WOMEN
01/22/2013 11:42 am ET

A Co-Dependent's Guide On How To Go Places Alone

I am bad at doing things alone. Like, really bad. I’ve spent about a third of my life in relationships (sad, I know) and therefore have usually had a date to most things. And when I haven’t had a date, I’ve had friends to come with me, but in case you forgot, I moved and have very few friends so this is difficult at the moment. But on the bright side, it’s forcing me to learn how to go places alone, and that is a life skill everyone should develop (although I’m pretty sure everybody else developed it like a decade before me).

Over the past few weeks, I have gone most places on my own. Fortunately, I have an awesome housemate and a couple of new friends, so I haven’t just been wallowing away in my room feeling sorry for myself (though actually, I totally have done that for the past few days due to sickness) and whatnot. But with new friends, it’s easy to ask them to go out to a show or hang out at a bar or come to a party; it’s less easy to invite them to go shopping for skin cleansers or to the grocery store, as I used to do with my friends all the time (errands + bonding = productive fun!). And going to events that I doubt they’ll be interested in? I just feel silly and terrified of rejection, so I don’t ask and just go alone.

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