05/11/2012 05:09 pm ET

Eva Longoria Divorce: Star Opens Up About Split From Tony Parker

Eva Longoria is opening up about her split from Tony Parker and his alleged infidelity.

When questioned by Amanda de Cadenet about Parker's infidelity on "The Conversation With Amanda de Cadenet" Thursday, the 37-year-old actress responded: "I am so secure in who I am. I really am! And I'm not conceited. I just think, 'Wow, okay, that's the life you want to live.'"

"It wasn't about who he chose," Longoria continued. "I mean, I had moments [where I wondered], 'Am I not sexy enough? Am I not pretty enough? Am I not smart enough?' But in so many of those questions, I immediately stopped and said, 'No, don't start doing that.' Because you can get stuck in that cycle and you can carry on to other things."

Longoria, who split from Parker in November 2010 amid reports that Parker, a San Antonino Spurs point guard, had been "sexting" with a former teammate's wife, told de Cadenet that in confronting Parker, she tried to "provide a pillow for him to say and express 'the why'" -- an approach that she said ultimately paid off, US Weekly reported.

"People say, 'What grace!' And it wasn't that. I really wanted to know, and if you genuinely want to get something out of somebody, you have to not judge."

The "Desperate Housewives" star's divorce from the 29-year-old basketball player was finalized in January 2011. In April 2012, the actress talked about the end of the marriage -- and how she now feels about Parker -- in a "Good Morning America" interview: "I always said I hold onto the love and not the loss. I think the press also wanted me to hate him and villainize him. And I don't. And I didn't."

Watch the E! News video above to hear what else Longoria had to say about Parker on the "The Conversation." Then, click through the slideshow below to learn about her career history.

Eva Longoria Career Retrospective