11/22/2013 05:52 pm ET

Would You Marry Your Ex If You Knew The Marriage Would End?

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Marriage is a beautiful, life-altering experience -- one that we all hope will last a lifetime. But for the divorced among us, watching your marriage unravel can cause you to question if saying "I do" really was the right thing to do in the first place.

On Thursday night, we asked HuffPost Divorce readers if they'd ever given some thought to a marriage do-over with their ex. Would you marry your ex-wife or ex-husband again if you could go back in time, we asked, or would you walk away?

Their responses ranged from poignant -- "in a heartbeat," one said -- to the straight-talking (one man's answer? "I wouldn't even talk to my ex, let alone ask her on a date").

Scroll down to see what they had to say, then head to the comments and let us know if you'd marry your ex if you could do it all over again.

- I absolutely would. We have four wonderful children. The kids, now adults, are doing well, and he and I have a very respectful regard for each other. We both learned a lot from each other, I believe. He played an immeasurably important role in my life.

- Yes. I learned a lot from our marriage and there are a lot of things I'd do differently if I had a second chance.

- No. I wouldn't marry him -- or anyone else, for that matter. I would tell myself it's better to be alone in life and to make sure your future is set up the way you want it.

- Without my first husband I would not have my amazing daughters or the valuable lessons I learned from being married to him. I am where I am today because of all the choices and decisions I've made in the past; one of those decisions was to marry my first husband, another was to divorce him.

- I would. Who I married isn't who I divorced.

- In a heartbeat. Otherwise I wouldn't have my amazing kids.

- Not a chance. I was naive young girl then who just wanted to be married. I never should have married him and if I were to do it again, there's no way I would have stayed in the marriage for 15 years.

- Definitely. I loved the first half of the marriage and the children that we made.

- I would raise our baby alone instead of deciding to live with or marry my ex. The marriage was the misstep, not the child.

- No. In fact, I wouldn't even talk to her let alone ask her out.

- Yes, of course. I wouldn't be the person I am today without him.

- If I didn't marry my ex-wife, I wouldn't have my favorite person in the world: my daughter. So yes, I would do it all over again.

- No. I cannot even begin to imagine how different my life would be if I had said no to marrying my ex. The way I see it, I didn't have to marry him to have the children I raised and love dearly today.

- Even knowing how it would end? Yes.

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