09/18/2013 06:12 pm ET Updated Sep 19, 2013

Sexless Marriage? Here's How To Keep The Spark Alive (VIDEO)

Are you in a sexless marriage?

Registered nurse and author Mary Jo Fay stopped by HuffPost Live on Tuesday to talk about what couples can do to reignite the spark.

Fay -- who wrote the book Please Dear, Not Tonight: The Truth About Women and Sex -- told host Nancy Redd about the importance of teaching women (and their partners) about what gets them going.

"Women mostly don't have any idea about their own bodies," she said. "So if they don't know how to take care of themselves and then they don't know how to share what they want with their partner, then things go bad. And if things go bad too many times, the old headache starts coming around and that pattern just becomes a constant and you don't get it fixed."

Fay also emphasized that much of what she teaches couples is surprisingly basic (but little-known) information about the female sexuality.

"I really work with people on understanding basic things. They're all like, 'Oh, is this tantra? Is this all this other stuff?'" she said. "And I'm like, 'No, it's basic, basic stuff that we don't talk about.' ... G-spot, where is it? I can show you how to find it. People aren't sure they have it. Basic stuff that really lights up a marriage. And if you're getting satisfaction, you're likely to come back for more."

Watch the video for more advice on how to jumpstart a sexless marriage. Then, click through the slideshow below to learn about 9 health benefits of orgasms.

5 Health Benefits Of Orgasms

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