09/20/2013 09:26 am ET

Deepak Chopra On How To Attract The Right Person (VIDEO)

Spiritual teacher and author Deepak Chopra is taking his words of wisdom to the streets of Manhattan in a new special on OWN, "Help Desk." In the clip above, he helps a woman named Lorena understand why she has trouble attracting the right person.

"I'm here today because I'm two and a half years sober, and I have started to notice that I have a pattern with my relationships -- romantic relationships," Lorena says in the video.

"I choose emotionally unavailable men, and it's a result of not having a relationship with my father, and I haven't spoken to him in six years," she says. "Can I stop this pattern?"

"So all of those three things are connected," Chopra tells Lorena. "Your addiction was actually an escape from the fear of abandonment, and your dysfunctional relationships are also as a result of that fear of abandonment."

Chopra tells Lorena to visualize a relationship with someone in her mind. "It could be somebody you know," he says. "It could be somebody you don’t know. Make him up."

He says to look that person in the eyes and say, "'I love myself exactly as I am. I'm a beautiful person. I'm a lovely person. I love myself exactly as I am,'" he says. "Reinforce that. Look that person right in the eye and see the look of recognition in their eyes.

"Do this -- you'll attract the right person," Chopra says.

Two special half-hour episodes of "Help Desk" will air Sunday, September 22 at 12 p.m. ET following "Super Soul Sunday" on OWN.



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