06/04/2013 10:55 am ET

Should I Really Befriend Someone Just Because She's Successful?

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It took me all weekend to figure out what did not sit right with me about Ann Friedman’s “Shine Theory” of female friendship, which ran in New York magazine on Friday. The much-applauded piece has a veneer of warm and inspirational. Friedman, who does seem like a lovely person, basically advocates for the end of schadenfreude in female relationships. If you meet a woman who is cooler, more successful, more effortlessly creative with her prints than you are, don’t hate on her—be her friend...

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