Happy Graduation, Seniors! Congratulations! What's next? Below is some sociologically-inspired, out-of-the-box advice on work, love, family, friendship, and the meaning of life. For new grads from the two of us!
"You are not very romantic, Joanna. Do you really think a list is how we fall in love?" I answered this question with a big resounding YES.
Being single, free, and unencumbered can be quite good. Women everywhere are learning that there's real appeal to being single and having the ability to live the way you want, spend your time and money the way you want, and to just be.
At the same time I heard a voice -- clear as day -- ring out in my mind. It said, "He will not be the last man you love."
I know what some of you may say: Have a baby on your own; adopt; foster. And a few of you may say: Sorry, lady, you should have thought of that earlier. You're just too old. But I want to be a mother.
My friends have cleared me to date, "get out there" has been stated, texted, messaged, and posted by my inner circle. I've been in two serious post-divorce relationships and just ended a little something. But, where the heck is a divorced single mom going to meet the perfect guy?
You have to sit with a person to see how you feel. You have to have a first kiss and see if there are fireworks. The checklist pales in comparison. That's why it's good to date often. It's better to meet first and then look at the checklist afterwards.
Comments like "well, you don't have children at home," imply, whether intended or not, that traditional family or child-oriented activities are more important or legitimate than the activities of single people or that single people have little responsibilities outside of work.
"What if sleeping with some guy is squashing his motivation to go out and find the true love of his life because his immediate sexual needs are being met? Meanwhile, some other girl is doing the same with the guy you're supposed to be with."
Men's opinions of what is sexy and confident evolves as our culture's opinions of what is sexy and confident evolves. If we decide we all need to speak up more and be more aggressive in our career-driven daily lives, we can redefine what is attractive to a man.
It is not, the "United Christians Brigade," as my mother calls it. Close, but not quite. The Upright Citizens Brigade is the ultimate hub of comedic talent, a religion for some, and a cult classic for the young at heart.
Even dry British economists are talking about it. It feels like it's been everywhere lately -- even the Supreme Court. Marriage rates: just in a slump, or do we need to talk?
This past week, chatting away at the dinner table, I was asked about one of my favorite books. My answer was swift: 'Il Gattopardo' -"The Leopard"- th...
While nowadays, everyone buzzes about how expensive weddings can be, it turns out the price tag on one's nuptials is a mere pittance compared to the cost of remaining single.
The problem is when we want an alpha male, we are threatening the ingrained role in men's DNA from caveman days of needing to be the provider. An alpha male looks at Katie and doesn't know how to play the provider role of being able to give to Katie in a way that will make her happy.
Life in a society where most people are single would require a few changes in the way we do things. Here's a few I thought of...