My father, Murray Span, turned 90 a few days ago.
We kept the celebration pleasant but low-key, as he requested: lunch at his independent living community with my sister and me, her son and his girlfriend. Flowers and balloons. A round of “Happy Birthday” from everyone in the dining room. And two cakes to pass around, one sugar-free for diabetics. My dad, a k a Mr. Rationality, opted for the sugar-free.