A relationship, a marriage even, is not the ne plus ultra of all lifestyles. On the contrary: I've never been as unhappy as I've been in an unhappy relationship. Loneliness in pairs is the worst kind of loneliness.
Sometimes I get into a zone on Tinder, swiping and swiping and swiping, and I don't know how much time has passed. Has it been an hour? Two? I feel like I've swiped left to the entire island of Manhattan but more potential matches just keep on coming.
In 2008, I attended Easter morning worship with my mom and dad at a progressive United Church of Christ congregation. The sermon was engaging. The music was magnificent. Everything about this Easter morning worship was spiritually meaningful. But I was distracted... and distraught.
If even 10% of the single men in New York who are even 50% interested in entering into a committed relationship would begin to reflect on thoughts like these -- or, actually, those exact thoughts -- there would be much less loneliness in this city.
You will have your great relationship. It might not end up in marriage, but who said marriage is for everyone? Who said entrepreneurship is for everyone? Or college is for everyone? Optimize for true love, not marriage, not deadlines.