06/19/2013 11:26 am ET

This Is The Best I've Ever Looked And The Worst I've Ever Felt


"No one wants to hear a pretty girl complain..."

This phrase stuck with me since it had been harshly said to a friend of mine, Kim*, at a vulnerable moment. It unsettled and enraged me. She had been going through some very legitimate pain: a break-up, parents that were less than understanding, insecurities about not being good enough -- things anyone could relate to. Things that hardly mattered less because Kim was a model.

It wouldn't have bothered me so much if it felt like an isolated incident, perhaps uttered by someone with their own reasons for being so insensitive. Instead, it felt symptomatic of an attitude I've seen so often applied to women, if not as neatly summarized.

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