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Getting Over Single 'Shame'

Sara Eckel | Posted 07.25.2014 | Women
Sara Eckel

If you've been single for longer than you care to admit, it's natural to wonder why or even ask, "What's wrong with me?" This question is particularly common in our can-do culture, which leaves little room for luck, chance or circumstance

3 Big Perfectionism Struggles For Women

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 07.24.2014 | Women
Paula Davis-Laack

Many of us think it's the key to our success, when in fact, it's the very thing leading us away from our true purpose and completely wipes out our energy in the process.

5 Proven Strategies for Releasing Negative Thoughts

Michael J. Formica | Posted 07.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Michael J. Formica

We create our experience by virtue of how we are thinking about a particular situation, good, bad or indifferent. What's important to bear in mind is that if we can think ourselves in, we can always think ourselves out.

6 Ways To Lighten The Weight Of Guilt

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 07.18.2014 | Healthy Living

It's a simple truth that we're prone to making mistakes. While we'd all like to avoid that sinking feeling we get when we've dropped the ball, we're o...

Honor Is a Shame in Shan Khan's Brave New Film

Nancy Cohen-koan | Posted 07.11.2014 | Entertainment
Nancy Cohen-koan

Honor is a fast-moving, even exciting tale of injustice, family and redemption. Will it help to change anything? Let's hope.

I Will Live My Life in Colors, Not Numbers

Temimah Zucker | Posted 07.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Temimah Zucker

It is time to stop perpetuating this cycle of men and women being considered "normal" and "praised" for unhealthy relationships with food.

How I Came to Embrace My Mental Illness

Rachel McKibbens | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Rachel McKibbens

I realize now, I never wrote about living with mental illness because I wasn't living with mental illness. I was running from and fighting with and stumbling through and barely surviving the shame of it.

The Time I Threw Sand In My Cousin's Mouth And Blamed Him For It

Annie Battles | Posted 07.01.2014 | Comedy
Annie Battles

I've always been a little hard to contain. Some people call it joie de vivre, others, my psychiatrist included, call it ADD. One of the mainstays of my personality, and arguably a symptom of the disorder, is extremely impulsive behavior.

Since I Never Heard Back From You

Erin Donley | Posted 06.23.2014 | Business
Erin Donley

Anger is one of the easiest emotions to access. Some of us even look for an excuse to go there. "Since I never heard back" gives people permission to beat themselves up and unleash their silent rage.

Deconstructing the Fear of Rejection: What Are We Really Afraid Of?

John Amodeo, PhD | Posted 06.11.2014 | Healthy Living
John Amodeo, PhD

Being human, we long to be accepted and wanted. It hurts to be rejected and to experience loss. If our worst fear materializes -- if our catastrophic fantasy becomes a reality and we're rejected -- our organism has a way of healing if we can trust our natural healing process

I See Dead People

Liz Jackson | Posted 06.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Liz Jackson

Before I got sick (with an Idiopathic Neuropathy), I thought hallucinations led to stays at an insane asylum. And now that I get them, I wonder how quickly I'll be judged when others find out.

Public Shaming Is the Not so New National Pastime

Paul Ratner | Posted 07.21.2014 | Media
Paul Ratner

As we berate the latest outrage in sudden maelstroms of social media and television shaming, we ultimately nudge ourselves towards a situation where we will be constantly monitored and we will like it.

A Hidden Tragedy: Mental Illness and Suicide Among Asian Americans

Andrew Lam | Posted 07.20.2014 | Impact
Andrew Lam

Asian Americans have excelled higher education in the last few decades. What's barely explored, sadly, is the darker narrative, that subterraneous stream that runs parallel to this shining path to academic success: stress, disappointment, depression, and mental disorders.

If You Have Cold Feet Before Your Wedding, Read This

Daniela Tempesta, LCSW | Posted 07.20.2014 | Weddings
Daniela Tempesta, LCSW

Why is feeling unsure about marriage is not more normalized in our society? It seems that we tend to misperceive feelings of uncertainty as a predictor of failure, rather than seeing trepidation as a natural reaction to making any major life decision.

Leaning Inward: Struggling Mothers Find Hope, Support in Faith

David Briggs | Posted 07.19.2014 | Religion
David Briggs

The woman in prison who prays to God, knowing she will soon be separated from her newborn child: "You know, I put this situation in your hands. I know...

A Simple Mind Trick That Will Help You Manage Stress

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 07.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

In a Seinfeld episode titled "The Jimmy," the character of George finds himself in a stressful situation and starts speaking in the third person: "Geo...

Confessions of an Adult Grudge Holder

Michael Rohrer | Posted 07.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

We can't go back. We can't change it. We can learn from the past and make better choices, or let the past keep us from growing. For me, those feelings have no place in my present.

How Is Being a Good Boss Just Like Being a Good Parent?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 07.05.2014 | Business
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

This is the most important one. Your boss, like your parent, should be aiming for your success. If you don't feel like your boss is looking for ways to help further your career, or worse, is trying to sabotage you, then you don't have a boss -- you have a problem.

The Arrogance of Dieting

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 07.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

Trade in the arrogance of dieting for the confidence of body wisdom! Mindful eating is a non-judgmental, flexible approach that frees you up to focus on living your life instead of counting, weighing, measuring and obsessing about food.

How to Deal With Life's Little Lessons

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

So rather than hiding under a rock, I have learned that processing each lesson the universe sends me is essential for my well-being. I have learned that if I don't want to have to learn that lesson again, I need to do three things: Eat it, digest it and eliminate it.

How Shame Makes Us Allergic to Receiving

John Amodeo, PhD | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
John Amodeo, PhD

Many of us grow up with deflating messages that something's wrong with us, we're not good enough, and we don't measure up. When the water we swim in is saturated with shame, we may not notice casual acts of caring or spontaneous expressions of love.

Do You See Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Elaina consulted with me because she felt filled with shame. A beautiful woman with a highly successful career, two children and a loving husband, Ela...

On Escaping The Shame Spiral

Jill Di Donato | Posted 06.21.2014 | Women
Jill Di Donato

It's no easy feat to admit to flaws, because that means they're real and we have to confront them. Accepting our mistakes or shortcomings -- choices that may not have served us well, unflattering ways others may perceive us, or subtle imperfections that gnaw away at us -- is uncomfortable in the short-term, but acknowledging them can ward off long-term problems.

Choosing Happiness Over Fear, and How One Family Turned Misfortune Into a Mitzvah!

Valerie Alexander | Posted 06.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

Is it too late to get your deposits back? Don't marry the wrong person. Throw a party instead, host a reunion, feed the hungry. Celebrate the awesome achievement of choosing happiness over fear! Let others manage their own reactions, and if they want to judge you, let 'em.

The Direct Path to Self-Awareness

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 05.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The hidden power of the shadow. "You can learn more about yourself in a week in a marriage than you can meditating for 10 years in a cave." -- Step...