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06/26/2013 03:41 pm ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Matthew Shepard's Mom, Judy, Responds To DOMA Ruling: 'I Wish He'd Been Here To See It'

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Matthew Shepard's mom, Judy, wishes her son were alive to see Wednesday's Supreme Court ruling that struck down the anti-gay Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).

Just a few months before his death, her son said he didn't think same-sex marriage would ever be a possibility in the United States.

"There had been a [news] story about same-sex marriage and he was debating it with me," Judy Shepard told People magazine. "He asked me if I thought gay couples would ever be allowed to get married and he wasn't at all optimistic it would happen. He was in a mindset of, 'People are never going to accept us or understand us.'"

"I wish he'd been here to see it," she added. "This case warms my heart, to think that his dream is still coming true."

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Matthew Shepard was murdered in October 1998 in what would amount to be one of the most horrific anti-gay crimes the nation has seen. He was abducted by two men in Laramie, Wy., tied to a fence, beaten and left to die. He was 21 years old.

After her son's death, Judy Shepard and her husband, Dennis, founded the Matthew Shepard Foundation. The group was set up to commemorate him with the motto: “Replace Hate with Understanding, Compassion, & Acceptance." The mother has been an advocate for gay rights ever since.

Even after 15 years, Judy Shepard says her son's passing sometimes seems like it was just yesterday. She has made it her goal to prevent hate crimes from destroying other families. In 2009, President Barack Obama signed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act to help states more effectively fight hate crimes.

"When President Obama was elected we knew we had someone with the sensibilities to understand what this was really about," she told Katie Couric back in January. "Someone who was empathetic and sympathetic and knew it was the right thing to do."

On Wednesday, when the Supreme Court broke even more ground in the fight for equality, Obama applauded the justices for dismantling legislation that was simply "discrimination enshrined in law." And Judy Shepard rejoiced.

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06/26/2013 7:32 PM EDT

Catholic Archbishop: DOMA, Prop 8 Rulings 'Hurt Us All'

Some Catholic leaders are asking parishioners to consider the judgment of a higher power, not the nation's highest court.

Detroit Archbishop Allen H. Vigneron issued a statement criticizing the Supreme Court's decision in the DOMA and Prop 8 cases, saying that attempts to redefine marriage "hurt us all."

The well-being of our society, our nation, and our families is intimately linked to the institution of marriage. These decisions by the United States Supreme Court will make significantly more difficult our work of upholding the truth that marriage is a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman. Such decisions, made by any civic authority, do not serve the common good.

Catholics and millions of our fellow citizens will continue to make the case, respectfully yet vigorously, that marriage cannot be redefined, and that attempts to do so hurt us all.

Read more here.

06/26/2013 5:58 PM EDT

Stonewall Inn Crowd Celebrates DOMA, Vows To Keep Fighting

The Huffington Post's Lila Shapiro reports:

NEW YORK -- On Wednesday, the Stonewall Inn opened earlier than usual. At 10 a.m., the day the U.S. Supreme Court handed the gay rights movement a landmark victory, the historic bar was dimly lit, strung with rainbow flags, and filled with revelers toasting each other and pledging their determination to keep fighting.

Read the whole post here.

06/26/2013 4:16 PM EDT

Washington National Cathedral Rings Bells Celebrating Gay Marriage Rulings

The Washington National Cathedral rang bells at noon today to celebrate the Supreme Court rulings on the Defense Of Marriage Act and Prop 8.

Rev. Gary Hall, Dean of the Cathedral, released a statement soon after the rulings were announced:

“We are ringing our bells at the Cathedral to celebrate the extension of federal marriage equality to all the same-sex couples modeling God’s love in lifelong covenants," he said. "Our prayers for continued happiness are with them and with all couples who will be joined in matrimony in the years to come, whether at Washington National Cathedral or elsewhere."

Click here to hear the bells.

06/26/2013 4:12 PM EDT

Matthew Shepard's Mom Responds To DOMA Ruling

Matthew Shepard's mom, Judy, said she wished her son had lived to see Wednesday's Supreme Court ruling striking down DOMA.

"I wish he'd been here to see it," she said. "This case warms my heart, to think that his dream is still coming true."

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06/26/2013 3:45 PM EDT

Marriage Equality Supporters Pictured Reacting To SCOTUS Rulings From Stonewall Inn

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06/26/2013 3:31 PM EDT

Celebrating From Stonewall Inn, Iconic Location Credited For The Start Of The LGBT Movement

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06/26/2013 3:20 PM EDT

Couple Kiss, Celebrate SCOTUS Decisions While Holding Their Soon-To-Be Adopted Children

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06/26/2013 3:09 PM EDT

DOMA Decision Helps LGBT Couples On Immigration

HuffPost's Elise Foley reports:

Judy Rickard, who is 65, and Karin Bogliolo, who is 72, have been together for eight years, legal domestic partners for five and legally married for two. They're one of an estimated 28,500 binational same-sex couples who have been excluded from immigration benefits because of DOMA, which disallowed the federal government from recognizing their marriages. The ruling doesn't entirely fix the problem -- couples must be married rather than partners, and must travel to a state that allows same-sex marriage if they don't live in one -- but it's still a major victory for LGBT rights.

Read more about Rickard and Bogliolo and more couples helped by the DOMA decision here.

06/26/2013 3:07 PM EDT

Food Network Host Announces Engagement To Partner Of 20 Years

Ted Allen, host of the hit Food Network show "Chopped" and his partner of 20 years, interior designer Barry Rice, were "over the moon" when they read on Wednesday morning that the court had ruled the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional.

Their day had come. They were getting married. Allen quickly announced their engagement on Twitter and Facebook. He said that the notices garnered the most enthusiastic response of any he'd ever posted; his Facebook status received 417 comments in the first 40 minutes.

Fellow food competition host Tom Colicchio sent his enthusiastic congratulations to the couple via Twitter.

Allen said that he and Rice would soon begin preparing for their wedding, likely a quiet affair in New York, but for now they're content to revel in the good news.

"I don't think that by any means our movement is finished, that our work is done, but this was an enormous hurdle," he said. "DOMA has been Chopped, sir."

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06/26/2013 3:01 PM EDT

'Make Them Hear You'

The Gay Men's Chorus of Washington gathered outside the Supreme Court Tuesday, singing "Make Them Hear You" after the Supreme Court rulings. Watch a video of the performance below:

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