06/05/2012 10:13 am ET

What Everyone's Missing In The Attachment Parenting Debate

If people understood the roots of this philosophy, they wouldn't be fixating on breastfeeding toddlers or family beds.

Earlier this month, TIME published a cover image of a young blond mother dressed in a tank top and skinny jeans, striking a defiant pose as her three-year-old son suckled at her breast. That photo is still being dissected in countless blog posts and coffee shop conversations. Some of the talk centers on the sheer strangeness of the image. (As Seth Meyers put it on SNL's Weekend Update, "Did the kid from Modern Family sexually assault his yoga instructor?") But for mothers of young children, the photo itself may be less disturbing than the cover line, which demands: "Are You Mom Enough?"