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9/11... A Rude Awakening

David Kanegis | Posted 09.11.2014 | Fifty
David Kanegis

Prior to this heinous series of events, the historical question most often asked of Baby Boomers was, "do you remember where you were when President Kennedy was shot?" I don't know a single one of my contemporaries who doesn't.

My Coworker Shamed Me (And I Let Him)

Literally, Darling | Posted 09.04.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

I just don't care what people think. And usually I don't. But being repeatedly questioned, being made to feel like my life choices and my interests -- the ones that make me happy and content -- were wrong and somehow inadequate, was like a hard blow to the chest.

The Shame Files

Jennifer Pastiloff | Posted 09.04.2014 | Women
Jennifer Pastiloff

I'd take that old snapshot out from the back of my mind and dust it off a little before peering closer. You were beautiful. You were behind the wheel I'd say to the photograph, before putting it back with a few others I'd saved.

The Genius of Marian: Remarkable Alzheimer's Documentary

Marie Marley | Posted 09.02.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

The Genius of Marian is an intimate, poetic documentary about Pam White and her family as they all struggle to deal with Pam's Alzheimer's disease.

Getting to Gay

Henry V | Posted 08.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Henry V

What the hell are you doing here, anyway? OK, that's it. You need to get your ass home! You're fucking 40 years old! You've got kids! You have a wife! It's winter 2009. Just a few months ago everything changed when I acknowledged to my wife Evelyn that I'm gay.

I Am a Woman Reclaiming Body Trust

Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant | Posted 08.25.2014 | Women
Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant

My hunger, my appetites, my longings, my skin, my bones, my size are mine for the taking. I take back my worthiness, my belonging in the world of beautiful and diverse beings. I live without apology for the straight lines and curves, living tissue, vulnerable heart that hold my living, breathing manifested story.

Depression and Addiction: We Must Break the Stigmas

Dean Dauphinais | Posted 08.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Dean Dauphinais

The reason so many people don't get the treatment they need is simple: Mental illness and addiction are still shrouded in stigma. It's 2014, but people suffering from mental illness often times don't want to ask for professional help because they fear being labeled as "crazy" or a "whack job."

Are American Parents the Most Insecure?

Dr. Jessica Michaelson | Posted 08.19.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jessica Michaelson

I don't want my children to feel the anxiety I feel, and that I see all around me. I don't want them to frantically research and read and look outside of themselves to determine what is right from wrong. I want them to be inspired by our family, and feel that they have inherited traditions, values, and wisdom that they can trust.

Shining a Light on Our Dark Secret

Janet M. Neal | Posted 08.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Janet M. Neal

On my 11 hour drive home from vacation yesterday, I listened to about three hours of analysis, commentary, and dialogue on the horrors currently occur...

The Single Inferiority Complex (SIC)

Sasha Cagen | Posted 08.14.2014 | Women
Sasha Cagen

The Single Inferiority Complex describes the often-nagging feeling that single (and sometimes childless) people have that their lives, and even their very selves, just do not measure up to those who are in partnership (or who are parents).

Sex, Shame and Suicide: One Man's Path to Open-Heartedness

Bob Schwenkler | Posted 08.13.2014 | Gay Voices
Bob Schwenkler

My heart, my soul, my truest self had been put on lock down. I'd learned from the world, in a million different ways that who I was was not ok. This is how shame operates.

My Secret: I Was One of Those Girls Who Had Sex With Older Men on the Internet

Erin McKelle | Posted 08.07.2014 | Women
Erin McKelle

Yes, there was something wrong, but it wasn't with me, and my cyber sex was nothing more than a symptom of something bigger. It was my way of showing that I felt out of control and helpless.

Getting Over Single 'Shame'

Sara Eckel | Posted 07.25.2014 | Women
Sara Eckel

If you've been single for longer than you care to admit, it's natural to wonder why or even ask, "What's wrong with me?" This question is particularly common in our can-do culture, which leaves little room for luck, chance or circumstance

3 Big Perfectionism Struggles For Women

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 07.24.2014 | Women
Paula Davis-Laack

Many of us think it's the key to our success, when in fact, it's the very thing leading us away from our true purpose and completely wipes out our energy in the process.

5 Proven Strategies for Releasing Negative Thoughts

Michael J. Formica | Posted 09.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Michael J. Formica

We create our experience by virtue of how we are thinking about a particular situation, good, bad or indifferent. What's important to bear in mind is that if we can think ourselves in, we can always think ourselves out.

6 Ways To Lighten The Weight Of Guilt

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 07.18.2014 | Healthy Living

It's a simple truth that we're prone to making mistakes. While we'd all like to avoid that sinking feeling we get when we've dropped the ball, we're o...

Honor Is a Shame in Shan Khan's Brave New Film

Nancy Cohen-koan | Posted 09.10.2014 | Entertainment
Nancy Cohen-koan

Honor is a fast-moving, even exciting tale of injustice, family and redemption. Will it help to change anything? Let's hope.

I Will Live My Life in Colors, Not Numbers

Temimah Zucker | Posted 09.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Temimah Zucker

It is time to stop perpetuating this cycle of men and women being considered "normal" and "praised" for unhealthy relationships with food.

How I Came to Embrace My Mental Illness

Rachel McKibbens | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Rachel McKibbens

I realize now, I never wrote about living with mental illness because I wasn't living with mental illness. I was running from and fighting with and stumbling through and barely surviving the shame of it.

The Time I Threw Sand In My Cousin's Mouth And Blamed Him For It

Annie Battles | Posted 08.31.2014 | Comedy
Annie Battles

I've always been a little hard to contain. Some people call it joie de vivre, others, my psychiatrist included, call it ADD. One of the mainstays of my personality, and arguably a symptom of the disorder, is extremely impulsive behavior.

Since I Never Heard Back From You

Erin Donley | Posted 08.23.2014 | Business
Erin Donley

Anger is one of the easiest emotions to access. Some of us even look for an excuse to go there. "Since I never heard back" gives people permission to beat themselves up and unleash their silent rage.

Deconstructing the Fear of Rejection: What Are We Really Afraid Of?

John Amodeo, PhD | Posted 08.11.2014 | Healthy Living
John Amodeo, PhD

Being human, we long to be accepted and wanted. It hurts to be rejected and to experience loss. If our worst fear materializes -- if our catastrophic fantasy becomes a reality and we're rejected -- our organism has a way of healing if we can trust our natural healing process

I See Dead People

Liz Jackson | Posted 08.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Liz Jackson

Before I got sick (with an Idiopathic Neuropathy), I thought hallucinations led to stays at an insane asylum. And now that I get them, I wonder how quickly I'll be judged when others find out.

Public Shaming Is the Not so New National Pastime

Paul Ratner | Posted 07.21.2014 | Media
Paul Ratner

As we berate the latest outrage in sudden maelstroms of social media and television shaming, we ultimately nudge ourselves towards a situation where we will be constantly monitored and we will like it.

A Hidden Tragedy: Mental Illness and Suicide Among Asian Americans

Andrew Lam | Posted 09.17.2014 | Impact
Andrew Lam

Asian Americans have excelled higher education in the last few decades. What's barely explored, sadly, is the darker narrative, that subterraneous stream that runs parallel to this shining path to academic success: stress, disappointment, depression, and mental disorders.