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The 5 Top Family Secrets, Christmas and Your Teens

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 12.24.2014 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Parents keep a variety of secrets in an effort to protect their teens but it is my strong belief that teens are old enough and mature enough to hear the real family stories. And, perhaps telling family truths is yet another unwrapped gift that you can give your kids for Christmas.

To The Fit Woman At Marketplace Foods

Joey Schleicher | Posted 12.19.2014 | Women
Joey Schleicher

You told your friend it was nice to see someone like me buy vegetables "for a change." You know, because you have been shopping with me before to see what I buy. You also made the assumption that I do not care about my health.

Raising A Girl As A Survivor

Dawn Daum | Posted 12.17.2014 | Parents
Dawn Daum

If we don't speak up, who will? If we don't educate our children and our communities, who will? If we don't eradicate shame and be the strong women that we can only hope our daughters will someday be, than who will?

Why It Took Me Until My 50s To Feel OK About Masturbation

Erica Jagger | Posted 12.10.2014 | Fifty
Erica Jagger

I started masturbating when I was five. Before I fell asleep, I would lie in bed on my stomach, my yellow cloth doll between my legs. I'd grind on the head of the doll, fantasizing about a giant ice cream cone (really), until a mysterious, magical feeling radiated up and out from my core.

Emotional Eating, Perfectionism and Not Feeling Good Enough

Dr. Melissa McCreery | Posted 12.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Melissa McCreery

Food and emotional eating can fill a lot of gaps, holes, and crevices in our psyche. At least temporarily.

Moving Beyond Shame

Kaly McKenna | Posted 12.03.2014 | Women
Kaly McKenna

While the reasons for the shame are as diverse as the millions of women who suffer in this world, here are three reasons highlighting why it is so difficult for women to move beyond the shame.

Is There An Upside to Bullying or Exclusion?

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 12.01.2014 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

I learned to be empathic and to think about the impact of my behavior on others because of some of my less-than-positive experiences. I learned to look into the eyes of others when I was speaking to them to see what kind of reaction I was causing.

"Unfollowed" Into Happiness

Josh Sabarra | Posted 11.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Josh Sabarra

The decision to write an honest and candid memoir about "coming out" and living life authentically should be accompanied by a list of side effects similar to that of the antidepressant Lexapro: confusion, headaches and sleeping problems.

White Lies

Sandra Ramos O’Briant | Posted 11.24.2014 | Latino Voices
Sandra Ramos O’Briant

My brother and I accepted our mother's version of the affair that produced our sister with few questions, even though Lydia looks completely different from the rest of us. Mom is a long-legged Latina, but my brother and I take after our father. We're both tall blonds. Lydia is petite and cinnamon-coffee dark with tightly curled blue-black hair.

Shame, Shame Go Away

Kim 'Skipper' Corbin | Posted 11.18.2014 | Women
Kim 'Skipper' Corbin

And so I am writing a new ending when it comes to my relationship with my body. I choose to rock this statuesque physique from deep within. I choose to acknowledge my body as the incredible ally that it is, instead of using it as a container for my judgment and disdain.

Stop Making Cancer Patients Feel Guilty

Barbara Jacoby | Posted 11.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Barbara Jacoby

I don't know what caused my cancer, nor does anyone else, for that matter. I plan to enjoy the holidays and if I choose to have some extra cookies or whatever, so what

Burdened With Guilt Over Past Parenting Mistakes

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 11.12.2014 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

There is no way to undo the actions of your past. But if you do the work of mourning for what you and your children have lost, you will find yourself more available to fully enjoy the life you are living with your children now.

Here's Why Veterans Don't Talk About It

David W. Peters | Posted 11.10.2014 | Impact
David W. Peters

In my conversations with veterans I often hear from their family members that, "He just never talks about it." Stories connect people, and veterans' families and friends want that connection, but veterans still don't talk about it. Why?

Taking Off the Armor of My 'Choice'

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.22.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I fought really hard to be a mother. I paid lots of money to be a mother. I endured painful tests and procedures to be a mother. I put my body and my surrogate's through synthetic hormonal hell to be a mother. I put my faith and trust in many doctors and other humans to be a mother.

A Story of Pregnancy Loss

Kelly Fig Smith | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Kelly Fig Smith

Many of the feelings I experienced soon after our loss were expected: sadness, deep grief, anger. But what surprised me most, and what I wasn't prepared for was the shame -- the overwhelming feeling that I had failed in the way that mattered most, and that it could never be forgiven.

The 9 Most Overlooked Threats To A Marriage

Kelly M. Flanagan | Posted 12.13.2014 | Divorce
Kelly M. Flanagan

I feel bad for marital communication, because it gets blamed for everything. For generations, in survey after survey, couples have rated marital communication as the number one problem in marriage. It's not.

What to Say When Other New Parents Ask How It's Going

Tracy Cutchlow | Posted 12.09.2014 | Parents
Tracy Cutchlow

I remember trying to get the real scoop on parenting, good and bad, before I had a baby. "It's hard," new parents would say, and then quickly paper over that tiny admission. "But of course I wouldn't trade it for anything!" It sounded suspicious to me. But once I had a baby, I followed suit.

Secrets Suck

Maria Senise | Posted 12.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Maria Senise

Has anyone heard the song "Secrets" by Mary Lambert? Lyrically, it's one of my new favorites. Here are a few of the most poignant lines, the ones that...

Maybe Obesity Isn't the Problem

Kelly Coffey | Posted 12.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Kelly Coffey

In my case, obesity was a symptom, and not the problem itself. I wish someone had told me before I had gastric bypass surgery that my real issues were shame and addiction. Getting thin wasn't my solution -- it was what made me miserable enough to finally get well.

I Am Not Anonymous

Allison Hudson | Posted 11.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Allison Hudson

Addiction is wretched, but recovery is righteous. Recovery is possible. Recovery is living up to the spirit that is me. I can't imagine why I would I ever choose to keep that anonymous. It's who I am.

Your Bogeyman: Whether You Stalk Him or Face Him...Defeat Him

Michael Rohrer | Posted 11.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

I recently saw a production of Stalking the Bogeyman at New World Stages in NYC. The play tells the true story of David Holthouse: the rape he endured in 1978 as a 7-year old, and his plan, as an adult, to murder his rapist.

How I Found Opportunity In Sharing My Secret Disorder

Sandy Rosenblatt | Posted 11.25.2014 | Women
Sandy Rosenblatt

I was positive people wouldn't accept me if they knew I pulled out my hair. And I was even more positive that if they did find out, if they didn't judge me for pulling, they'd reject me for the fact that I didn't know why I was doing it, and that I wasn't able to stop myself.

Shame Is More Stressful Than Work

Don Joseph Goewey | Posted 11.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Don Joseph Goewey

Eventually, a shame-based mind represses its mistakes to avoid feeling bad, preventing the possibility of learning from a mistake, which only increases the likelihood of repeating the blunder. Thus, mistakes can't teach us anything. We become afraid to take risks, which limits our growth.

9/11... A Rude Awakening

David Kanegis | Posted 11.11.2014 | Fifty
David Kanegis

Prior to this heinous series of events, the historical question most often asked of Baby Boomers was, "do you remember where you were when President Kennedy was shot?" I don't know a single one of my contemporaries who doesn't.

My Coworker Shamed Me (And I Let Him)

Literally, Darling | Posted 11.04.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

I just don't care what people think. And usually I don't. But being repeatedly questioned, being made to feel like my life choices and my interests -- the ones that make me happy and content -- were wrong and somehow inadequate, was like a hard blow to the chest.