Gender has always been on my mind -- or in my face -- whether I like it or not. As a budding feminist and then a young lesbian with short hair, I was called "Sir" on more than one occasion. I didn't like it, but was happy to have the privileges that being perceived as male brought. I am over six feet tall and trained as a martial artist.
Sexting becomes a problem of safety when teens, regardless of gender, coerce, share and sell images with no respect or regard for the feelings or rights of the people in them. Sexting illustrates the tremendous pressure kids feel to act sexually -- either coercively, dominantly, or submissively, as an exhibition of gender status.