11/16/2012 10:20 am ET

Eight Essential Lessons On Co-Worker Flirting

When news of David Petraeus's love pentagon first broke, no one could buh-lieve that the former CIA director would bang someone he worked with, or that an Army general would be "flirtatious" on the job. But the truth is, lots of people do it. (Sleep with professional contacts, not jeopardize national security with their libidos.) Spending every day cooped up in an office with someone cute can lead to sparks, which can lead to cute e-mails, which can lead to lingering after-work drinks, and, well, you know.

While some of us (ahem) have never engaged in the fine art of workplace flirting, plenty of our friends have wooed, bedded, dated, and even married their current and former office-mates. (Exhibit A: In the past two months, I've been to two weddings involving couples who met at work.) We conducted an informal survey of six seasoned office-flirters, who offer the following lessons:

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