03/12/2013 01:14 pm ET

I Bang Fat Guys To Make Myself Feel Thinner

In general, sex is complicated when you have food and body image shiz to deal with. Developing healthy sexual relations is difficult enough as it is, before you throw on body shame, a desire to lose weight, or a fear of “being seen.”

In the greatest depths of my body issues, I refused to sleep with anyone who wasn’t at least somewhat overweight, or “thick,” or enormously tall (actually, no, tall wasn’t enough; they had to be super broad or have something to jiggle).

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