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Gender Nonconforming Kids

An Open Letter to Sunnie Kahle (and Christian Tomboys Everywhere)

Rev. Emily C. Heath | Posted 03.26.2014 | Religion
Rev. Emily C. Heath

Sunnie, the adults that told you that Jesus doesn't like the way you dress, or that Jesus wants you to act "more like a girl?" They're wrong. Jesus does love you, Sunnie. You know how I know? Because Jesus loves me too.

Call the (Gender) Police!

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 02.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

When lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer kids are attacked, they are usually the ones who are gender-nonconforming. This highlights the underlying problem: Our culture isn't killing people for being transgender; they're doing it for failing to stay within gender boundaries.

What Happened When My Son Came Out... as Straight

Lori Duron | Posted 11.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Lori Duron

By trying to eliminate the need for a gay son to come out, I created an environment where a straight son felt the need to come out. As I try to learn from my mother's mistakes, I may be making some new ones of my own. I guess that's how it goes with parenting.

Who Needs Gender Norms? Not Children -- That's For Sure

Frida Berrigan | Posted 10.23.2013 | Parents
Frida Berrigan

The dominant society is fast and ruthless in its enforcement of gender norms. It is not just the clothes that are available for little kids, it's everything.

The Many Mothers of Cinderella Boy: A Review of A Kid Like Jake

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 08.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

What if Cinderella attended the wrong ball? What if Cinderella were a 4-year-old boy named Jake whose parents desperately want him to get into an elite private school? These are among the questions raised by the new play A Kid Like Jake.

Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

Amelia | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

By hiding photos of a son dressed up as Minnie Mouse or Scooby-Doo's Daphne, a parent is sending the message that she is ashamed of her child. That's a message that gets received, quickly and with dire consequences.

The Internet Has An Opinion

Kelly Byrom | Posted 02.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Kelly Byrom

This isn't a case of parents trying to exploit their children. My hope is that by sharing our story we will meet other people with kids like Twirl who also start showing who their kids are. Then maybe we can get to a point where a boy playing with girl things is just as normal as a girl playing with boy things.

My Son Wore A Dress For Halloween

Kelly Byrom | Posted 01.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Kelly Byrom

My family lives in a very conservative area, and we aren't exactly walking into open arms in our community when we go trick-or-treating. This is the second year our son has worn a dress on Halloween. Last year he went as Minnie Mouse.

Voice To Voice: Ken Corbett And Mark O'Connell Discuss Gender, Bullying And More

Posted 06.29.2012 | Gay Voices

This month we've shared a Voice to Voice conversation between author Whitney Joiner and the ACLU's Chris Hampton, one between Jason Cianciotto and Sea...

Breaking Down The Gender Binary

Catherine Oliver | Posted 06.04.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Oliver

Some parents have tried to raise their kids without gender stereotypes, only to get accused of being hippies at best and downright abusive at worst. Tell me what's abusive about not shoving your kid into a box that says, "This is how you're supposed to act given your genitalia."

I'll Make A Man Out Of You

Catherine Oliver | Posted 06.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Oliver

Gender-nonconforming kids need to know there are others like them. In the media they should be portrayed just like everyone else. At home they need to be accepted and loved, not forced into roles they can't fit. In schools they need to be treated with respect and dignity.

Are You A Boy Or A Girl?

Lance Brister | Posted 05.23.2012 | Gay Voices
Lance Brister

These days, I'm mostly comfortable in my own skin. I enjoy being a man. But the embarrassed little boy who could never be himself will always be part of me. I try to carry him with tenderness, and tell him, always, that it's OK to be just who he is.

When The Gender Boxes Don't Fit

Ericka Sokolower-Shain | Posted 05.22.2012 | Gay Voices
Ericka Sokolower-Shain

What gender-variant youth need are teachers who don't make assumptions, who ask lots of questions and then listen to the answers. Everyone is different. When a kid tells you what's important to them, that's what they want you to do.

He's Gay, He's Straight, He's Transgender... He's Roscoe!

Matthew Carnahan | Posted 05.20.2012 | Gay Voices
Matthew Carnahan

I've encountered a barometer for the varying attitudes and preconceptions of the audience. An entire segment of the House of Lies audience dismisses Roscoe as gay. Another jumps to pushing him into a transgender role. Some just think he's weird. How about this: he's just Roscoe.

Moms Standing Up For Their Kids

Amelia | Posted 05.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Two 5-year-old boys who would rather play princess, a 10-year-old out and proud lesbian, a 7-year-old boy who announces "I'm gay," and a little boy who wants to be Scooby-Doo's Daphne for Halloween. All five are amazing kids, and all have moms who write about their experiences online.

Talking About Children's Gender: Words Matter

Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D. | Posted 05.01.2012 | Gay Voices
Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D.

As we see the media's growing interest in transgender and gender-nonconforming children and their families, I can't underscore enough the responsibility of journalists who cover them and the issues related to these children and young people to get the terminology right.

The Dangers Of Being A Girly Boy

Logan Lynn | Posted 04.29.2012 | Gay Voices
Logan Lynn

Instead of assuming I am gay because I was abused, doesn't it seem at least three times more likely that I was abused because I was gay? To me, this is a no-brainer, but it's relieving to have this new science back up what I have been saying for years.

SHOCKER: Elisabeth Hasselbeck Brought Me to Tears... The Good Kind!

Mark Daniel Snyder | Posted 03.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Mark Daniel Snyder

I disagree with Elisabeth Hasselbeck quite often, but during the Jan. 25 episode of The View, she brought me to tears with her eloquent support of transgender and gender-nonconforming children.

Look At Him, He's Sandra Dee: What 'House Of Lies' Can Teach Us About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D. | Posted 03.26.2012 | Gay Voices
Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D.

As a psychologist who spends much of my time working with children who don't fit inside neat, binary gender boxes, I applaud Showtime and the writers of House of Lies for bringing a new perspective on children's gender in a compelling and sympathetic way.

It's OK to Be Neither: Teaching That Supports Gender-Variant Children

Melissa Bollow Tempel | Posted 02.20.2012 | Gay Voices
Melissa Bollow Tempel

It became evident that I would have to address gender directly in order to make the classroom environment more comfortable for Allie and to squash the gender stereotypes that my first graders had absorbed in their short lives.