.2013 | Gay Voices
Dana Beyer

Today we have professional medical acceptance of adult trans persons and increasing acceptance of trans adolescents. The controversy in the profession is now focused on children, particularly gender-variant children assigned male at birth who desire to socially transition.

The Many Mothers of Cinderella Boy: A Review of A Kid Like Jake

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 12.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

What if Cinderella attended the wrong ball? What if Cinderella were a 4-year-old boy named Jake whose parents desperately want him to get into an elite private school? These are among the questions raised by the new play A Kid Like Jake.

Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

Amelia | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

By hiding photos of a son dressed up as Minnie Mouse or Scooby-Doo's Daphne, a parent is sending the message that she is ashamed of her child. That's a message that gets received, quickly and with dire consequences.

The Internet Has An Opinion

Kelly Byrom | Posted 02.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Kelly Byrom

This isn't a case of parents trying to exploit their children. My hope is that by sharing our story we will meet other people with kids like Twirl who also start showing who their kids are. Then maybe we can get to a point where a boy playing with girl things is just as normal as a girl playing with boy things.

My Son Wore A Dress For Halloween

Kelly Byrom | Posted 01.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Kelly Byrom

My family lives in a very conservative area, and we aren't exactly walking into open arms in our community when we go trick-or-treating. This is the second year our son has worn a dress on Halloween. Last year he went as Minnie Mouse.

Breaking Down The Gender Binary

Catherine Oliver | Posted 06.04.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Oliver

Some parents have tried to raise their kids without gender stereotypes, only to get accused of being hippies at best and downright abusive at worst. Tell me what's abusive about not shoving your kid into a box that says, "This is how you're supposed to act given your genitalia."

Are You A Boy Or A Girl?

Lance Brister | Posted 05.23.2012 | Gay Voices
Lance Brister

These days, I'm mostly comfortable in my own skin. I enjoy being a man. But the embarrassed little boy who could never be himself will always be part of me. I try to carry him with tenderness, and tell him, always, that it's OK to be just who he is.

When The Gender Boxes Don't Fit

Ericka Sokolower-Shain | Posted 05.22.2012 | Gay Voices
Ericka Sokolower-Shain

What gender-variant youth need are teachers who don't make assumptions, who ask lots of questions and then listen to the answers. Everyone is different. When a kid tells you what's important to them, that's what they want you to do.

He's Gay, He's Straight, He's Transgender... He's Roscoe!

Matthew Carnahan | Posted 05.20.2012 | Gay Voices
Matthew Carnahan

I've encountered a barometer for the varying attitudes and preconceptions of the audience. An entire segment of the House of Lies audience dismisses Roscoe as gay. Another jumps to pushing him into a transgender role. Some just think he's weird. How about this: he's just Roscoe.

Moms Standing Up For Their Kids

Amelia | Posted 05.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Two 5-year-old boys who would rather play princess, a 10-year-old out and proud lesbian, a 7-year-old boy who announces "I'm gay," and a little boy who wants to be Scooby-Doo's Daphne for Halloween. All five are amazing kids, and all have moms who write about their experiences online.

Talking About Children's Gender: Words Matter

Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D. | Posted 05.01.2012 | Gay Voices
Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D.

As we see the media's growing interest in transgender and gender-nonconforming children and their families, I can't underscore enough the responsibility of journalists who cover them and the issues related to these children and young people to get the terminology right.

The Dangers Of Being A Girly Boy

Logan Lynn | Posted 04.29.2012 | Gay Voices
Logan Lynn

Instead of assuming I am gay because I was abused, doesn't it seem at least three times more likely that I was abused because I was gay? To me, this is a no-brainer, but it's relieving to have this new science back up what I have been saying for years.

SHOCKER: Elisabeth Hasselbeck Brought Me to Tears... The Good Kind!

Mark Daniel Snyder | Posted 03.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Mark Daniel Snyder

I disagree with Elisabeth Hasselbeck quite often, but during the Jan. 25 episode of The View, she brought me to tears with her eloquent support of transgender and gender-nonconforming children.

Look At Him, He's Sandra Dee: What 'House Of Lies' Can Teach Us About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D. | Posted 03.26.2012 | Gay Voices
Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D.

As a psychologist who spends much of my time working with children who don't fit inside neat, binary gender boxes, I applaud Showtime and the writers of House of Lies for bringing a new perspective on children's gender in a compelling and sympathetic way.