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Choosing Happiness Over Fear, and How One Family Turned Misfortune Into a Mitzvah!

Valerie Alexander | Posted 04.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

Is it too late to get your deposits back? Don't marry the wrong person. Throw a party instead, host a reunion, feed the hungry. Celebrate the awesome achievement of choosing happiness over fear! Let others manage their own reactions, and if they want to judge you, let 'em.

The Direct Path to Self-Awareness

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 03.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The hidden power of the shadow. "You can learn more about yourself in a week in a marriage than you can meditating for 10 years in a cave." -- Step...

The Holocaust and the Inner Ghetto: The Psychology of Jewish Suffering

David Bedrick | Posted 03.17.2014 | Religion
David Bedrick

The trauma caused by the Holocaust still resonates in the Jewish psyche, causing symptoms physically, emotionally, as well as in their relationships and families.

Film About Honor Empowers Muslim Women To Stand Up For Their Rights

The Huffington Post | Lauren Betesh | Posted 03.14.2014 | World

Islamic women around the world are demanding equal rights and want to break away from the harmful honor system that governs their lives, according to ...

My Vagina Doesn't Smell Like Shame

Jenny Block | Posted 03.12.2014 | Women
Jenny Block

I'm going to just put this out there loud and proud. I love my pussy. I love her. And my lovers love her.

To Everyone Still Suffering, I Am You

Allison Hudson | Posted 03.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Allison Hudson

Everyone in recovery has a story -- what we used to be like, what happened, and what we are like now. You are at the beginning of the end of what YOU used to be like.

How Are You Hustling?

Vanessa Anstee | Posted 03.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Vanessa Anstee

If deep down we believe that we're not enough as we are, we do everything we can to prop up our self-esteem and avoid feeling that pain. So instead of doing the inner work to heal the wound, we simply hustle for our worth.

Sin, Guilt, and Psychology: What I Wish All Pastors Knew

Derek Flood | Posted 03.03.2014 | Religion
Derek Flood

We have come to associate guilt today with negative ideas like "guilt-trips," and with feelings of shame. As a result, when the subject of guilt and sin are brought up, our defensive walls go up, too.

Heroin Users: Not From Another Planet

Jim Anderson | Posted 03.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Jim Anderson

Methadone clinics are places that people with addiction to heroin and other opiates (pain medication) come to take methadone instead of heroin. All in all, it's a pretty darn good trade, and helps thousands of human beings break free of the shackles of heroin addiction and lead meaningful lives.

Why I Ditched a Shame-Based Faith

Heather Kopp | Posted 02.27.2014 | Religion
Heather Kopp

I often write about the power of shame in the context of recovery. But shame is a human problem, and long-time Christians are in no ways immune. I was a Christian--and a slave to shame--for more than a decade before I became a slave to alcohol.

The Feminist's Dilemma: Why We Can't Stop Caring About How We Look

Tamara Shayne Kagel | Posted 02.24.2014 | Women
Tamara Shayne Kagel

Most of us want to be appreciated and loved and valued for more than how we look, but are unable to completely expunge all interest in our outward image. If this is where most of us live, shouldn't we be asking for acceptance to be in this middle space?

Bing-ing Shingles

Chuck Nyren | Posted 02.21.2014 | Fifty
Chuck Nyren

Apparently, she'd been showing the pictures to everybody in the office and someone said it was shingles.

An Olympic-Sized mess

Susan Winston | Posted 04.14.2014 | Impact
Susan Winston

This is an ancient village close to the venue that has been literally destroyed by a huge construction project that was built to assist in constructing roadways to the games.

Why Shame Sucks (Especially for Kids) and How You Can Stop It

Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW | Posted 04.14.2014 | Parents
Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW

Children are especially vulnerable to shame. Self-centered and dependent, young humans will easily translate, "You did something bad," into, "You ARE bad." We need to be aware and careful about the messages we send.

What Men Aren't Saying About Infertility

Nate Pyle | Posted 03.29.2014 | Parents
Nate Pyle

Men don't talk often about infertility. My guess is that, if we started the conversations, a lot of guys would feel helpless.

Shame Shame Shame! The Root of Bullying

Shefali Tsabary | Posted 03.23.2014 | Parents
Shefali Tsabary

Children are a mirror of our own unresolved issues. So if a child bullies, that child's needs are in some way going unmet. No child who feels delightful within themselves -- whose emotional needs are being met because they feel truly "heard" by the parent -- bullies like this.

6 Self-Care Tips for Post-Grads

Juliana Schwartz | Posted 03.18.2014 | College
Juliana Schwartz

Confession time: I graduated from college about six months ago, and I am currently unemployed. And, as luck would have it, I'm not the only one.

Blueboy -- A Tale of Yesteryear

Aundaray Guess | Posted 03.17.2014 | Gay Voices
Aundaray Guess

The cartoons weren't like the ones I watched on Saturday morning though. I never remembered Fred Flintstone and Barney Rubble doing what the men were doing in the magazine.

What Being Homeless at Christmas Taught Me About Leadership

Holly Hamann | Posted 03.04.2014 | Denver
Holly Hamann

I found clothes that would make me look impoverished and bought shoes that were uncomfortably small. I made myself up to look unclean and greasy and carried my belongings in a bag. It had snowed the night before, so I intentionally underdressed.

Gratitude: A Reflection

Eric Simpson | Posted 02.25.2014 | Religion
Eric Simpson

The more my focus is on another person and what their merits and deficits are, the less likely I am to see myself clearly. Moreover, the less we are inclined to compare ourselves with others and judge others, the more likely we are to partake of genuine gratitude.

Amazing Grace

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 02.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

My recovery from work addiction helped me to see that my issues were not unique to me. I was able to put things into a perspective that enabled me to recognize the cultural, social and institutional factors that contribute to the dysfunction that showed up at home and in the workplace.

How to Recover From a Shame Attack

Joyce Marter | Posted 02.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Joyce Marter

One of my friends, who is a therapist, accidentally drunk-dialed her male client (rather than her ex-boyfriend) and played a love song into his voicem...

The Code of Shame

Robert Koehler | Posted 02.18.2014 | Crime
Robert Koehler

The sexual exploitation and abuse of children continues to link the generations, well beyond the edge of official awareness. Children grow up in their own personal hell. Their rage stays at perpetual simmer. They're not listened to until they commit a crime. Violence flourishes.

Coping With Shame: An Open Letter to Dr. Brené Brown

Mark Travis Rivera | Posted 02.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Mark Travis Rivera

It is time that we silence the voices in our heads that tell us we are not good enough, and it is time we start shouting the phrase: "I am enough."

Have You Heard About The 'Fat Letters'?

William Anderson, MA, LMHC | Posted 02.04.2014 | Healthy Living
William Anderson, MA, LMHC

Mothers are the most important and most powerful people in the world related to solving our childhood obesity epidemic. The only way an obese child can change is if the home and family changes, and that will only happen when mom says it will.